What To Do When

Ever feel like the end of the year sneaks up, brings a megaphone, and shouts: “You haven’t done enough!” ? As you see other people celebrating their big wins, it’s so easy to fall into the trap of comparison—questioning your progress, your worth, and your future. Suddenly, you’re knee-deep in a spiral of self-doubt and drafting a wild list of ego-driven goals for 2025. In this episode, we’re talki...

Ever look at other people’s friendships — how close and supportive they are — and get just a little... jealous? Wonder if you’re ever going to have those soulmate friendships like you see on Instagram? SAME. In this episode, we spill the tea on how to actually build those deeper, more meaningful connections. We’re diving into the truth about how friendships can make or break our mental health, and...

In this empowering episode, we dive deep into the world of self-confidence and reveal that it's so much more than just "faking it till you make it." Together, we break down how true confidence is built on a foundation of self-acceptance and authenticity, not perfection or external validation. Expect an honest conversation about how societal pressures and media often distort our ideas of what confi...

In this episode, we dive deep into the roots of perfectionism, how it often stems from childhood experiences and the pressures we all face in today’s world.  For many, perfectionism is more than just striving for excellence—it's a coping mechanism, a way to maintain control and protect our self-worth.   But as we discuss, there's so much power in understanding where this need comes from, so we can...

We’ve all been there—saying yes when we really want to say no, bending over backward to keep everyone else happy while feeling totally drained ourselves. 🙋‍♀️In this episode, Kelsey and I get real about how people-pleasing has impacted our lives and share all the juicy tips to break free from it! In this episode, we chat about: Surrounding yourself with people who lift you up (because vibes matte...

Ever find yourself panicking about ticking biological clocks, societal expectations, and the feeling of falling behind in life’s milestones? You’re not alone. In this week’s episode, Kelsey and I dive deep into these pressing concerns, sharing our own experiences and insights on the journey of getting closer to 30, facing societal pressures, and navigating the complex emotions tied to aging, relat...

My friends, its Kathleen here - and I almost got LOVE BOMBED for the 3rd time recently. And Kelsey genuinely had no idea what love-bombing was. Let’s dish and discuss all things that is the phenomenon we call, love-bombing. Join Kelsey and I as she interviews me on the hilarious experiences I’ve had with love-bombers, including the the raw & honest thing I know I shouldn’t say - but being love...

This one is a raw and honest conversation, Kathleen and Kelsey dive deep into the fear of being seen. TW: SA We explore the complex interplay between trauma, body image, and self-worth that can fuel the fear of being fully visible. From bullying experiences to the pressures of societal expectations, we unpack the origins of this unconscious fear and its impact on our lives. Key takeaways from this...

I thought my intuition was BROKEN for most of my life because I had NO "gut feel", NO "hell yes" feelings, NO super decisive, Morgan Freeman-esque voice in my head telling me what to do 😂 Turns out, my intuition was just offline as I'd spent years learning to repress it. Join Kelsey and I as we talk about the power of intuition, the myths + how to build a true, lasting con...

Imagine someone with an anxious attachment style getting to interview someone with an avoidant attachment style - WELL, this is exactly what this episode is. Kathleen (more anxious) interviews Kelsey (more avoidant) about exactly how she thinks, feels and experiences dating & relationships as an avoidant + all the things she had to consciously work on and change to become more secure in hersel...

Welcoming in our NEW co-host Kelsey to the show!!!! Kelsey interviews me (aka gets me to spill the tea on my dating life + how she has called me out many times ) on what its been like dating again (after a 2+ year single era) WITH an anxious attachment style. I'm sharing the ins and outs of navigating dating after a long break, repeating old anxious patterns with an f-boy and how I reclaimed my po...

Bad days. We all have em, and we don't talk about them enough. In the past, on these “bad days" I felt like I was wasting my life. Shame rained down on me constantly, drowning me and making it feel near impossible to even come up for air, let alone believe in myself enough to take all the big steps I needed to take to become a coach, start a business & podcast, start dating again - these things al...

