Come Together with Erin + Abe Lichy

Special Edition: We're recording this one from Baha Mar, which sounds glamorous until you factor in four kids, an early flight, a sleepover the night before, and a baby who definitely didn't nap enough. We talk about the wellness industrial complex and why all the cold plunges and sleep scores might actually be making you more stressed, not less. Then we get into what's actually worked — cooking a...

We've been thinking a lot about what it actually means to raise a daughter — and this week we go there. Erin gets into how her relationship with her dad shaped everything: her confidence, her career, the reason no man has ever made her feel small. Abe gets into the pressure of getting it right with Layla, and why making her feel safe being herself is the whole job. We also get into the patriarchy,...

Gabriella Pomari is a divorce lawyer from Australia who got so tired of watching families break from the process that she built an entire platform to help couples before they ever need her. We loved her. We get into the patterns she sees over and over — silent quitting, the invisible load, what it actually means when you stop wanting to share your news with your partner first. She breaks down her...

You asked, I answered — and nothing was off limits. We get into why you haven't seen the new house yet (it's coming, I promise), the insecurities I actually have even if I seem confident, and yes, the full breakdown on the breast surgery — what I got, who I'd recommend researching, and the things nobody tells you until after. We also talk postpartum timelines, intuitive eating, the workout routine...

This week we chat with Amy Chan, a relationship expert and author of the new book, "Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts." We get into the highs and lows of modern dating, how to differentiate between chemistry and an activated nervous system, and why people are preferring IRL experiences over dating apps. Amy also explains the phenomenon of "over-icking" and how women will ref...

We get a lot of questions about parenting, and honestly, it makes sense. Raising kids in 2026 is totally different from how it was for our parents!  We talk all things kids and tech, including when we do--and don't--allow screens in our kids' lives. We also talk about internet safety, and how Abe accidentally freaked our kids out about posting anything about themselves online. (Honestly? It's...

As you get older and "life starts life-ing," you might notice your friendships starting to change. And that's what we dive into this week: times when we've grown in a different direction than our friends, how we started getting more selective about our inner circle, and how we've let go of the guilt that can come with changing friendships in adulthood. We also talk about clingy friends Abe had whe...

Everyone wants to know how to keep things spicy... and pretending there one at all might actually be the problem. This week we get into what's worked for us — the '1-10 Rule' that that has genuinely saved us from so many stupid fights, why a little distance and independent interests can do more for attraction than any date night, and the story of how Erin told Abe to quit corporate law. (Spoiler:...

We thought Levi was doing face yoga. Actually? He was looks-maxing. And turns out he's not the only one. We found out there's a whole subculture here — soft maxing, hard maxing, bone smashing, clip farms, and a guy named Clavicular who ODed on a live stream. We had to look up half of these words in real time. Abe knew more than he should... like usual. We get into the bigger generational conversat...

We have loooooots to catch up on. Being married in public is its own thing entirely, and this week we're getting into all of it. We go there on the Summer House drama and the Taylor Frankie Paul situation, and we have thoughts. A lot of them. What happens when you do something very high school while the whole internet is watching, why people feel entitled to your everything once you're a public pe...

Lindsey Metselaar has been in our lives since before she had a following, a husband, or a sleep schedule. Now she has all three, plus a 2.5-month-old. We reminisce about our extremely unproductive work era together, and then somehow spend the next hour covering postpartum bodies, C-sections, cosmetic work, the filler rabbit hole, sobriety, and why today's weed is genuinely not the same conversatio...

We’re officially making sex a recurring topic because clearly, no one’s saying what’s actually happening. We get into the so-called “sex recession,” why Gen Z might be having less sex than anyone expected, and how phones, gaming, and living at home are quietly changing the whole dynamic. Then it turns into a very real debate about one-night stands, sleepover etiquette (or lack thereof), and what a...

We get into Love Story , the JFK Jr. casting (including the lisp debate), and why the whole thing feels like peak ’90s New York. From there, it turns into a bigger convo about dating before phones, why relationships feel harder now, and the myth of the forever honeymoon phase. We also talk about how social media has completely warped expectations — and why reality TV might actually be the most hon...

