Anecdotes by Nin

Have you ever given an ultimatum to anyone? And do you think it works? In my opinion, it won't work. Because why do you need to corner someone to agree with you when clearly they are either against it or need sometime to think about a decision they are not ready to commit. However, it's good to give an ultimatum you are clear on what you need and demand from them. If they can't agree to your terms...

Difficult conversations. I hate them. Especially if it's one sided and you are not being heard. But we need them in order to find alignment, to better understand each other, to bounce off each other and give ideas to making things better. To know your boundaries with each other. If you've never had any difficult conversations in your relationships, you are not in a relationship. You are in a "situ...

On this episode, i will be talking about Self-Love and how we overlook at what it actually means. It doesn't mean just eating healthy, working out, buying material things and pampering yourself. It means working on yourself, attending to your emotional needs. Giving that emotional support to yourself how you would give to your friend. Attending to your unmet needs as a child and most important...

On this episode, i will be talking about my technique when i am feeling triggered. Bare in mind, that it might not work for some people but it does for me, at times. It is to separate how you feel in the moment, and what emotions you pent up in the past, arises when a past trauma is triggered. It is to separate these 2 things. Triggers varies and it is different for some people. It can come in a f...

In this episode, i will be sharing about how we should always acknowledge our feelings. No matter how bad it is, acknowledge what you feel. The hurt, the pain, the struggle, the sadness, the anger, the disappointment and frustration, however you want to categorise what you are feeling in the moment, express it in a healthy way. Because whatever you are feeling in the moment is important. You need...

On this episode, i will be sharing about entering my selfish era. What does that mean? That means i am prioritising myself without guilt. I am prioritising myself without thinking of others. That means i am putting my boundaries first before others. That means saying no when my emotional capacity is full to take in other people’s problems and emotions. Detaching myself from any attachments, creati...

On this episode i will be talking about rejection ; not being chosen. Most of us, when we get rejected by someone, we feel unworthy or unwanted. As if we are not good enough. Most of the time, it has nothing to do with you but more about them. Also, there is a possibility there is an unhealed emotional wound that gets you addicted to certain types of ppl. If you know what you want and who you are,...

On this episode, i will talk about self-reflection. How i normally would self reflect on myself and situations in life. Even when i fumble. I will talk about our triggers, what are our triggers, how to understand yourself from it and accept the situations that happens in our life, is there for a reason. Triggers will tell things about you more than about others and it’s up to you how you want to d...

In this episode, i will be talking about how we should pick our battles, what we should fight for. Focus on our intentions on why. And to make peace & leave behind those who are not aligned, the “one track mind” or set in their ways, not open to understanding or seeing a different perspective. And to find your alignment. What you believe in, your core values, what make sense to you, what you stand...

On this episode, i will be sharing about my hijab journey. You will see a more deeper side to me and i poured my heart out like i’ve never done before 🥺. For those who have been following my social media will understand why i speak up about Palestine so much 🍉. This journey, although has only been a short one so far, has opened up my eyes, mind and heart to a much bigger purpose and view on life...

In this episode, i will be talking about how sometimes we question ourselves on why we need to be good and do good things for those who don’t value or appreciate us. Isn’t it a waste of time? Or is it in our nature to do good without getting anything in return? Do we like to take people as “projects” to fix them so we feel good about ourselves or is it to see more good in the world? Whatever that...

In this episode, i will be sharing about FOMO (fear of missing out). We live in a world where we allow society to dictate : you should be married at the age of 25, you should be a CEO at 40, you shouldn’t be a Stay at Home Mom; you should go to work. We should mute these narratives that’s been “planted” in our minds since we were kids. People nagging in our ears and shoving their beliefs & thought...

On this episode, i will be sharing about my healing journey, my emotions journal, amongst other things i try to apply in my life. Finding ways that works for your own healing is therapeutic. It gets you in the zone similar feeling to when you’re praying. And praying makes you forget about worldly matters and focusing on your internal state & Allah SWT. Which is your ultimate healing. The definitio...

