#AskAMan

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for about a year and a half now and says he’s still married but separated from his spouse.  Anonymous says things were fine and when she lost her job he started taking care of her, and pays for her rent and groceries. Anonymous says he’s now changed on her, he ignores texts and and doesn’t want to talk yo her most of the time.  Anonymous doesn’t know what...

Anonymous says she’s been in her current relationship for 4 months now and it’s going well. Her problem is that she’s not sure how to go about sharing her HIV positive status with him.  Anonymous says in the past when she’s shared this detail about her self, the guy left her and that’s why she’s scared of disclosing this to her current guy as she feels like their relationship seems like it could g...

Anonymous says he’s been with the mother of his child for several years and they’ve been going through a rough patch which he says has led him to having a relationship with someone else on the side.  Anonymous says he’s been with his side girl for 4 months and things have gotten a bit awkward between them as his side now wants to take things to the next level and get married.  Anonymous says he’s...

Anonymous say he’s been in a relationship for 6 years things were fine until 3 months ago.  Anonymous says when he met the lady she wasn’t in good condition and she was on drugs. Anonymous says he then helped her and cleaned her up and she got back on her feet and went back to school.  Anonymous says they had a child together and around that time he met the girl’s parents but they were not happy f...

Anonymous says she’s started dating her current partner in 2012, they dated for a few years before breaking up.  Anonymous says 5 years went by and they started dating again and she thought he had changed but he hadn’t really as anonymous feels like he neglects her and doesn’t make time for her.  Anonymous says it’s disheartening because he makes time for everything and everyone else. Anonymous sa...

Anonymous says his relationship with his partner was generally fine in the four years they’ve been together until she went to initiation school in order to become a sangoma.  Anonymous says she’s back now and things aren’t the same when it comes to intimacy. Anonymous says his partner now requires more sex from him. Anonymous says they’ve gone from 3 rounds a night to about 9 rounds a night.  Anon...

Anonymous says she’s having problems with her step daughter, who’s her husband’s daughter, and doesn’t know what to do.  Anonymous says her step daughter has a bad attitude and is mean and rude towards her. Anonymous says her step daughter also goes around the neighbourhood lying to neighbours about her. Anonymous also adds that they have a 10 year age gap. Anonymous says she’s also confronted her...

Anonymous says him and his partner have 2 kids together and their relationship was generally fine until he became wheel chair bound 6 months ago.  Anonymous says she changed on him and on one occasion she went out partying and he confronted her about that and it turned into a fight that turned abusive, anonymous says his partner beat him up, damaged his electrical wheel chair. Anonymous says he pr...

Anonymous says she’s been married for 18 years now and they have 3 kids with her husband and don’t want any more kids. Anonymous says after turning 40, she wants to get off the pill.  Anonymous says her and her partner have explored other birth control methods and the best one for them is for him to get a vasectomy but her partner is not keen and seems like he’s not interested in getting a vasecto...

Anonymous says she has three kids and lost her partner  in 2021. Anonymous says she met a new guy while she was grieving and they started dating.  Anonymous says the guy was unemployed when they met and he moved in with her, and anonymous says she tried to help him get a job and he eventually got one last year.  Anonymous says the guy changed on her after getting employed and they were fighting a...

Anonymous says she feels like there’s a third person in their relationship. Anonymous says her and her partner have a mutual friend who is the person that introduced them to each other.  Anonymous says over the last year her and this third person drifted apart but she’s now realised that this friend and her partner have become closer. Anonymous says her partner now hides when he meets up with the...

Anonymous says back in 2021 he was in a relationship and ready to get engaged to guy no.1, however around that time he met someone else, guy no.2,  in a club and they had a one night stand.  Anonymous says two weeks after the incident, he ghosted guy no.2 as he was confused and he continued with his engagement. Anonymous says a few weeks went by and he reached out to guy no.2 again and they eventu...

