IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective

"Send Ben a text" Does your teen put off homework until the last minute, then somehow get it all done in a rush? Maybe you're tired of reminding him, checking his grades, and watching him fall further behind. But what if your teen's procrastination isn't all bad? What if there's actually a skill hiding inside it? In this episode of IMPACT! Parenting with Perspective ,...

"Send Ben a text" What do you do when your teen is struggling, but he doesn’t want help? Maybe he won’t talk to you. Maybe he refuses therapy or coaching. Maybe he doesn’t even think there’s a problem. That can leave you feeling scared, stuck, and desperate to get through to him. But trying harder to fix your teen may not be the best place to start. In this episode, I’ll show you what yo...

"Send Ben a text" Your teen probably doesn’t need more rules. And he probably doesn’t need harsher consequences either. What he may need is better leadership. In this episode, I share three simple ideas that changed the way I led as a high school principal and still shape the way I parent and coach today: Model. Connect. Involve. You’ll learn why trying to control your teen can actually...

"Send Ben a text" What do better boundaries with your teen actually look like? A lot of parents think better boundaries mean more rules, bigger consequences, or finally getting their teen to listen. But that’s not the goal. Better boundaries are about getting clear on what belongs to you, what belongs to your teen, and what happens when an agreement isn’t followed. In this episode, I’ll...

"Send Ben a text" Does your teen question everything, push back, argue, or seem determined to do things his own way? That strong will can be exhausting. But it might also become one of his greatest strengths. In this episode, Ben shares why your goal isn’t to break your teen’s will. It’s to help him learn how to use it. You’ll learn why strong-willed teens often struggle with traditional...

"Send Ben a text" You know what to do. Stay calm. Don’t take it personally. Get curious. Hold the boundary. But then your teen pushes back, rolls his eyes, ignores you, or says something disrespectful... And suddenly, all those parenting tools seem to disappear. In this episode, Ben explains why knowing what to do with your teen isn’t the same as being able to do it when things get hard....

"Send Ben a text" One of the biggest fears parents have about giving their teen more of a voice is this: “What if he thinks he’s in charge?” Maybe you’ve tried to compromise before. You gave him an inch, and he tried to take a mile. So now it feels safer to just make the rule, hold the line, and expect him to obey. But there’s a problem with that. When every boundary becomes about gettin...

"Send Ben a text" If everything feels like a fight with your teen, it can be hard to know where to start. Phones. Video games. Chores. Grades. Bedtime. Disrespect. Responsibility. It can feel like every problem needs a different solution. But what if they don’t? In this episode, I’ll show you why boundaries are one of the best places to start when things feel off with your teen. You’ll l...

"Send Ben a text" Have you ever set a simple boundary with your teen… and somehow ended up in a 45-minute argument? The boundary might not be the real problem. In this episode, Ben explains why boundaries often turn into fights, even when the boundary is fair and clear. You’ll learn why too many reminders can make your teen less responsible, why your teen doesn’t have to agree with your...

"Send Ben a text" Back-to-school season can make parents feel like they need to manage everything. Grades. Homework. Bedtime. Phones. Missing assignments. Attitude. But what if some of the rules parents follow are actually making things harder? In this episode, I share 3 back-to-school rules I think parents of teens should break. You’ll learn why school may not need to be the most import...

"Send Ben a text" Worrying about your teen may feel like part of being a good parent. But worry doesn’t protect your teen. It doesn’t predict the future. And it rarely helps you prepare. Instead, it can make you practice the future you’re most afraid of. In this episode, Ben shares how he spent three days worrying about a hard conversation. He lost sleep, felt sick, and imagined everythi...

"Send Ben a text" Have you ever felt like you're trying so hard to connect with your teen... but nothing seems to work? In this episode, I sit down with a former coaching client who shares how one small shift changed her relationship with her teenage son. She talks honestly about the frustration, the fear of getting it wrong, and the moment she realized she didn't need to chang...