This week we sit down with Vienna Pharon – couples therapist, boundary queen, and someone who will lovingly call you out (spoiler: she definitely did for us). We talk about how the stories we tell ourselves about childhood (“it didn’t affect me”) usually… did, and how those early dynamics show up in our marriages, our nervous systems, and the way we fight. Vienna breaks down her five “origin wound...

This week we sit down with Captain Jason — yes, that Captain Jason — and talk about what life actually looks like off the yacht. From filming six weeks straight on Below Deck (with basically no sleep) to building a villa in Bali, launching a gender-neutral fragrance, and structuring his entire career around being present for his daughter, there’s a lot more depth than the slow-mo beach shots sugge...

Season two, baby. In this episode, we kick off the new season by looking back at what we learned from season one — and then get into what everyone actually wants to talk about: how to make a relationship last. We break down “the spark,” why it’s overrated if you don’t build something underneath it, how to fight without blowing everything up, and what spontaneity really looks like once you have kid...

This week, we cover a very glamorous mix of topics: Erin's back injury, why Dry January is a scam (sorry), and the rise of Analog January —aka putting your phone down and remembering how to be a person. We talk about the chokehold screens have on adults and kids, what parenting looks like in a world of Roblox and endless content, and why boredom might actually be a good thing. Get More Erin + Abe...

This week, Abe sits down with Max Cohen, better known as Murray Hill Boy . Max talks about walking away from a legal career at 25, accidentally finding success on TikTok, and why growing up Jewish in New York gave him endless material. They get into what it’s actually like to build a following online, the not-so-fun parts of visibility, and being a gay guy in mostly straight friend circles without...

This week, we sit down with Rachel and Jordan — entrepreneur parents, investors, and the brains behind of your kids’ favorite snacks – cadootz! . We talk about what it’s really like to build multiple businesses while raising a family, feeding kids real food, and working together without losing your minds (or your marriage). They share how their insistence on real ingredients shaped their brands, w...

This week, Abe sits down with Jade Shanker from Netflix’s Owning Manhattan for a real, behind-the-scenes conversation. Jade opens up about breaking into NYC real estate, what it was really like being cast on the show, and the competitive dynamics inside the office once the cameras were rolling. She also gets personal about navigating a separation in the public eye, handling scrutiny, and finding h...

This week, Erin's answering all your questions — nothing off limits. She gets into her favorite furniture and home décor sources (and why she's constantly designing my own pieces), baby essentials she actually uses, and the renovation chaos currently happening in the Lichy house. I also cover BravoCon, Australia plans, beauty routines, pregnancy cravings, and what it’s really like having cameras i...

This week, Abe teams up with fellow Househusband John Barlow to shake things up behind the bar. Between laughs, they talk reality TV fame, business hustle, and what really goes down when cameras stop rolling. The convo naturally drifts into the spirits world — from agave aging to distribution headaches — before wrapping with some solid advice on staying grounded, supportive, and (mostly) sober thr...

This week, Abe's chatting with Dr. Amanda Kahn — the longevity queen who basically makes aging feel… optional. We get into why longevity is the new luxury, what’s actually happening at the cellular level, and how things like NAD, peptides, and hormones can make a real difference. We also talk stress, pollution, diet, and why waiting until something’s wrong to deal with your health is the worst str...

This week, we’re talking about the glow-up that comes after your twenties—the new wave of people in their 30s, 40s, and 50s getting into the best shape of their lives. We dig into how the conversation around health and fitness has evolved, and of course, debate the age-old question: is it really about diet, or is it all in the workout? Later, we switch gears with a Vogue-style rapid-fire round whe...

This week, we’re talking about the new rules of love — because apparently, having a boyfriend is now uncool . Inspired by a recent Vogue piece, we get into how younger generations are redefining relationships, independence, and what “commitment” even means anymore. We also touch on the weird rise of AI romance (yes, people are actually dating chatbots) and what that says about connection in the di...