On this episode, i will be talking and sharing about how we shouldn’t let compliments get to our heads, and criticism get to our hearts. Treat compliments and criticism like emotions. Let them come and go. Take what’s good to make you grow and leave the bad that’s weighing you down. Moderation is key. I think we get too attached with these things to acknowledge our self worth a lot. So it’s time t...

On this episode, i will be sharing on how we can learn to fight with our partners or the people we love in a more healthy manner, a different approach, a different perspective and direction. Ways to navigate a difficult conversations or disagreements. Find what works for you. What’s your intention and end goal in that fight. Finding the right partner to fight with is also important. Someone who un...

On this episode, i will be sharing about how we look at our past mistakes in life especially when it comes to relationships. These romantic relationships are often what will trigger our traumas, thoughts, reactions & behaviours as it is the closest to us & affects us deeply. We often blame the ppl who have hurt us but have we actually looked at it differently? How we play a part in the break up. A...

In this episode, i will be talking about beliefs, morals, values. How we should stand firm on our beliefs. What we were taught (practises in our religion), how we were raised, the environment we are in, what we consume, what we believe is true, knowing what is right & wrong, what is good & evil etc, all play a huge part in how we turn out to be as adults. Humanity is dying. It is up to us to creat...

Men & Women perceive love and emotions differently. We were raised differently in our thought process when it comes to emotion. No matter how much you disagree, it is true. Women are raised in this fairy tale of “Happily Ever After”. Beauty & The Beast, Cinderella etc. A woman connects emotionally with a man. However, a man connects differently with a woman. They connect emotionally with a woman b...

Having a crush is fun, exciting, refreshing. But when we get infatuated with someone, it’s NOT! Especially when you are self aware. Because infatuation is not real! They’re not true feelings. It could be an obsession or might be an attachment. And it usually lasts for about 4 months or so. This is also the “honeymoon phase” where everything is exciting. You need time to understand your feelings. I...

Forgiveness is a process. Forgive and forget. Can you? As easy as it sounds, it’s not. Not until you go through a stage/process before forgiving someone. A stage called emotional release. This is where you need to fully immerse and understand the hurt and pain you’ve suffered all these years. Acknowledge and be aware of it. Not blame but to understand. To grieve the person that was in pain and was...

Do you realise, that everyone we meet, will bring out different sides of us. Some bring out the worst and some bring out the best version of us. It depends on what stages/phase in life we are at. And how we perceive it. “Leave traces of you in ways they’ll think of you. Leave memories that can be cherished that only you can create. Leave words that will be planted for them to grow in the most beau...

How do you want to be loved? What is love to you? What makes you feel loved, seen and heard? In this episode i will be sharing about our love languages and how each of us give and receive love differently. And how loving yourself, isn’t necessarily as easy as it sounds. It takes commitment and consistent work. Start observing yourself, what triggers you, your patterns in relationships & how to sel...

In this modern world of social media that focuses on status, glitz & glam, power and materialistic things, we tend to get fixated into thinking that it’s never enough. We are never enough. We need more and we need what others have. When in reality, what you need is already in you. Rather than focusing on what’s going on around you and what others have, focus on what’s going on in your internal wor...

Do you know what your personality type is? It reveals how you function in your thoughts and behaviour and how you interact with others. How it relates to your life. In a way, it helps in understanding yourself more. Google : personality test, and answer those questions as honest as you can. From there, you’ll understand why you act or think a certain way. You can leave a msg or comment to me! Clic...

Do you look at your parents in a different light as you grow older? When we were kids, we’d view them as parents/caregivers, not really as someone who had to go through life and raise their kids & family, while being aware & caring for their mental health. That’s alot for someone to take in. Especially for young married couple and new parents. Once you go through that phase, will you only see them...