Behind the Swipe

Online dating after divorce can be intimidating, and many men and women over forty are hesitant to take the plunge. This week we explore dating hesitation with my guest co-host T.H. Irwin of the popular divorce resource site the ExExperts and co-host of the exceptional podcast, Divorce, Etc. T.H. and I hear and discuss the true stories of Holly and Liz as they share their intimate stories on decid...

Having an abundance of choices when dating online is great! Right?  Not so fast. Studies show that there CAN be too much of a good thing.  How can it be that having hundreds of potential matches to choose from leaves you unsatisfied? In this episode, guest co-host Cindy Hopper and I hear from daters who are overwhelmed by choice overload, and from those whose options are (by choice) not so plentif...

Can we talk about Ken?   Join Bradley Richardson and Morgan Lawley and me as we discuss masculinity in online dating.  We talk about how Barbie filmmakers portray two polar opposite extremes in their portrayal of the iconic "Ken" as a mild mannered milk-toast AND as a misogynistic bro.   How should a modern man present himself as an online dater?  What does it mean to project masculinity...

We’ve often heard (and maybe even said ourselves) that “We just didn’t have chemistry.”  But what does that really mean?  This week, my co-host Dr. Karin Luise and I listen to stories from daters who have experienced the exhilaration of the immediate fireworks of an instant chemistry with a prospective partner AND from those whose chemistry developed over time.  We’ll also hear from daters who no...

What can mathematics tell us about how we should approach dating after 40?  Today we unpack the probabilities and statistics behind two hypothetical scenarios:   First, organic dating - that is the organic produce section of Whole Foods.  Second, we'll look at online dating where our hypothetical dater contemplates joining Bumble for the first time. This episode was inspired by the great work...

This week, guest co-host Betsy Morris , founder and editor of GoodBetterNext and I hear and discuss the story of “Kerrie.”  Kerrie fell into a long distance relationship after having been divorced for about five years. While the relationship did not last, it taught her some important lessons that she maintains to this day. You’ll want to read Betsy’s latest blog post at GoodBetterNext!  Find it He...

This week, guest host Bradley Richardson and I discuss whether the old adage that one should take time after the breakup of a longterm relationship before jumping back into dating.  We’ll hear from three online daters with very different takes on this topic: Paul, who extolls the virtues of diving in head first and “sowing some wild oats.” Sharon, whose hard and fast rule is, “I’ve learned the har...

Behind the Swipe, the podcast that takes you inside the lives of online daters over forty navigating the often confusing and overwhelming world of online dating.  Each week we’ll explore issues facing men and women over 40 trying to navigate the often confusing world of online dating - often for the first time. These are raw, honest conversations on motivations, desires, turn ons, turn offs, succe...