Black Coochie

In Episode 8 of Season 3, Ebony and Lacette explore the powerful influence of family relationships on personal growth and sexuality. They discuss how childhood dynamics, family expectations, and generational patterns shape adult relationships. The conversation touches on setting boundaries, redefining family roles, and embracing chosen family as a form of healing and liberation. The hosts offer pr...

In Episode 7 of Season 3, Ebony and Lacette tackle the emotional terrain of heartbreak and healing. They share personal experiences of grief, letting go, and rebuilding after the end of relationships. The conversation highlights the importance of feeling your emotions without judgment, recognizing unhealthy coping mechanisms, and cultivating healthier strategies for moving forward. The hosts remin...

In Episode 6 of Season 3, Ebony and Lacette dive into the world of situationships—casual and non-traditional relationships that don’t follow the typical relationship escalator. They discuss how clarity, communication, and setting boundaries are key to navigating situationships without losing yourself. They also explore the benefits of emotional and sexual freedom, the importance of self-awareness,...

In Episode 5 of Season 3, Lacette and Ebony explore the complexities of liberating partnerships—relationships where both partners can show up authentically and experience mutual growth, intimacy, and honesty. They break down what it means to create partnerships rooted in radical honesty, respect, and trust, while acknowledging the challenges that come with navigating trauma, ego, and societal expe...

In Episode 4 , Lacette and Ebony celebrate the power of liberating friendships—those authentic, intentional connections that nurture growth, support, and mutual care. The conversation unpacks what it means to cultivate friendships that honor your true self and elevate your journey toward healing and freedom. Through personal stories and practical insights, the hosts discuss overcoming common barri...

In Episode 3, Ebony and Lacette explore the multifaceted experience of singleness as Black women over 40. They dive into what it means to be single—from self-love and contentment to navigating dating apps and intentional connections—while challenging societal expectations that dictate partnership as the only path to happiness. With candid reflections on the freedom and opportunities found in solit...

In episode 2 of season 3, Lacette and Ebony zero in on the knowledge, skills, abilities, and tools (KSAT) that form the backbone of liberated relationships. They break down how understanding trauma, systemic oppression, and our own emotional patterns can help us show up authentically. Listeners learn why strong communication, conflict resolution, and emotional intelligence are vital “mad skills,”...

In the Season 3 premiere of the Black Coochie Podcast, hosts Ebony and Lacette dive deep into what it means to cultivate liberated relationships . They explore how freedom, choice, and authenticity guide us in building connections that honor our sexual and spiritual identities as Black women. Reflecting on personal inspirations—like bell hooks and Alice Walker—they unpack the difference between re...

In the Season 2 finale of the Black Coochie Podcast, hosts Ebony and Lacette take a reflective journey through the powerful conversations of the past nine episodes, recapping key discussions on building a healthy sex life, understanding sexual identity, expressing sexual desire, making aligned decisions, and communicating with partners. The episode highlights recurring themes of self-awareness, th...

In Episode 9 of the Black Coochie Podcast, hosts Ebony and Lacette dive into the world of "Sexual Accouterments," exploring the accessories and tools that can elevate your sexual experiences to new heights. They break down what sexual accouterments really mean, from solo play essentials from vibrators to partner play with swings, feathers, and more. The conversation touches on how to set...

In Episode 8 of the Black Coochie Podcast, hosts Ebony and Lacette tackle the crucial topic of "Sexual Safety." They explore what it means to protect your body, mind, and emotions in sexual experiences, offering insights into how to establish boundaries, communicate openly, and maintain an ethic of care in intimate connections. The episode covers the importance of consent, directness, an...

In Episode 7, we continue our enlightening conversation with Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah, diving deeper into the concept of "Building a Healthy Sex Life." Nana shares her personal definition of sexual health and how it intersects with healing, wholeness, and freedom—key themes that resonate throughout her work and our podcast. We also explore practical tools, resources, and pivotal moments tha...

In Episode 6 of the Black Coochie Podcast, we’re thrilled to be joined by Ghanaian feminist writer and blogger Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah. As the co-founder of the award-winning blog "Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women" and author of the widely celebrated book The Sex Lives of African Women , Nana shares her journey into the world of storytelling and activism. Together, we dive int...