CLOSURE. The thing that we all want but never seem to have, no matter if it was a situationship or a 6 year relationship. In this episode I’m walking you through my favourite exercise for “closure” + chatting through all the misconceptions we have about closure and how to actually get it. Free Connection Call with Kathleen: https://tidycal.com/kathleenmindsetcoach/connect (Chat about coaching and...

Have you ever felt like you've lost yourself? This episode dives into that icky, uncomfortable feeling of disconnection that can strike after major life changes, relationship shifts, or simply the "going through the motions" routine. We explore: Why we lose touch with ourselves: Learn what triggers that feeling of disconnection and how it shows up in your life. A powerful coaching exercise: We'll...

Ready for part 2? Let's talk about helpful tips, tools and practices to heal the father wound, build more love, trust and confidence in yourself + create the relationships you really want. Join the free 5-day Inner Child Healing Challenge here: https://super-wildflower-932.myflodesk.com/c99440de-5165-4166-b6b3-012465456e8b Book in a Connection Call with Kathleen here to chat about coaching and see...

We've all heard the term "daddy issues" thrown around, and the shameful, somewhat negative connotation created by the media (desperation, low self-esteem etc) but what does it actually mean? Buckle up, because this episode dives deep into the father wound, a complex emotional scar that’s so important to unshame, see, feel, and acknowledge. + I share my own experience of daddy issues and what heali...

Feel to heal. Great concept. Harder to put into action. Something clients share all the time is that they are afraid to feel and process their own emotions. That if they open Pandora's box, they won’t be able to get it shut again and they will be overwhelmed. We all know the benefits of feeling + processing your emotions instead of holding onto them, but today’s question is…What do you actually DO...

Feeling self-conscious and insecure is something that most humans experience but we often don’t talk about. Confidence is the dream, but there’s so much holding you back. Pushing away your insecurities isn’t working anymore, and this episode explores all the reasons why insecurity and self-consciousness exists, its purpose, how it gets triggered and how you can begin to work with it in a different...

If you've been feeling stuck or overwhelmed with the direction of your life, this episode is for you. Its time to stop analysing everything, trying to get everything "right" and blocking yourself from the magic waiting to happen in your life. Its time to surrender to your life's current calling. Book in a Connection Call with Kathleen here: https://tidycal.com/kathleenmindsetcoach/connect Lear mor...

Today's episode is about gaining weight/watching your body change as you are trying to heal body image wounds. This episode speaks to my personal struggle after healing from an ED and challenging negative body-image issues over the last few years. Weight gain has steadily happened and there's been moments of celebration and acceptance AND there's been massive moments of fear, disgust, criticism, j...

Tired of feeling like your period throws a wrench in your fitness plans every month? Us too! That's why the latest episode of What To Do When dives deep into the fascinating world of your cycle and its impact on training, appetite, and mental resilience.   We're joined by the amazing Coach Susan Duncan, a trainer, business owner, and period pro, to help you: * Unleash your cycle superpower: Ditch...

This episode dives deep into the habit of overthinking, offering a tool-driven and relatable approach. Listeners will discover the hidden messages behind their overthinking tendencies and learn practical tools to transform their relationship with this common struggle. We'll explore a powerful coaching exercise to connect with the "overthinking part" of ourselves, offering compassion and understand...

Feeling like you're falling behind, stuck in the wrong place, or just plain lost? You're not alone! This episode dives deep into the pressure to fit societal molds, explores the science of happiness, and empowers you to create a life that truly aligns with your authentic self. Key Takeaways: * The Happiness Myth: We unpack the pressure to check societal boxes and how it undermines genuine happines...

ever feel imposter syndrome at work? Scared to speak up in meetings? and find your butt-cheeks clenching at any mention of the F word — feedback In this episode we tap into the expertise of Tash Pieterse, a renowned leadership & mindset coach who empowers professionals to own their voice, unlock their full potential and confidently thrive in both work and home life ✨ Together, we'll tackle topics...

Feeling a little... TIRED, EXHAUSTED, OVERWHELMED?   Guess what? Healing burnout is real. And even the most dedicated self-development warriors can get overwhelmed by the constant introspection, emotional excavation, and well, let's face it, inner turmoil that comes with growth.   In this episode delve into the nitty-gritty of this often ignored phenomenon with special guest, the brilliant and ins...