#AskAMan

Anonymous says after being single for two years, he met a guy in September last year, and two weeks into their relationship, the guy told him that he had a spiritual calling and would be going to initiation for about 6 months.  Anonymous says the guy wasn’t allowed to have visitors while at initiation but they kept in contact by calling each other. Anonymous says the guy was then not al...

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for about two years now. They never moved in together but would stay at each other’s places for extended periods. Anonymous says his partner got into the habit of leaving his place and staying at her own place every time they fight. Anonymous says during one of the times his partner moved out he started entertaining another lady who he says bec...

Anonymous says she’s known her husband for 8 years and they’ve been married for 6 of those years. Anonymous says her relationship with her partner is toxic and says the biggest issue is finances.  Anonymous says she earns more than her partner and says he also doesn’t contribute much to their household finances. Anonymous says she feels like she has been financially and verb...

Anonymous says her partner recently went through her phone and found nude pictures of her with her ex on her phone.  Anonymous says her partner was upset after finding the pictures, which were recently sent by her ex. Anonymous says her partner also saw a message where she suggested to her ex that they have a threesome.  Anonymous says they went to therapy to try and resolve this issue,...

Anonymous says he has been dating his partner for about 3 years now and says she has been very supportive of him from the time they started dating as he had just graduated.  Anonymous says he got into the e-hailing business and when he decided to start driving his own car, she helped him get the car and they agreed that he would pay her back for the car and they would change the ownership of...

Anonymous says he met a guy last year and they’ve been dating since then. Anonymous says everything was fine until the guy started acting strange.   Anonymous says they once had a conflict & as they were in middle of the fight his partner decided he was leaving, and some other guy came to pick up his partner and they left anonymous at his place.  Anonymous says he tracked his p...

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for two years but says they’ve had an issue with infidelity in their relationship since the very beginning. Anonymous says she’s always finding texts on his phone of him chatting with other girls and flirting with them. She says she’s confronted him about this several times, but it keeps happening.  Anonymous says in the middl...

Anonymous says she met a guy no.1 in January and things quickly sparked between them, and the guy moved into her place soon after they started dating.  Anonymous says the guy lies a lot, for starters, he lied about his age, saying he’s in his early thirties but it turned out he’s actually in his early twenties. Anonymous says though he seemed to have a proper job she’s also...

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for two years, they live together, their families know about each other, and their relationship is moving in the marriage direction.  Anonymous says she recently had a dream that there is something funny happening in their relationship, after this, anonymous says she looked through his phone and found that he’s still following his ex on T...

Anonymous says he met his current partner 8 years ago, after being single for 3 years. Anonymous says they started dating soon after meeting.  Anonymous says his partner came into their relationship with two children and they have since had four more children together, she is currently pregnant with twins.  Anonymous says that the problem in their relationship seems to be his partner&rsq...

Anonymous says she’s a mother of two and she broke up with the father of her children back in 2015. Anonymous says she met another guy shortly after this but the relationship failed because she didn’t want the guy to meet her kids as they were young.  Anonymous says she waited for her kids to grow before dating again and she’s now in a relationship with someone who she has i...

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for a year and after he lost his job last November, the partner moved back to his home town.  Anonymous says after their relationship became long distant, they began to struggle with communication and anonymous says she ended up pushing him away, as she was hiding somethings from him.  Anonymous says this caused a rift between them and he...

Anonymous says she’s been with her husband for 17 years since they were in high school and they’ve been married for about 8 years.  Anonymous says post high school she studied further, got her qualifications and has been financially stable since then, on the other hand she says her husband lacks ambition and hasn’t worked much this whole time that they’ve been together...

Anonymous says she’s been in a relationship with her partner for 3 years and says their relationship couldn’t be better, however, anonymous says she started cheating on her partner, with someone who lives on the same street as her mother.  Anonymous says she then found out that her side piece was cheating on her and they broke things off. Anonymous says even though things are grea...

Anonymous says his friend broke up with his partner 2 months ago, after the break up, anonymous says he started chatting with his partner’s ex and they hit things off.  Anonymous says things quickly got serious between him and his friend’s ex and that’s when he decided to tell his friend that he’d like to his ex. Anonymous says his friend told him he doesn’t appr...

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for just over a year now and they’ve known each other for about 10 years altogether.  Anonymous says they were initially in a long-distance relationship and things were great but his behaviour changed when she moved to the same area as him.  Anonymous says she feels like even though she’s goegraphically closer now, he doesn&rsq...

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for two years and everything was fine between them from the on set but things changed after she became pregnant.  Anonymous says after finding out about the pregnancy they moved in together but his character changed and they started fighting a lot, to a point that he moved out of their place.  Anonymous says most recently he asked him for...

Anonymous says mid last year she found a lady on social media who she liked but only DM’d her earlier this in January and confessed her feelings.  Anonymous says it turned out the lady also liked her and so they started dating online, as they’ve never met. Anonymous says their relationship was going well until Anonymous wasn’t in a good mood one day and took those emotions o...

Anonymous says she met guy no.1 last year at her new church after moving to a new province. Anonymous says they started dating shortly after their first interaction.  Anonymous says things were good between them until she went back home to visit and says when she came back to her new area she realised that his energy had changed, and upon searching on his phone, she found that he was still ch...

Anonymous says she’s been with her current partner for 5 years and says he’s a great partner and takes care of her, and he’s even paid lobola for her.  Anonymous says her problem is she feels a void in her relationship, and says there’s no spark and passion, it’s just boring. Anonymous says she likes him but doesn’t think he’s the one.  Anonymous...

Anonymous says she met her current husband when they were in high school, but they couldn’t really be together at the time. Anonymous says over the years they’d meet up and hook up, but never really became official.  Anonymous says they went their separate ways at some point and during that time she  had a baby with someone else. Anonymous says they eventually got together an...

Anonymous says he met a lady in 2023 and their relationship was soaring until the father of her child, who wasn’t present when anonymous met the lady, came back into the picture last December. Anonymous says the lady started communicating more with the father of her child at that point. Anonymous says the lady then attend a family funeral after the the father of her child’s brother pas...

Anonymous says he and his girlfriend started dating in 2018 and he says he was clear from the onset that he wants to have a child, she was ok with that only if they got married first, something anonymous says he wasn’t ready for.  Anonymous says years later he started having an affair with one of his partner’s friends and that went on secretly for a while. Anonymous says he brough...

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 6 years, they have a child together and she came into their relationship with another child. Anonymous her partner is terrible with money and doesn’t include her in his financial decisions when he has money.  Anonymous says before he lost his job and didn’t have money, he would go out partying with friends and would cheat on her...