IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective

"Send Ben a text" Is your teen lazy… or are you just looking at it the wrong way? In this episode, we break down why your teen might not be motivated—and why it’s not what you think. Most teens aren’t lazy. They’re motivated by comfort, fun, and what matters to them… not always what matters to you. You’ll learn how motivation really works, why your teen resists what you push, and how to...

"Send Ben a text" In this episode, Ben and Nola Gephart talk about why teens want freedom but often avoid responsibility—and what parents can do about it. You’ll learn how to stop rescuing your teen, empower them to grow up, and help them earn independence the right way. NolaGephartCoaching.com Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and...

"Send Ben a text" If you feel like you’re repeating yourself every day—and your teen still doesn’t listen—this episode is for you. “Be home on time.” “Do your homework.” “Get off your phone.” And nothing changes. Most parents think they have a teen problem. But what if it’s actually a boundary problem?  In this episode, we break down why most parenting boundaries don’t work—and how to fi...

"Send Ben a text" What if your teen isn’t the problem? Most parenting advice tells you to fix their behavior. Get them to listen. Change their attitude. But what if that’s exactly why it’s not working? In this episode, I sit down with Randon Young, author of Foundations for Business Relationships , to unpack simple but powerful relationship principles that weren’t written for parents… bu...

"Send Ben a text" You said “I’m sorry”…  But your teen is still upset. Now what? Most parents think an apology should fix things.  But with teens, it often doesn’t—and that’s where the frustration starts. In this episode, I’ll show you why your apology didn’t land…  and what your teen actually needs from you instead. You’ll learn:  Why “I’m sorry” alone often falls flat   The common mist...

"Send Ben a text" Do you feel like your teen is pulling away? They don’t talk. They stay in their room. And nothing seems to work. Most parents think the problem is their teen. But what if it’s not? In this episode, I share why teens feel disconnected—and what actually helps you rebuild that connection. It’s simpler than you think. And it starts with you. 🎧 Listen now to learn how to re...

"Send Ben a text" Does it feel like your teen is pulling away from you? Most parents respond by trying to control things. They give more advice, fix problems, and try to guide every decision. But control often pushes teens farther away. In this episode of IMPACT! Parenting with Perspective , Ben and Cortni share two powerful parenting ideas: The Pool Edge and The Steering Wheel . You’ll...

"Send Ben a text" When your teen melts down emotionally, most parents react the wrong way. But what if the most powerful parenting skill isn’t fixing your teen’s emotions? In this episode, we explore the emotional awareness skill that can make parenting teens much easier. Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Tak...

"Send Ben a text" Do you ever find yourself reacting just like your teen? They get angry… and you get angry.  They panic… and you panic.  They shut down… and you shut down. Most parents don’t mean to do this. But when we mirror our teen’s bad behavior, we actually make things worse. In this episode, I talk about the difference between mirroring and modeling . You’ll learn: Why awareness...

"Send Ben a text" Are teens today really less resilient? Or have we misunderstood what resilience actually is? In this episode, I break down 5 common myths about teen resilience that many parents believe. These myths can lead to more fear, more panic, and more stress at home. You’ll learn: Why sadness is not an emergency Why emotional pain is not dangerous Why protecting your teen can ac...

"Send Ben a text" Most parents believe they’re emotionally intelligent — but parenting teens reveals the truth fast. In this episode of IMPACT! Parenting with Perspective , we break down the emotional skill every parent thinks they have (but usually doesn’t) and why missing it leads to frustration, yelling, guilt, and disconnection. You’ll learn: The difference between emotional health,...

"Send Ben a text" What do you do when your teen won’t listen, won’t change, or won’t accept help?  Maybe they refuse coaching, therapy, or even a simple conversation. In this episode, Ben Pugh talks to parents who feel stuck and worn out. He shares what you can do when your teen isn’t willing to work on themselves. You’ll learn how to stop trying to control what you can’t, focus on what...

"Send Ben a text" Many parents today are scared. Everywhere you look, there are headlines saying phones, social media, AI, and screen time are driving teen suicide. It can feel overwhelming. And when parents feel afraid, they often start parenting from panic. In this episode, I want to slow things down and zoom out. We talk about what the data actually shows about teen suicide. We look a...

