Becoming Burnham

Send us Fan Mail Women are handed a lot of rules nobody remembers agreeing to. Don't text first. Don't look too interested. Don't be too emotional. Don't be too confident. Don't trust another woman too much. And whatever you do, don't let anybody think you're the fool in the situation. Some of these rules are ridiculous. Some are exhausting. And some follow us fr...

Send us Fan Mail What does it mean to be a strong woman? Is it speaking your mind, knowing when to stand your ground, asking for help, or learning that you don't have to prove yourself to everyone? Many of us grow up with ideas about what women should be like. Be kind. Be helpful. Be agreeable. Take care of everyone else. And somewhere along the way, we may start wondering where our own needs...

Send us Fan Mail Kat flies solo this week (sending all the healing vibes to Kristina!) to address the 15-second video that completely took over the internet—and her comment section. When Sam (Kyle’s ex-wife, Kat’s best friend, and their next-door neighbor) showed up broken on their doorstep, Kyle offered her a comforting shoulder to cry on. Kat filmed the raw moment, posted it, and the internet ha...

Send us Fan Mail Content warning: This episode discusses domestic violence, emotional and psychological abuse, and trauma. Please take care of yourself while you watch. Pause, skip ahead, or come back later if you need to. If you or someone you know needs support (U.S.): National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233) Text START to 88788 Chat or learn more at thehotline.org (the site has a...

Send us Fan Mail Everybody's afraid of something. Some fears make perfect sense. Some are completely ridiculous. And some only become funny once you realize you're actually standing there screaming at a spider the size of a Cheerio. This week, in preparation of National Face Your Fears Day, we’re talking about irrational fears, embarrassing moments, things we’ve done scared, and the ever...

Send us Fan Mail It’s National Coffee Day, and we’re talking about what happens when your body is exhausted but your brain won’t shut down. In this episode, we explore the 2 AM thoughts that show up when the day finally gets quiet. We talk about why nighttime can make things feel bigger, why letting go of what we can’t control is so difficult, and why saying “I need help” can be harder than saying...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when you take real questions from frustrated parents and let an actual 15-year-old answer them? In this episode, Kat sits down with her daughter Ella for an honest, funny conversation about growing up in the early 2000s versus being a teenager today. From AIM, Napster, and low-rise jeans to TikTok, Snapchat, and social media drama, they compare generations while tackl...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, hear a story about a week where personal grief and professional betrayal collided in a way that felt almost cruelly timed. Through real examples of workplace confusion, disrespect, and emotional whiplash, she explores the impossible expectation that grieving parents should “keep personal separate from business.” This episode asks the question: How do you separate...

Send us Fan Mail Everyone knows the fairy tale version of the stepmom story: rivalry, resentment, and a battle for a place in the family. But what happens when real life doesn't follow the script? In this episode, Kristina sits down with Kat to talk about a relationship that often surprises people: her friendship with her husband's ex-wife. Together, they discuss what it looks like to co...

Send us Fan Mail Marriage isn't just romance and commitment. It's also years of shared memories, weird traditions, unfinished stories, and jokes nobody else understands. In this episode, we explore how inside jokes become a secret language that keeps couples connected through life's ordinary and extraordinary moments.

Send us Fan Mail Are your weekends completely ruled by bleachers, parking lots, and tournament schedule apps? You are definitely not alone. In Episode 32 of Becoming Burnham , Kristina and Kat dive deep into the real, hilarious, and sometimes overwhelming world of being a sports parent. From managing blended family schedules across two households to surviving 12-hour weekend tournaments without lo...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when the ground beneath you begins to shift? In episode 31 of Becoming Burnham, we explore the quiet onset of perimenopause, focusing on the unexplained physical changes and the realization that we were never taught how to navigate this transition. Alongside the physical evolution, we look at the social one: the unique heartache of maintaining adult friendships when y...

