Bei’s Coffee Corner

I used to like waiting for my friends to do everything. I of course expected them to do the same. Then I realized that everyone lived a life at a different pace. No one is responsible for anyone's decisions and moves. So if you have a plan to do something, share it with your friends and then go ahead. 

Sometimes you think this is the most important thing in your whole life. If you don't achieve it, then it's gonna be the end of the world. But now when I look back, that thing might be really important at that time, but definitely not the only thing in my whole life. There is always something more important ahead of you.

I always think myself as an ordinary person until one day someone said: "You are so amazing! " That's when I realize that no one is ordinary. But most of our time is spent to be ordinary until we are not because of all the hard work we've done. It's accumulation. 

Sometimes you do things while thinking about yourself being a woman. Then you tell yourself, as a woman, I should or should not do this or that. But the truth is...nothing matters until you have the right attitude. You think you can do it because you can not because you are a woman. That's what I say here "Attitude is more important".

I stopped learning for a month, including reading, listening to podcasts, watching meaningful and educational videos. My brain now contains nothing... Never stop learning!

I started with temporary positions, and it lasted for quite a few years. Now, I eventually got a permanent position. Rome is not built in a day.

It's hard to be yourself. But try to be comfortable with yourself. What other people think about you might have some sort of impact, but eventually it's you deciding whether you want to like yourself or not.

Life is full of ups and downs. 

No matter where you are, there are always difficult people. How do you deal with them?

Some updates

How do you feel about failures? Do you feel jealous of someone?

Have you ever got mad because of rule breakers? Have you ever had a moment that everything was good until there is a bad one?

Are you a lurker? Do you think being able to get pregnant is actually a biological disadvantage for women?

The Dropout. Inventing Anna. Tinder Swinderly. It seems like there is a trend about con artists. Which one is your favourite?

I think it might be because of how I grew up. It could also be my personality. But I cringe when receiving compliments. Just don't know how to react. 

I've been obsessed with writing lately. So I decided to take a writing course (that I actually paid for). I've been loving it and wish I did this a lot earlier.  I'm still on the Psychology of Monday. Read this part about planning with margin of errors. Finally found out why I had anxiety when doing my previous job. 

Sometimes, I just wonder, why do women have to give up a lot of things to succeed in a professional arena? Why?

Casually chat about how I have been feeling about constantly learning the language and the job.

Blaming others for something I don't like is way easier than taking my own responsibility to make it the way I like. That's why I tended to think that it's other people's fault that I didn't get what I wanted... 

Have you ever been afraid of making mistakes? Have you ever been affected by how you grew up?

I listened to Dare to Lead about the episode of Regret. Here is the quote: “Over time, people regret what they didn't do than what they did do. Regrets of inaction are far more common than regrets of action." -- Dan Pink What kind of regret do you have? How would reflection help?

This episode, I brought my best friend Alysha in to share some of her thoughts about friendship. 

Comparison happens all the time. And sometimes it's not out of your own choice. But when comparing, tell yourself that everyone's life and experience are shaped differently. What they have achieved is based on their life, experience, education and so on. These are the things that you might not have. We haven't achieved what other people have achieved not because they are smarter than we are, just...

We tend to be really harsh on ourselves when learning new things. We want to master it right away without realizing that no one can really achieve it. Then, we start to doubt our own ability and think we are really terrible. When I pointed this out to my student, she burst into tears.

I kinda figured out that I don't hate holidays. I just hate celebrating. I like days off, but don't like that I HAVE TO do festive things to show my participation.