ALIVE with Tenji

Most of society assumes that everyone should want to get married. It’s seen as the end goal of every successful woman’s life, and the obvious culmination of any happy relationship. But why are we really getting married?  Today I’m sipping bubbles and snacking on nibbles with my friend Lee Nguni! Lee shares my view that we – especially women – should only get married if it makes sense for US. We ch...

Video episode. I have found that trying to love unconditionally has kept me in unbalanced relationships for way longer than I should have been because I was focussing so much on how I was loving the other person and not enough on how I was being loved.  Has this happened to you? I’ve been finding that a more supportive definition for me is “complete love” not “unconditional love” – which means lov...

We’re doing something different today! A listener sent in a question asking for advice as she navigates a long period of waiting for a breakthrough in her career.  She’s trusting the process and feels comfortable with her pace of getting active in the job market after a long period of downtime but worries she’s moving slower than everyone else – is something wrong? It doesn’t help that she’s getti...

There are three things you need to know about me.  1: I have been working my whole life. 2: I hate the topic of “manifestation”. 3: I’m done with being a “good girl”. About number 1:  Believing that I have to work hard for anything good in my life has left me exhausted and resentful and, as I have discovered, completely out of alignment with the fact that life is abundant and contains more than en...

How do we awaken to the truth of who we are as souls? How do we discover, accept, and lean into our power so that it can transform our lives? What does it mean to have a spiritual awakening? What does it look and feel like? What is its purpose, anyway? What does it mean to become one with the Universe and all it is and to birth new realities from that infinite power? How do we use it to manifest t...

This is a special episode with a surprise guest at the end 😉.  I turned 40 this month and something shifted in me this birthday. I arrived into a comfort with who I am that I’ve never had before. I’m a vibe. And I’m capable. And I’ve endured and survived so much. I’m ready for an era of joy, DEEP self-confidence and shining boldly as me on an even bigger scale than I ever have before.    Today I’...

Guys. Everywhere I look I see an unhappy or failed marriage or people going through monumental challenges in order to find marital happiness again. Is marriage all that it’s cracked up to be? Is the cost I’m seeing (the work, heartache, drama, danger) worth the benefits? I’m questioning whether or not I still want it. Does marriage still mean to us and play the role in society that it used to? Sho...

Happy New Year, lovies! My blessing for all of us is that we don’t reject how hard we worked, the risks we took, the fears we faced, and the incredible strides we made in our lives in 2023 by entering into hustle and do the most energy in 2024. Let’s go easier on ourselves this year. Let’s create a soft place for us to land by being our cheerleaders and supporters, and by having REALISTIC expectat...

Join me for a video show and tell of a super comprehensive list of the tools I use to support my spiritual practice – 10 in total! They ground me, sharpen my energy and hone my gifts, help me gain clarity, insight and wisdom, help me connect with my guides, and maintain my physical, emotional and spiritual wellbeing, as well as to learn and master myself. I cover everything from Human Design, astr...

Here’s a rundown of the practices that support me in my spiritual walk and in life in general – 12 in total! From meditation to plant medicine ceremonies to nightly energy clearing and regular healing baths, I do a lot to support myself to remain energetically and spiritually clear, attuned and supported to do my work in this life. Hopefully you get some inspiration for your own spiritual path. As...

I choose not to be affiliated with any single religion or school of thought, but rather, I’ve taken bits and pieces from many of them to form an understanding of what is true that resonates with me. I’m ok with being my own leader and creating my own truth because I trust myself, I have discernment, I’ve cultivated my relationship with my intuition to a point that I’m comfortable letting it be my...

I have endometriosis and I’m in the thick of bad flare which is getting me down and making me wonder: How do I have a good life with this illness? How do I fulfil my desires and live abundantly and get to realise my purpose? Is there a lesson in here that my soul is inviting me to learn about the source of my strength and power and impact? (Clearly there is – and I think I understand some of it.)...

My first video podcast episode! Watch it on Spotify, or listen to the audio in the usual places. Stay tuned to the end of the video for a special message from our spirit guides and oracle card to support us. I’ve done a lot to fight for my voice, my truth, to find my personal power in a family filled with strong personalities and siblings and parents who had a different experience of the same even...