Send us Fan Mail If you've got a kid starting school this year, you already know all about that first day feeling, somewhere between excitement and low grade panic. We just lived through it ourselves, and instead of just posting a cute photo and moving on, we wanted to actually sit down and talk about what it was like. The mornings, the goodbyes, the waiting, the pickup, all of it. If you&apo...

Send us Fan Mail Back to school season is here, and Kristina and Kat are diving into all of it this episode. From the supply list scramble and questionable shopping trips, to the nerves of finding out who the teacher is, to trying to wrangle everyone back onto a bedtime schedule after a summer that had absolutely none, they're covering the stuff every parent is living through right now. It&ap...

Send us Fan Mail A while back, Kat shared the mind-blowing realization that she discovered she was adopted at thirty-six years old, leaving everyone on the ultimate cliffhanger right at the DNA test. Today, we are breaking the silence on what happened after the spit hit the tube. From mind-bending family ironies and generational adoption echoes to dealing with a chaotic biological father writing f...

Send us Fan Mail Once a year, Kat and Kyle take an adults-only trip to Disney, no kids, just each other. Kristina and Kat talk about why that matters so much: prioritizing your marriage isn't selfish, it might be the best thing you can do for your family. They get into how to reconnect, how to recharge, and how to build a village at home you actually trust, so you can turn your mom-brain off...

Send us Fan Mail Most of us were never taught how to balance being strong with actually letting ourselves rest. We learned how to push through, how to show up, how to hold it together. And for a lot of people that becomes the only setting they know. So when the overwhelm starts building, we just keep going because that's what we do. In this episode Kristina and Kat talk about what it looks li...

Send us Fan Mail Happy 4th of July weekend, this will be a quick one! Tomorrow marks our nation's 250th anniversary, and I am flying completely solo because Kristina is officially off the grid on vacation—meaning I have full control of the mic. Today’s episode is a raw, unfiltered reality check on what 'security' actually means in 2026. Working in corporate HR and talent acquisition...

Send us Fan Mail We are wrapping up Men’s Health Month by looking at what it actually takes to protect the health of the man leading your home. Today, Kat and Kyle get completely transparent about the mental and physical realities of hitting your late 30s after the military. We’re laughing through the chaos of sharing the exact same therapist, debunking the "good on paper" relationship a...

Send us Fan Mail This episode is a birthday party. Arlan's. And you're invited. He would have been 13 this year, and we're celebrating the only way we know how — by talking about him. Who he was, how he loved, and what he left behind in the people who are still here. Come hang out with us.

Send us Fan Mail Most parenting advice assumes you were there from the beginning. But what happens when you come into a child's life mid chapter and have to earn something that other parents just automatically get? In this episode Kat and Kyle get honest about what it looked like to build real relationships with each other's kids. What it took, what it cost, and what they learned along t...

Send us Fan Mail A few episodes back Kat revealed that she handles the entire family calendar — coordinating directly with Sam, sending Kyle the invites, and keeping the whole operation running. The internet had a lot to say about it. So in this episode Kristina and Kat brought Kyle in to speak for himself. This is a conversation about how a blended family actually functions when everyone stops fi...

Send us Fan Mail We planned a birthday episode for Ella turning fifteen. We had the outline, the questions, the whole thing was ready. Then one question stopped everything — what are you excited about? What do you want in this next chapter? — and there was nothing. Because everything she'd want to look forward to, she'd want to share with her brother Arlan. And Arlan isn't here. So...

Send us Fan Mail Every parent hits that moment sometime in May where summer suddenly feels very close and very real and slightly terrifying. You've got the end of year chaos still happening, you're trying to figure out what summer actually looks like, and somewhere in the back of your head you know that the school schedule has been holding your life together and it's about to just s...

Send us Fan Mail If you've ever frozen in public because of something that just came out of your kid's mouth — this episode is for you. Kat and Sam are sharing the moments their kids said the thing nobody was ready for. The embarrassing, the unhinged, the brutally honest, and the surprisingly deep. Because kids don't filter. They don't perform. They just tell the truth about ev...