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IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: the actual difference between standards and expectations (and why you're only in control of one of them) why saying no feels like committing a crime, according to over a decade of cornell research why autonomy is a basic psychological need, not just main character energy what "non-promotable tasks" are and why staying quiet about your work is quietl...

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: Why work happy hours and team events feel like a test nobody explained the rules for The real formula behind magnetic people at work: warmth plus competence, not one or the other Why admitting "I've never done this before" builds more trust than trying to look like you have it together The difference between empathy and empathy-plus-advice, and why...

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: Why a missed Teams message can send your brain into a full five-alarm spiral — and why that reaction makes more sense than it feels like What catastrophizing actually is, and why it hits early-career workers harder than almost anyone else The real reason your brain treats a non-mistake like a five-star emergency (hint: it's not about willpower) Why the spotli...

Stalking an ex and stalking your career rival trigger the exact same loop in your brain. This week I get into why, using my own internship ending without an offer as the case study, and what actually helps when comparison starts running the show. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why stalking an ex and stalking your career competition trigger the exact same comparison spiral What ambiguous loss i...

Hazel Ann Felder shares her personal journey through the transition from university to the workforce, offering insights on identity, adulting, and navigating career changes. This episode provides practical tips and psychological insights to help recent graduates and young professionals thrive during major life transitions. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: The emotional experience of transitionin...

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: Why being competent at something doesn't mean it's the right fit for you What occupational regret actually is — and the early signs you might be heading toward it How to identify your career anchor using Schein's framework (the four most relevant to your 20s) Why your major is a signal, not a sentence — and what actually determines career trajectory H...

You think you're making your own decisions. You're not — at least not entirely. Influence is happening all around us, all the time. In the campaigns you scroll past. In the defaults you never question. In the room you walk into and the way you introduce yourself. And if you're not aware of it, you're being shaped by it without even knowing. This week, I'm joined by Dr. Gillian...

EP. 40 – Reframing Luck: How Hard Work and Mindset Shape Success  Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Solo Episode have you ever looked at someone else's success and thought… wow, they just got lucky? what if luck is not something that happens to you — but something you actually build? in this episode, i am getting into the psychology behind luck, success, and why the most 'fortunate'...

You hit the goal. You made the move. You got the thing — and then the overwhelm hit harder than the excitement.  If that's where you are right now, this episode is your map. In this episode, Hazel Ann breaks down the emotional cycle of change: a five-stage framework that explains why ambition and anxiety aren't opposites — and why feeling like you're falling apart might actually mean y...

You've been told to get clear, then get consistent. But what if it works the other way around? This week, Erica Somer — marketer, co-founder of HOM, photographer, DJ, and aspiring author — joins Hazel Ann to unpack what it actually means to build momentum before you have a destination. If you're sitting on six passions and zero direction, this one's for you. Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly B...

EP 37 – Is loving your work the same as losing yourself? Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Solo Episode You've been told Gen Z is lazy. Quiet quitting. Bare minimum Mondays. Disengaged. But what if I told you that Gen Z cares so much, so deeply, about the right work, that they have actually started to lose track of where the work ends and you begin? This episode is about that line. The one...

Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Solo Episode You picked your major at 18. You chose your campus, made your plans, showed up. And somewhere between freshers' week and graduation, you became a completely different person. In this episode, I'm closing my university chapter — and being honest about everything I wish I'd known sooner. The risks I should have taken earlier. The rooms I...

You were taught that a good team is a harmonious one. Nobody fights. Nobody pushes back. Everyone gets along. That's not collaboration. That's avoidance — and it's quietly killing your growth. In this episode, Hazel Ann unpacks why conflict isn't the enemy of strong teams — it's the evidence that people actually care. From the real cost of pandemic-era soft skill gaps to the ps...

Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Guest Episode You've been told to pick one thing. One passion. One path. One version of yourself that makes sense to everyone else. But what if the confusion isn't the problem — what if it's the data? In this episode, Hazel Ann sits down with Ashleigh — PR professional turned freelance journalist, community builder, and someone who figured out that...

Episode 33 | Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Guest Episode In this episode, Hazel Ann chats with Ashley Spiliapulu about breaking away from traditional career trajectories, embracing multiple interests, and cultivating confidence to advocate for oneself. This conversation is packed with actionable insights for ambitious individuals navigating a chaotic career landscape.  IN THIS EPISODE, YOU&...

Episode 32 Host : Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Solo Episode Most people think leadership means having all the answers, commanding the room, or projecting total confidence. This episode is about what leadership actually is — and why that myth might be what's keeping you from stepping into it. In this episode, Hazel Ann breaks down the real science of influence, why hyper-awareness is a cognit...

How to Build Habits and Routines That Actually Stick When You're in Your 20s and Figuring It All Out Host : Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming  If you've ever started the week with a clear plan and ended it wondering what happened, this episode is for you.  Hazel Ann breaks down why motivation alone is a trap, and what the science actually says about how high-performing people stay consistent wh...

Epiosde 30 — Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming "Rejection drops your IQ by 25%. So why are we winging every hard conversation?" SUMMARY In this episode, host Hazel Ann dives deep into the invisible forces that sabotage our everyday conversations — and what to do about them. The host, Hazel Ann, breaks down the neuroscience and psychology behind why we talk past each other, why emotional...

You're waiting to feel ready. Waiting to feel confident. Waiting for the job, the title, the moment someone finally tells you that you belong — and then you'll show up fully. But what if that's exactly why you're stuck? SUMMARY Host : Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming  (episode 29)  In this episode of Her Career, Her Way, host Hazel Ann dismantles one of the most common traps ambitious...

Episode 28 Host : Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming  Your degree didn't prepare you for this. Neither did your internship. But this episode might. One third global recruiters are already screening for AI literacy — and that number is climbing. If you're in your 20s wondering whether your career is going to survive the next five years, this episode isn't here to panic you. It's here to g...

SUMMARY Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming In this episode, Hazel unpacks the real reason you can't commit to a job, obsess over emails for hours, or feel paralyzed by career decisions — and no, it's not indecision. It's your attachment style. Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 27 explores how the same psychological patterns that shape your relationsh...

Ever looked at your resume and thought: “I’ve worked hard… so why doesn’t this sound impressive?” This episode is for anyone in their 20s who feels underqualified, overlooked, or unsure how their experience actually translates into career growth. SUMMARY Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming In this episode of Clearly Becoming, the host, Hazel Ann breaks down one of the biggest career myths holding a...

If interviews make you overthink, freeze, or feel like your entire future is being judged in 30 minutes, then this episode is for you. SUMMARY Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming | Her Career Her Way This episode is part of the Career Upskilling Series — where we build the skills that actually move your career forward. In this episode, Hazel Ann breaks down why interviews feel so overwhelming in yo...

How many times have you actually chosen your next career move — or have you just been reacting? SUMMARY In this episode of Her Career, Her Way , host Hazel Ann breaks down why proactivity is one of the most underrated career skills , especially for ambitious individuals navigating their 20s. Many young professionals feel constantly busy — applying to jobs, preparing for interviews, responding to e...

Host : Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her Way If your mood rises and falls with emails, interviews, or job titles — this episode is for you. Detachment isn’t about caring less. It’s about learning how to regulate your nervous system, stop overthinking, and make clearer career decisions without burning out. SUMMARY In this episode of Her Career, Her Way, Hazel Ann explores why so many ambitious people in...