You Control You

Stop waiting for people to prove themselves and start practicing healthy relationships by offering trust upfront. Most people hold back, believing they need to see evidence of character before they offer any respect to a new partner. This strategy often creates distance rather than closeness. Instead, this video explores why flipping the script—offering trust as a default setting rather than a rew...

Build healthy relationships by focusing on your own personal growth instead of searching for a perfect partner. Learn to improve yourself first. Many people spend years looking for the right person, only to realize that the most effective way to improve their dating life is to work on their own development. This video explains why your personal growth is the foundation of any long-term connection....

An MMA comeback at 40 is more than a physical decision—it forces you to confront grief, responsibility, ego, and the legacy you want to leave behind. In this episode of the You Control You Podcast, ShaH Evans sits down with veteran professional MMA fighter, coach, and Ronin Muay Thai owner Charlie “Hollywood” Brown. Charlie opens up about the grandfather who introduced him to boxing, why losing hi...

12 fighters. 14 fights. 4 belts. After four months of fight camp, Wolf Pack Combat Academy stepped into the 2026 TBA Muay Thai Classic. But this episode is about much more than championships, wins, and losses. I talk about leading without having all the answers, changing game plans during fights, questioning myself after a brutal run of losses, and pulling myself back together because more fighter...

Most men quietly battle a persistent fear of failure that keeps them up at night. Learn how to address the weight of expectations and stop doubting your own progress. It is common to feel like you are falling behind in life, especially when the lines between business success and family responsibilities blur. This conversation strips away the performance of masculinity to look directly at the inter...

Self improvement is not only about building a successful business, making more money, or earning recognition. Real self improvement is about building your character, developing self discipline, strengthening your relationships, and becoming someone you are proud to see in the mirror. In this episode of the You Control You Podcast, Mark ShaH Evans explores personal growth, leadership, purpose, disc...

Everyone tells you to "be realistic."But every champion, entrepreneur, and leader was called crazy before they were successful. Muhammad Ali. Kobe Bryant. Michael Jordan. Conor McGregor. They all believed long before anyone else did. The difference wasn't belief alone. It was relentless work. In this episode I break down why controlled delusion is one of the greatest advantages you c...

Most men think they have a discipline problem. They don't. The real problem is the patterns their brain has been repeating for years. In this episode of the You Control You Podcast, ShaH Evans breaks down the neuroscience behind discipline, trauma, fear, confidence, and why your emotions should never become your leader. Learn how your brain predicts your future based on your past, why most peo...

What separates champions from everyone else? It isn't talent. It isn't motivation. It isn't confidence. It's the ability to function when you don't feel like it. In this episode, Coach ShaH breaks down the difference between Coolers, Closers, and Cleaners from Tim Grover's Relentless and explains why emotional control, discipline, and standards create greatness. Using Bri&#...

Are you defined by your past actions or your current choices? Learn how to balance your personal growth by looking at your life. We often struggle to reconcile who we were with who we are becoming. This discussion explores the reality that our character is not fixed, but rather a collection of choices that can change over time. It is for anyone trying to understand how past mistakes coexist with c...

Building a career in MMA coaching is more than just holding pads; it is a full-time commitment to your fighters. Hear the reality of the daily grind. This video explores the path toward becoming a professional fight trainer and the dedication required to run a gym. If you are pursuing a career in combat sports, you understand that the dream of coaching fighters is often balanced against the heavy...

It's time to move beyond just surviving and truly embrace life. The speaker emphasizes that seeking "therapy in a nutshell" provides a non-judgmental space, fostering "personal growth" and "emotional health." This approach to "self care" offers "support" and is crucial for those who may feel they lack a support system, highlighting the importan...

Does your child snore at night? Learn the warning signs of obstructive sleep apnea in children and why early identification matters. Many parents notice their child struggling with sleep, but identifying the root cause is crucial. This video explains how children develop obstructive sleep apnea, starting from simple snoring and progressing to upper respiratory resistance. We break down the anatomi...

Adopt a black belt mindset to improve your daily results. Learn how martial arts discipline builds the accountability needed for success. This discussion explores how the mental tools required to become a fighter are identical to the principles needed to succeed in any area of life. If you struggle with consistency or follow-through, these concepts offer a practical framework for improvement. We f...

In this conversation, we explore the core of "You Control You," focusing on the power of choice and discovering what we can truly cause in our lives. We discuss the importance of self development and self improvement, drawing from years of psychology research. Understanding self control and decision making is crucial for personal growth. Linktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

Most people don’t want the truth… they want comfort. That’s what this conversation exposes. This discussion touches on personal development and self improvement, highlighting how many choose comfort over honesty. It's a deep dive into the motivation behind our choices, especially within modern relationships. Ultimately, it’s about facing the truth for genuine growth. Linktree - https://linktr....

In this conversation, we explore the journey of self improvement and self development, discussing various success habits that can lead to personal growth. This podcast-style discussion is designed to offer insights and actionable steps for anyone looking to refine their approach to life. Join us as we dive deep into strategies for building a stronger self. https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

In this powerful discussion, we dive into the complexities of Black History Month, questioning its role and impact on American history. We explore whether Black history should stand on its own—or be fully integrated into American history year-round—and how different perspectives, including voices like Morgan Freeman, challenge the way we think about race, identity, and education. This conversation...

Infidelity changes everything. In this episode of You Control You, I talk about something most men never say out loud — what it feels like after the woman you love cheats on you. A lot of people assume the answer is simple: just leave. But the truth is more complicated than that. Many men stay. Not because they are weak, but because life, family, children, pride, love, and years of shared history...

In this episode of You Control You, I sit down with two women who have played a major role in my life and in the lives of our children. My daughter’s mother Amber and my ex wife Cherrelle join me for a real conversation about co parenting, family, and learning to put the kids first even when life gets complicated. This is not a perfect story. It is a real one. We talk about the early years when th...

Being a father isn’t about personal ambition. It’s about leadership. Real leadership means guiding the next generation with purpose. It means discipline. It means self-control. It means building something that outlives you. If all you chase is your own success, you’re building ego. If you build your son to surpass you, you’re building legacy. Your job isn’t to have him follow in your footsteps. It...

Building something meaningful rarely feels peaceful. It feels like pressure, doubt, responsibility, and the constant demand to grow. In this episode of You Control You , Mark ShaH Evans dives into the reality of entrepreneurship and leadership. The truth is simple but uncomfortable: peace is not the goal. Growth is. Entrepreneurship often feels like stepping onto a battlefield. Every day demands r...

When you're pursuing a career and raising a family, prioritizing becomes everything. This video emphasizes the importance of a clear "focus on goals," ensuring that your ambitions don't overshadow what truly matters in your personal life. It's about finding that crucial "parenting balance" and effective "time management" to build the life you want without...

There is a moment in life where you realize the truth: nobody is coming to save you. No rescue. No perfect timing. No bailout plan. It is on you. And as heavy as that feels, it is also freedom. The second you accept personal responsibility, you stop living in victim mode and you start making moves. This mindset is for men, for fathers, for leaders, and for entrepreneurs. The crown does not get lig...

Personal development doesn’t happen by accident. Men’s self improvement comes from structure, not motivation alone. If you want to change your life, you need systems you can track. That’s why I use a habit tracker instead of relying on how I feel. I build my days intentionally. I review what’s working and what’s not. This Notion tutorial shows how I track habits, stay disciplined, and keep momentu...