Forgiveness is often spoken about as the only way to truly move on. But is it? What is forgiveness anyway? Is it coming to peace and acceptance? Is it taking someone else off the hook for what they did? Does it mean we must continuously expose ourselves to the scene of the crime or situations and people that wound us repeatedly? Is turning the other cheek really a virtue? Where do boundaries fit i...

I came to the pod to talk about forgiveness but ended up giving an update on my online dating exploits. Lol! I’ve met an interesting guy who’s bringing such different energy into my world that I think he might be the pattern breaker, should I choose to progress with him. I’ve always gone for a certain type of guy and it never works out. This feels like an opportunity to pick something different. T...

If you’re in my inner circle or pay any attention to my Insta stories you’ll know how much I LOVE Human Design. It’s the one archetyping system that has given me the most comprehensive view into who I am not just from a personality and strengths perspective, but also from an energetic and spiritual perspective. (And I am a personality test junkie so I know this one is special!) I believe that one...

Life is real. And hard. So hard for so many of us. Yet we survive the moments that will pull us into the void and come back willing to be here, to keep trying, to keep living and angling ourselves towards life and the gift of being alive. This podcast is about what it means to be ALIVE and to live well. But what happens when it’s hard to keep ourselves alive? I’m a suicide survivor – that’s what I...

As I advance on my spiritual path, I’m discovering more about consciousness i.e., our awareness of what is. There’s more than just the mind, which is what we typically refer to as conscious or subconscious awareness. There are 5 more levels of consciousness, in fact. The 3 individual ones are: somatic (body), spiritual (soul) and non-mind (a mysterious beauty I recently discovered that is hugely p...

I’m talking about it all – How respectability politics set us up to fail in our marriages. How single sexually-active women are villains. How men want ladies in the streets but freaks in the sheets yet they marry sexually inexperienced women. How women’s vagina’s belong to their fathers then to Jesus, then to their husbands and then to the grave when their husbands die - but never to themselves (a...

This is an ode to my parents – my late father, Dr Kombo James Moyana, and my living mother, Marcia Petricia Moyana. Our souls choose our parents. It blew my mind when I discovered this because my parents were both my first loves (I idolised them) and my greatest heartbreak (they broke my spirit). They’ve left me with so many gifts of character, values, support and rich experience, but they also le...

I was raised believing that hard work = success, that we earn everything we have, that we can get what we need but wants are another story, that life is generally hard and nothing good comes easy, that at any moment we can lose everything we have so we have to be austere and humble…   It’s led me to distrust flow, to settle for less sometimes, to horde resources or be quick to downgrade so that I...

Guys. Patriarchy has us in a choke hold. All of us. Men and women. I hate seeing what it does to men – how much they suffer because of it. But the feminist movement is coming for them too and asking them if they’re coping being as disconnected from their feminine energy as we were from our masculine energy.   There’s a beautiful invitation for men to find healing and more freedom if they can let g...

Your girl is on Bumble and LOVING it. This is the best online dating run I’ve ever had. Hot men, smart men, sparkly bantery connections, down to earth people. It’s so nice. But I’ve also been on a date with a guy who refused to take off his sunglasses during the entire date! And the other guy who called my spirituality pagan LOL. That went nowhere. I’m experiencing a lot and seeing the fruits of a...

Your girl is on Bumble and LOVING it. This is the best online dating run I’ve ever had. Hot men, smart men, sparkly bantery connections, down to earth people. It’s so nice. But I’ve also been on a date with a guy who refused to take off his sunglasses during the entire date! And the other guy who called my spirituality pagan LOL. That went nowhere. I’m experiencing a lot and seeing the fruits of a...

I’m single at 39 and spent most of my 20s and 30s feeling ashamed at “not being able to make love work” and falling prey to all the ways that society tells a woman she’s at fault or less-than if no one has chosen her. Even though I never lacked marriage options and proposals, relationships never stuck for me. Discovering and unpacking my trauma and learning what my soul’s intention is for this lif...