Beyond Awareness: Closing the Gap Between Knowing and Doing

Being seen as sweet can feel like a compliment until you start wondering whether people take you seriously. You hold back what you really want to say, avoid asking for what you need, or take on extra work because you don't want to come across as difficult. I'm bringing back one of the top episodes because there's an important distinction I want you to consider. Being kind doesn't mean staying quie...

Lately, I've been feeling the pressure of trying to keep up with everything. Between running businesses, working with clients, parenting, and managing family commitments, I've caught myself thinking I just need to get better at managing my time. So I went into therapy expecting to work on time blocking and figuring out how to fit everything into my schedule. But what came up was something I hadn't...

For a long time, I thought I was just being healthy. I was a health and wellness coach, after all. I didn't question the cleanses, the strict food rules, or the pressure I put on myself to exercise. I thought these were good habits. I didn't realize how often I turned to them when other parts of my life felt uncertain. Looking back, I can see the pattern. When things felt messy in my relationships...

I thought having more time to work would make me feel less behind. Instead, I found myself feeling guilty when I worked and overwhelmed when I didn't. And when my son told me, “I never get to see you anymore,” it hit me hard. I'd made changes to my schedule so I could spend more time with him, yet somehow I still felt like I wasn't doing enough. At a dinner with a group of women leaders, I asked e...

Procrastination can feel like a superpower when you know you can pull it all together at the last minute. But what if the pressure you rely on to get things done is also part of the pattern? I’ve definitely done this. I’ll put something off, tell myself I work better under pressure, and then somehow get it done when there’s no more room to avoid it. Vicki Smith and I got into what might actually b...

You know what you want. You know you’re exhausted. You know you need to stop doing everything yourself, set better boundaries, speak up, or finally change the way you’re working. So why is it still so hard to actually do it? Kelsea Koenrich and I talk about the beliefs underneath the patterns that keep us doing more, staying available, overworking, and trying to hold everything together. Because s...

September can bring this strange pressure to get your life back on track. New routines, new goals, getting back into work, ending the year strong. But what if you’re already carrying too much? When everything on your plate already feels like one thing too many, adding more goals or routines can just make you feel even more overwhelmed. And sometimes the hardest part isn’t even the busyness itself....

You don’t need their ideas...you need to trust your own. I was sitting in a doctor’s office reading an email I loved, and within seconds I was thinking, “Wait, I should be doing this too.” I caught myself comparing, questioning my own ideas, and feeling like I was already behind. So I opened my Notes app and started coaching myself through it. What I realized was simple: I didn’t trust myself to c...

You can read all the books. Listen to all the podcasts. Know exactly what you should be doing and still find yourself doing the same thing. That was one of my favorite parts of this conversation with Jenna D’Annunzio. We talked about what happens when awareness isn't enough, and how the beliefs underneath our behavior can quietly keep us from taking the next step. We also talked about the pressure...

I still think about the $30 Bumblebee toy from Target. My son wanted to ride it through the store, and I said yes, with the very clear boundary that we were not buying it. Then, of course, he wanted to buy it. I said no. He pushed back. And eventually I gave in because I did not want to deal with the meltdown. He never even used the thing because he was too big for it. At the time, I could have ju...

You know you don't want to keep doing it, but somehow you keep doing the same thing anyway. Maybe you keep overcommitting. Maybe you push through when you need to stop. Maybe asking for help still feels harder than doing everything yourself. You know the pattern, but knowing hasn't been enough to change it. Because sometimes the thing we keep trying to change is also the thing that once helped us...

The to do list keeps growing, the next goal is already waiting, and slowing down doesn't feel as satisfying as getting one more thing done. From the outside, it can look like ambition. But what if there's a story underneath all that achievement that's been quietly calling the shots? Holly Beitel spent years doing the therapy and mindset work while still relying on achievement and performance to co...