"Send Ben a text" What if your teen still wants to connect with you, just not in the way you expect? A lot of parents think, “My teen wants nothing to do with me.” He stays in his room. He gives one-word answers. He wears headphones. He plays video games. He acts annoyed when you ask about his day. But maybe your teen is not rejecting you. Maybe he just does not want connection to feel l...

"Send Ben a text" If you feel like you're always reminding, arguing, or trying to get your teen to make better choices, this episode is for you. Many parents think they need to control their teen to help them succeed. But the harder you try to control them, the more they often push back. In this episode, Ben shares five lessons he has learned from coaching football that can complete...

"Send Ben a text" Most parenting advice sounds good. Be more consistent. Set better rules. Use better consequences. Say the right words. Stay calm. But what if the real problem is that most advice points you at the wrong person? In this episode, Ben talks about why so much parenting advice leaves moms feeling stuck, guilty, and more frustrated with their teen. You’ll learn why your teen’...

"Send Ben a text" What do you do when your teen wants more freedom, but the trust is broken? In this episode, I talk with Brayden, a teen I’ve coached who went from almost no trust with his parents to earning more freedom, more peace, and a much better relationship at home. Brayden shares what it was like to feel watched, questioned, and not trusted. He also talks about the work he had t...

"Send Ben a text" Do you feel like you are always reacting to your teen? You ask a question. They push back. You get frustrated. They shut down. Then you feel guilty. In this episode, I talk with Sarah Mueller, a mom of four boys and the founder of The Decluttering Club. Sarah shares how coaching helped her feel more calm, clear, and equipped as a parent. She talks about what changed in...

"Send Ben a text" Giving your teen a voice can feel risky. You want him to learn responsibility, but you also do not want him running the house. You want less pushback, but you do not want to become a pushover. In this episode, Ben talks about how to give your teen a voice without giving him the final say. You’ll learn why teens are more likely to take ownership when they help create the...

"Send Ben a text" When your teen says, “I’ll do it later,” it can feel like they are ignoring you, avoiding responsibility, or trying to start a fight. But “later” does not have to turn into a power struggle. In this episode, I’ll show you one simple question to ask when your teen says “later”: “What time later?” This question helps your teen move from vague promises to a real plan. It g...

"Send Ben a text" Summer with your teen should not feel like a full-time job. But if you are always reminding, chasing, checking, nagging, and managing everything, it is no wonder you feel worn out. In this episode, Ben talks about 7 ways to overcome mom fatigue with your teen by stepping out of the “summer police” role. You will learn why your teen may not be taking responsibility, how...

"Send Ben a text" Do your boundaries with your teen always turn into fights? You ask him to get off the game, do his chores, go to bed, or follow a summer rule… and suddenly you are in another battle. In this episode, Ben explains why this happens. A lot of parents think they are setting boundaries, but they are really reacting after things have already gone too far. And a reaction is no...

"Send Ben a text" Do you and your teen keep having the same fight over and over again? Maybe it’s about chores, screen time, sleep, attitude, or video games. And with summer coming, you may already feel stressed about what’s ahead. In this episode, Ben explains why summer often makes these fights worse. But here’s the good news: summer is not the real problem. Your teen is not the proble...

"Send Ben a text" Is your teen struggling right now? Maybe he is stressed, frustrated, disappointed, or ready to give up. And as a parent, you may want to jump in and fix it. But what if your teen needs some struggle? In this episode, Ben and Cortni talk about how resilience is built. It does not come from having an easy life. It comes from doing hard things and learning, “I can get thro...

"Send Ben a text" Is your teen staying up too late, sleeping through alarms, and walking around tired all day? You might think your teen has a sleep problem. But what if sleep is not the real issue? In this episode, Ben and Cortni talk about the real reason many teens won’t go to bed. It is not just phones, video games, homework, or bad habits. A lot of teens are trying to fit sleep into...

"Send Ben a text" If your teen keeps breaking the same rules…  and nothing you try is working… this episode is for you. Most parents think they have a behavior problem. But that’s not the real issue. You don’t have a behavior problem…  you have a boundary problem. In this episode, we break down why consequences often fail and what to do instead. You’ll learn how to stop focusing on what...