Bold Beautiful Borderline

Hi ya'll! Over the next few days there will be mini episodes covering individual topics for the podcast. And then a final, mini episode as a bonus over on Patreon. Today we talk about how asking someone to go to therapy, or wishing that they will, without the right supports in place can be more harmful than helpful. And radical acceptance is the only way to cope with that, I believe, unfortun...

Hi ya'll! Over the next few days there will be mini episodes covering individual topics for the podcast. And then a final, mini episode as a bonus over on Patreon. Today we talk a bit more about masking and how being borderline can result in other people's discomfort.  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Instagram @borderl...

As promised I had to talk more about shame. In today's episode Dr. Kiki Fehling brings the DBT perspective to what causes shame, shame vs. guilt, and how we cope with shame. (Can you say opposite action???) Watch the episode here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qynq1T36Lp0 Kiki is a licensed psychologist, author, speaker, and Linehan-Board-certified expert therapist in Dialectical Behavior T...

We didn't get nearly as far into the questions as I wanted to because #borderline and the damn irritation it causes. But this was really fun for us and I'm looking forward to doing a part 2 of reviewing the questions ya'll have for us about relationships with one person having BPD.  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on...

Today I talk about how shame feels like it's chewing me up and spitting me out. I talk about the components of a fear-based environment (or childhood) and how that results in chronic shame. And finally, I share your experiences with shame.  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the...

Rachel joins the podcast today to talk about her journey with treatments that didn't work and ultimately her journey with a treatment not commonly used that has worked very well for her, ECT or Electroconvulsive Therapy.   Rachel's story is unique and I'm grateful she joined the pod to share it!  Rachel is raising funds for a wildlife rehabilitation non-profit - please consider dona...

Today Paul gives us updates on his start in therapy a few years after his original time on the podcast! Thank you Paul for once again sharing your story and congratulations on the next steps you've made towards recovery. We love you!  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podca...

We all need a bit of safety and comfort right now. I find nature really comforting but I'm not always able to go there. Today I'm sending you a bonus guided meditation. A walk through the forest for feeling safe.  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbe...

In today's episode I speak with Yosi Amram. Yosi is a licensed clinical psychologist, a CEO leadership coach, an author, and a pioneering researcher in the field of Spiritual Intelligence. We talk what is spiritual intelligence, how it  positively benefits mental health and his own experience managing mental health through the use of spiritual intelligence.   Yosi received his B.S. and M.S in...

On today's episode Dr. Michelle Sherman joins us on the podcast to talk my most favorite tear-jerking topic, parenting when you're mentally ill as well as how to support family members who are mentally ill/being the family member of someone who is mentally ill.  Michelle (she/her) is a clinical psychologist who has dedicated her 30+ year career to supporting families dealing with a menta...

Christina returns to the podcast to tell us her experience with a recent move, relapse, new relationships, no-contact updates. Really just all the things in her world. We get down on them all. Thank you, Christina, for sharing your BPD story with the world.  YOUTUBE:  WATCH THIS EPISODE HERE Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Insta...

So with the recent defunding proposition of LGBTQ crisis lines how we do community work around suicide prevention is essential. It's always been essential but even more now than ever. Here's 50 reasons to stay alive - listen anytime you need it. And buy a laminated card to carry around and remind you. 100% of proceeds go to LGBTQ crisis line(s). Example: Trevor Project  BUY HERE Send us...

There's three different types of perfectionism - who knew? In this episode we get into specific examples of mine and Talon's perfectionism and how it hurts us, holds us back, and steals our joy.  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderline...

The term Highly Sensitive Person was recently referenced in a DBT training I was attending and I thought "I've really gotta read about this" to myself. In today's episode I give a brief overview of what an HSP is, the differences and similarities between BPD and HSPs and what I think about the quiz when taking it for myself. Don't forget a bonus podcast episode went live t...

In this bonus episode, Talon and I dive into the often-overlooked struggles people with disabilities face when navigating the service industry of any kind. In this example, it's an accountant. She fired me, but I fired her first. It was a tough morning but we are finding the humor and steps forward in it.  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You ca...

Laura was on the podcast last year talking about their BPD experience and we thought maybe they had ADHD and did the ADHD Self-Reporting Tool. Fast forward a year and they have a diagnosis, take medication and report "I don't hate myself like I used to!".  A beautiful full circle. Thanks for the updates, Laura!  Listen to Laura's past episode here!   Send us a text message to b...

What is masking?  Masking is when someone hides or suppresses their true emotions, behaviors, or traits—usually to fit in socially, avoid judgment, or feel safer in a particular environment. It’s especially common among people with neurodivergent experiences (like autism, ADHD, or anxiety), but anyone can do it and those of us with BPD certainly do.  This episode was accidental and came organicall...

A BPD classic struggle is to love the potential you see in them or who you want them to be and forgetting to see who they are. I've done this with dozens of people: friends, family, partners, even co-workers. I struggle to meet people where they're at and instead dream about how I can make them fit into my world the way I want because maybe then I'll be worthy of love?  It never wor...

"No contact" has been a term popping up over the last few years in the social media world. It sounds pretty: "I'm not contact". But it's often devastating and wonderful all at once. It's messy. In today's episode I talk about what family estrangement is, some reasons why it can happen, and YOUR thoughts on going no contact.  Send us a text message to be anon...

Hattie lives with Autism and BPD and has been married to her FP for over 20 years, has several queer children, and is an advocate for always growing, reading, learning, writing, and learning about who you are. She was raised in a strict religious environment that did not encourage her to unlearn the ways that religion could be hurtful instead of helpful. I've really admired her application of...

This episode explores the harmful impact of stigma surrounding psychotropic medication , how it prevents people from seeking necessary care, and why shifting the conversation is essential for mental health advocacy. As a society we HAVE to promote a more compassionate, informed approach to medication as a tool for healing—not a sign of weakness. PEER-REVIEWED RESEARCH Societal stigma on medication...

Today Andy, a longtime friend of my husband, joins the podcast. Andy talks with us about his work professionally in peer support, his lived experience with Bipolar Disorder including institutionalization as a minor, and his upcoming top surgery. Thank you, Andy, for sharing your story on the podcast!  If you want to watch the episode, here ya go!  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and...

Nicole founded a BPD resource hub non-profit called Press Pause,  Inc.( www.showmegrace.org ). She joins us today to talk about her experience being black, West Indian, and a single mom, who lives with BPD and a variety of autoimmune conditions. And against all odds, including waking up from a coma, becomes a college graduate 3 times over, a business owner, a non-profit founder, and a career and l...

What is gaslighting? This is a word I've been thinking a lot about lately with the current political climate. Talon and I get into it - what it is, how it works, and how to take care of yourself with what's been happening lately.  PS - this episode IS ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/Vw9Sb9MpfZM   Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find S...

Nicole founded a BPD resource hub non-profit called Press Pause,  Inc.( www.showmegrace.org ). She joins us today to talk about her experience being black, West Indian, and a single mom, who lives with BPD and a variety of autoimmune conditions. And against all odds, including waking up from a coma, becomes a college graduate 3 times over, a business owner, a non-profit founder, and a career and l...