Welcome back to the Black Coochie Podcast! In Episode 5, Lacette and Ebony embark on a journey of sexual communication. From self-awareness to empathy, we explore the essential elements of fostering open and honest dialogue about our desires and boundaries as Black women. Join us as we uncover the conditions that promote high-quality communication and share practical tools for improving communicat...

In Episode 4, Ebony and Lacette dive into the realm of sexual decision-making. From discernment to alignment, we dissect the complexities of making choices that honor our true selves as Black women. Join us as we explore the liberatory work involved in unlearning societal expectations and navigating personal boundaries. We empower listeners to make decisions that align with their values and lead t...

Welcome back to the Black Coochie Podcast! In Episode 3, Lacette and Ebony explore the flames of sexual desire and its multifaceted nature. They embark on a journey to understand and celebrate our desires as Black women. From arousal to exploration, they define sexual desire in six words and examine its origins and influences. Join us as we navigate the terrain of passion, curiosity, and self-acce...

In Episode 2, hosts Ebony and Lacette explore sexual identity. They discuss the significance of understanding and articulating our sexual selves as Black women. In this candid conversation, they talk about the importance of self-determination and embracing the expanding language of identity. Join Ebony and Lacette as they unravel the layers of unlearning societal norms and shame. Tune in for insig...

Welcome to Season 2, Episode 1 of the Black Coochie Podcast. This season, Ebony and Lacette will engage listeners in a conversation on "Building a Healthy Sex Life." We delve into the importance of adopting a sexually healthy lens for Black women, addressing stereotypes and the impact of societal narratives. Exploring trends and personal stories, we aim to equip listeners with tools and...

Welcome to Episode 10 of the Black Coochie Podcast, titled "Season 1 Recap and Reflection." Lacette guides our reflection on the first nine episodes, connecting three essential themes: agency, information, and pleasure. Ebony reflects on the themes of liberation, exploration, and integration, addressing topics from defining Black Coochie to the power of music. In this special recap, we s...

In Episode 9, the Black Coochie Podcast delves into "The Role of Resources." Lacette guides a conversation on the pivotal role resources play in our sexual and spiritual evolution. Ebony joins in, discussing the significance of resources as catalysts for our spiritual/sexual evolution. Exploring the concept of a "healing blueprint," they outline methods fostering wholeness and...

In Episode 8 of the Black Coochie Podcast, Ebony and Lacette embark on a soulful exploration of "The Soundtrack of Our Sexual-Spiritual Lives." They unpack the profound role music plays in shaping our sexual identity and spirituality. Reflecting on personal experiences, Ebony and Lacette discuss how music acts as a mirror, marking life's various phases and expressing their evolving s...

In Episode 7 of the Black Coochie Podcast, Ebony and Lacette dive into the captivating world of "Sex Edutainment." They explore what sex edutainment is, emphasizing its role as media that delves into sexuality while offering educational value. The hosts discuss the importance of media in shaping our perceptions of sexuality and evaluate what constitutes quality edutainment. They share th...

Episode 6 of the Black Coochie Podcast delves into the captivating realm of the "Pleasure Principle," guided by hosts Ebony and Lacette. They explore what pleasure entails, how to embrace it, and why it's a potent act of liberation. The hosts emphasize that pleasure extends beyond the sexual realm, and they dissect why it is essential for self-determination and transcending societal...

In episode 5, Lacette and Ebony explore the powerful framework created by Lacette—the Womanist Sexual Ethic Discernment model. Ebony interviews Lacette, unraveling the inspiration and steps behind this discernment model. They discuss the need for such a framework and how it supports the internal process of healing, wholeness, and freedom. Lacette shares the central questions and activities embedde...

Episode 4 delves into the concept of a sexual ethic—what it means, why it's important, and how to create one. Lacette starts by defining a sexual ethic as a personally constructed statement that guides our sexual identity, expression, and decision-making. Ebony shares her social experiment, interviewing friends and family about their sexual ethics and the lessons she learned. The hosts explore...