You might be looking for clarity about what comes next, what you actually want, or whether the things happening in your life mean anything at all. But what if you stopped trying to figure it all out and simply looked at what’s already happening? In this journaling episode, I’m walking you through five prompts to help you notice the conversations, people, habits, fears, and desires showing up in yo...

I’ve been thinking about one question a lot lately: What feedback is the universe showing me? Not what do I want to happen. Not what do I think should be happening. What is actually showing up? When I started paying attention to that, I noticed things I’d been overlooking. The conversations I was having. The questions people were asking me. The opportunities that kept coming my way. Even the thing...

You keep telling yourself you're not ready. The website needs work. The logo isn't quite right. The offer needs one more tweak. But what if being "not ready" isn't really the reason? Sometimes the thing we're fixing on the outside is giving us somewhere to hide from what's actually uncomfortable: being seen. Today, we're going underneath the delay and getting honest about what's really keeping you...

You’ve got a logo. You’ve picked your colors. Maybe you’ve even built the website. And somehow, you’re still waiting to feel ready to actually put yourself out there. Morgan Specht and I talk about the part of branding that has very little to do with choosing the right font or making everything look polished. Sometimes the brand work becomes another place to hide, another thing to tweak, and anoth...

Some things become heavy because they were never yours to carry. Some become heavy because the way you're carrying them isn't working anymore. Those aren't the same thing. If something that's always mattered to you suddenly feels different, this is your chance to slow down before deciding whether to keep going or walk away. The answer might be letting it go. It might be changing your approach. Eit...

Something changes when the things you once loved start feeling heavy. The project you chose. The hobby you couldn't wait to begin. The commitment that once gave you energy. Nothing about it has necessarily changed, yet somehow it starts feeling like another obligation. It's easy to believe that means you've outgrown it. That it's time to quit. Or that you just need to push yourself harder. Maybe n...

Some things stay on your plate long after they've stopped serving you. Not because they have to, but because somewhere along the way they became part of who you believe you need to be. The task isn't just a task anymore. It feels like proof that you're responsible, capable, caring, or enough. Today's journal is about slowing down long enough to notice what you're really carrying and why it still f...

Some things land on your plate because life asks them of you. Others show up so quietly that you don't even notice you've picked them up. A workout because everyone else is doing it. Saying yes because it feels like the right thing to do. Trying harder to be a better parent, a better boss, a better version of yourself. Before long, your plate feels heavier, but not because life changed. Because so...

The hardest part isn't always knowing how you want to feel. It's believing you're allowed to feel that way before everything is finished. Peace can seem like something you have to earn. Once the work is done. Once the house is clean. Once everyone else is okay. Until then, your mind keeps searching for the next thing that needs your attention. This journal entry invites you to slow down and notice...

You can wake up with the best intentions, move through your day doing all the "right" things, and still find yourself completely wiped out before dinner. For a long time, I thought that meant I was carrying too much. Lately, I've been seeing it differently. Everything has weight. Making breakfast. Getting your kids ready. Saying yes. Reading a book. Sitting on the couch. Even the things that fill...

One of the hardest parts about carrying a full mental load is that finishing everything rarely feels the way you imagined it would. The emails are sent. The laundry is folded. The boxes are checked. Yet your mind is already racing toward the next thing. Rest still feels out of reach. This journaling practice is an invitation to pause long enough to notice what might actually be keeping your brain...

Making a big change rarely comes down to not knowing what to do. More often, the answer is already there. It's been sitting quietly underneath the overthinking, the people pleasing, the endless pros and cons, and the hope that one day confidence will magically arrive first. Laura Aura shares the moment life forced her to stop ignoring herself after years of building a successful business while run...

Your to do list gets shorter, but something still feels heavy. The work gets done. The laundry gets folded. Everyone else seems taken care of, yet your body never really settles. Maybe what you're craving isn't another self care routine. Maybe you just need somewhere to exhale. A random thought on an airplane turned into a much bigger question. Do women really just want to have fun, or are we actu...