Anonymous says he’s known his partner for 3 years and things were mostly fine until he faced some financial struggles.  Anonymous says he moved to another country overseas for work purposes, but when things didn’t workout, he made his way back to the country but had nowhere to stay. His things were at his partner’s home, and so the partner took him in to live with her.  Anonymous says in the time...

Anonymous says she’s been in a relationship with the father of her child for 7 years and things were ok until earlier this year when she realised he was cheating on her.  Anonymous says when she confronted him about it he confessed that he was cheating and was in love with the other lady and he intended to keep seeing the other lady. Anonymous stuck around but eventually moved out of their place b...

Anonymous says her boyfriend is a married man and they’ve been together for  2 years. Anonymous says their relationship is generally fine and he’s a good partner but he seems to be a narcissist.  Anonymous says he tends to look down on her and can be patronising, and he wasn’t like that at the beginning of their relationship. Anonymous says he’s even suggested she lose weight.  Anonymous says he’s...

Anonymous says she has known her partner for about 12 years now, since her first year in varsity. Anonymous says after her partner’s aunt passed away, they took in the children and raised them till they moved out in 2019. Anonymous says she had a child with him in 2019 & 2020, but the first child unfortunately died two years ago due to illness.  Anonymous says they got married around 2019, how...

Anonymous says she’s been married to her husband for 6 years now. She says when they initially met he was married, they hooked up, but he disappeared and came back months later after breaking up with his wife.  Anonymous says they then dated and about 3 months into their relationship, she found out he was cheating, she forgave him and they moved on and got married.  Anonymous says last year while...

Anonymous says she married her husband last year November and she gave birth to their child in August of this year.  Anonymous says she came into the relationship with one child, so did her husband,  and says less than a year into their relationship her partner wants a divorce. Anonymous says she’s taken aback by this as the father of her first child also broke up with her a month after she gave b...

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner since 2014 and they each came  into the relationship with a child. Anonymous says they started lobola proceedings in 2016, however he still needs to complete the process and they now have two kids together.  Anonymous says they then started working together at the same place for a few years and everything was fine until he started working somewhere else, f...

Anonymous says she’s in her early twenties and in a relationship with a man in his mid-thirties. She fell in love instantly and they started dating.  Anonymous says he found conversations on his phone that indicated that he was chatting with other ladies and she snapped and confronted him about this and it caused a rift between them.  Anonymous says he is now not even taking her calls and she wond...

Anonymous says when she first her current partner, he made it clear that he had someone else. Anonymous says she was ok with this as long as he doesn’t treat her like “the other woman”.  Anonymous says there was then an incident while they were dating where she caught him red handed cheating, which led to her damaging his car, but they got back together after this incident.  Anonymous says he then...

Anonymous says she’s been with the father of her child for about 15 years and says their relationship has been turbulent during this period, especially after she gave birth.  Anonymous says they’ve broken up and made up many times over the years because of multiple conflicts in their relationship, and they’ve both been with other people but keep finding themselves coming back to each other.  Anony...

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for 6 years and says their relationship is generally good but he feels like his partner is financially irresponsible.  Anonymous says his partner doesn’t budget properly and has accumulated a lot of debt. He says she also seems to be an impulse buyer.  Anonymous says he’s confronted her about this and he advised her to change her behaviour however she hasn...

Anonymous says she’s been dating her current partner for about 6 months and says from the start of the relationship, her partner told her that he had lost his wife about 3 years ago, however, he said he was ready to be in a relationship.  Anonymous says in the 6 months they’ve dated, they’ve only been with each other 6 times. Anonymous says she addressed this with him, and he revealed to her that...

Anonymous says he’s been with his current partner for about a year now and says when they started he was dating someone else but that relationship was complicated.  Anonymous says a couple of months into their relationship he discovered that his partner was having suspicious conversations with other people on her phone and she would never explain who the people are.  Anonymous says his partner cel...