"Send Ben a text" Parenting a teen can feel draining.  You might feel tired, frustrated, or stuck in stress mode. If that’s you, this episode is here to help. In this conversation, Ben and Cortni talk about why parenting feels so exhausting and how to start feeling better fast. The problem usually isn’t your teen. It’s where your energy and focus are going. You’ll learn simple shifts tha...

"Send Ben a text" Blowups. Overreactions. Now What Do I Do? Every parent has a moment they wish they could take back.  You raise your voice. You overreact. You walk away feeling awful. In this episode, Ben Pugh and Cortni talk about what really matters after those ugly parenting moments. You’ll learn why blowups happen, how stress and exhaustion play a role, and why repairing the relatio...

"Send Ben a text" Do you ever feel like the harder you push, the more your teen pulls away?  You’re trying to help—but it keeps turning into lectures, power struggles, or shutdowns. In this episode of IMPACT! Parenting with Perspective , Ben speaks directly to dads who feel stuck between caring deeply and controlling too much. Using simple sports coaching examples, he explains why contro...

"Send Ben a text" Every January, parents set big goals.  And every February, most of those goals are gone. In this episode, Ben explains why New Year’s goals fail every time —and what actually works instead. The problem isn’t willpower.  It’s not motivation.  And it’s not that you’re doing something wrong. Most people start with what they want to do . Real change starts with who you want...

"Send Ben a text" What if your teen isn’t the problem? In this Christmas episode, Ben shares a powerful lesson from A Christmas Carol . Scrooge wasn’t a bad man—he was a wounded one. The same is often true for parents. When teens trigger us, it’s usually a sign that there’s healing work to do inside ourselves. This episode will help you parent with more clarity, compassion, and confidenc...

"Send Ben a text" The holidays can feel busy, loud, and stressful — especially when you’re parenting teens. Many parents try to fix this by setting big goals or New Year’s resolutions, but those don’t usually last. In this episode, Ben Pugh shares a better way. Instead of chasing goals, Ben talks about building simple traditions and habits that help you become the parent and person you w...

"Send Ben a text" Your teen might hate you sometimes… and you can still have a great relationship with them. Most parents think their relationship with their teen is something they both share. But that’s not how it works. You have your own relationship with your teen , and your teen has their own relationship with you —and they’re not the same. In this episode, you’ll learn:  • Why your...

"Send Ben a text" Your teen’s attitude, your frustration, and the same old fights aren’t the real problem — your programming is. In this episode, Ben and Cortni break down why parents get stuck repeating the same patterns even when they’re trying to “do better,” and how a surprising back injury (and some AI wisdom) revealed the deeper truth about how to change. You’ll learn why your old...

"Send Ben a text" The Gratitude Shift That Can Save Your Thanksgiving Thanksgiving is amazing… until it’s not.  Family drama. Stress. That one uncle. The comments you wish you didn’t hear.  But what if ONE mindset shift could help you enjoy the day instead of surviving it? In this quick Thanksgiving special, Ben and Cortni talk about the real secret to gratitude — not the cheesy, forced...

"Send Ben a text" Identity is your hidden superpower as a parent. In this episode, Ben shares a powerful story from the football field about getting out of the victim mindset, redefining his identity, and modeling the exact behavior he wanted to see in his players — and how the same principle can transform your parenting. You'll learn why your teen doesn’t need a perfect parent… jus...

"Send Ben a text" Ever tried to push your teen to change… only to have them push right back? You’re not alone. In this episode, Ben breaks down why trying to force your teen to change almost always backfires—and what to do instead. You’ll learn how to stop pushing, start leading, and model the kind of growth you actually want to see in your teen. Ben shares real-life examples (including...

"Send Ben a text" When your teen suddenly “stops caring” — about school, sports, church, or even family — it can feel like everything’s falling apart.  Maybe they used to try hard, follow rules, and keep you happy.  Now, they’re unmotivated, moody, or even defiant. Most parents panic at this point.  But what if your teen’s “not caring” isn’t a breakdown… it’s actually a breakthrough? In...