Bei’s Coffee Corner

Sometimes you can do everything right and things will still go wrong. The key is to never stop doing right. -- The Hate U Give

Is there ever a moment that you feel happy about somethings's suffering? Brene Brown has given a different explanation to this concept.

Sometimes you start a book and thought you'd finish it soon, and then you never finish it... This is my goal in 2022. I am going to finish the books I have started but never finished.

In 2022, it's time to be smarter and more responsible for my adult life. Start from saving money and see how far it'd go.

My 2021 was full of nothing. Nothing really changed. Nothing exciting. But I have learned a lot in 2021. I started my therapy to learn my emotions and feelings. I started to say no to things and people that I don't feel uncomfortable with. I started to have followers who share a lot in common. Life continues and things will get better. 

My friend came to visit me yesterday. We were just sitting in the garage and trying to follow the protocol. It was quite funny how we could gather during the pandemic. But you know what, you gotta do what you gotta do. 

Do you know when you feel resentful not because you hate someone but because you hate yourself not being able to be that "someone"? So you start to feel resentful.

Do you know there is a difference between envy and jealousy? That is, envy sometimes contains hostile feelings while jealousy actually can be a compliment.

So glad that Brene Brown's new book just arrived on time. The design of it is just topnotch. And the content, of course, is fantastic as usual. If you are looking for a book that answers your emotion questions, this is THE ONE!

There is no topic today. Really just chatting about how I've been feeling.

You know... sometimes it's just so difficult to hear something that you don't want to. Then you are from I want like the comments to be like I don't like this person. Have you ever had this moment?

This is something that I really just do it unconsciously. Sometime it can be good, but sometimes it can really have a bad impact.

I hate crying when I get angry. It makes me look weak. But, I AM NOT!

I tend to get a lot of comments about how come they understand my English but not native speakers'. Some said that it was because my English was too simple. Some said that it was because I was Chinese.  Hmmmm, what do you think?

I first thought I wouldn't learn much from this self-help book. But, this is exactly a sign to tell me that I need this book so bad. When I think that I don't need to learn, that's because Ego is the Enemy.

Oscar Whilde said: "Art is useless." But this is true, why do people need art?

Sometimes you might think translating would do most of the work when it comes to learning another language. But translation doesn't work when it comes to cultural differences. 

What is the spotlight effect? How can we overcome it?

Sometimes I just want to quit my job without thinking about any consequences. But can I really do it? Is it good to burn the bridge?

This book has magic on me. Every time I read it, I feel calm and warm. Stephen King is a true master of language.

Have you ever had moments that you felt frozen during the meeting? Yes, that's me.

If there is a tiger in your neigbourhood, how would you feel? Fear? Anxiety? When you know it's dangerous and it'll be gone, you have fear and your fear will eventually disappear. But when you know it's dangerous but don't know when it's coming, that uncertainty gradually leads to anxiety. That's why we feel anxious.

What do you think about sponsorship? Would you actually buy what the influencers or content creators recommend?

Yeah.. who doesn't hate small talk? But why? 

Setting boundaries would definitely helps with anxiety. I've been having anxiety issues for a while and then realized that it was work related. I failed to say no to some of the work that was not necessarily supposed to be done after work hours. Thinking about setting boundaries then strikes me. I can't control other people, but I can set boundaries for myself for not taking too much when I'm not...