What To Do When

If you’ve been waiting to feel ready before you begin, this episode is for you. In this Monday Motivation, I’m talking about perfectionism, fear, and the quiet ways we talk ourselves out of the life we actually want. I share honestly about love, failure, shame, and the moments that forced me to choose between hiding… or trying again. This is your permission slip for 2026. To stop waiting. To make...

What if 2026 wasn’t about getting it right… but about giving yourself permission to fail? In this episode, I’m sharing a softer way to enter the new year, one that doesn’t require a perfect plan, endless goals, or burning yourself out trying to do everything. We talk about: Why trying to hold everything as “important” leads to overwhelm How to use your values to decide what actually matters in 202...

If you’re crawling to the finish line of 2025 and your brain is doing that end-of-year thing where it starts tallying everything you didn’t do, this episode is your permission slip to exhale. We’re shifting out of measuring success through productivity, and into something softer: self-compassion, acceptance, and noticing the small moments that added up, even if it didn’t look “impressive” from the...

I know we all say “it’s okay not to be okay” but when it’s actually you who’s not okay, it usually doesn’t feel that way, does it? This week I’ve been sitting in that space, the one where your brain is desperate to minimise, distract, and pretend everything’s fine, when it’s really not. And honestly, it’s been confronting to notice how fast I want to move on, fix, support everyone else, and avoid...

You know that weird energy that hits around this time of year? The “how is it already October?” panic, the guilt of unfinished goals, and the quiet shame that whispers you should’ve done more. In this episode, we’re talking about the end of year scaries, that mix of scarcity, fear, and comparison that creeps in when you realise 2025 is almost over and you’re not where you thought you’d be. We’ll u...

Ever felt trapped in a job, relationship, or plan that looks “perfect on paper” but feels completely wrong in your body? This episode is your official permission slip to pivot. We’re breaking down: ✨ Why we cling to things that aren’t working (hello conditioning) ✨ The difference between resistance vs. misalignment ✨ How pivoting is actually self-leadership, not failure If you’ve been waiting f...

Ever look at other people’s friendships and wonder why it feels so hard for you? Like everyone else has their “soulmate friends” while you’re stuck with surface-level connections, loneliness, or just a nagging sense that something’s missing? In this episode of What To Do When… I’m talking about the real, messy truth of building friendships as an adult. Because here’s the thing: friendships massive...

Ever fallen off something important to you — a goal, a project, a practice, a dream — and then found every excuse in the book not to start again? Yep… same. This is my big, messy comeback episode. After ghosting my own podcast for 2 months (🙃), I’m pulling back the curtain on: ✨ Why shame is the real thing that keeps us stuck (not the falling off itself) ✨ How to reconnect with your WHY when th...

If you’ve ever felt shame around pleasure, been nervous about trying sex toys, or wondered how the hell to ask for what you actually like in bed — this episode is your new safe space. Kathleen is joined by Viv from Girls Get Off — the powerhouse brand behind some very buzzy bedside drawer staples — for a no-filter conversation on all things pleasure, desire, and ditching the shame. They get into:...

Feel like you’re too much, not enough, or one awkward text away from being exiled from the group chat? Yep. Been there. This episode is for the overthinkers, the approval-seekers, the “they took 3 hours to reply so they probably hate me” crowd.(raising my hand here too). In this vulnerable, no-fluff chat, we dive deep into: Why rejection spirals hit so hard (hint: it’s not just in your head — it’s...

If you’ve ever asked everyone else for advice… and still felt more confused, this episode is for you. This one’s for the deep feelers, the spirallers, the ones who’ve built a voting system just to make a decision — only to feel further away from their own gut. Inside this episode: Why self-trust is so hard (especially if you’re an overthinker) How childhood and past relationships shape your decisi...

Ever felt like you're emotionally self-aware but still stuck ? You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, analysed your triggers — but nothing’s really changing? This episode is for you. Inside today’s solo, I’m walking you through the 5 stages of emotional growth and healing — the exact process I’ve witnessed every single client move through inside my 1:1 coaching program, HEAL. We explore...

You’re ticking the boxes. Doing everything “right.” Showing up, trying, pushing forward. So why does it still feel like you’re falling behind? Or worse—like you’re quietly failing at life? This episode is for the person who looks like they’ve got it all together… but inside, they’re exhausted by the pressure to prove their worth. We’re talking high-functioning anxiety, invisible timelines, and the...

In this episode, we’re flipping the script on boundaries. If you’ve ever felt like setting boundaries makes you mean , cold , or too much — or if you’ve used boundaries as a way to keep people out rather than let the right people in — this one’s for you. I’m sharing how I used to use boundaries as a defence mechanism — a way to protect myself from discomfort and avoid hard conversations. And how I...

In a world that teaches us to chase love, validation, and approval from everyone but ourselves —what happens when we flip the script? In this episode, we're talking all things self-love —the kind that's rooted in science, self-compassion, and real inner safety. We unpack the lies we've been fed about what it means to love yourself (spoiler: it's not cringe, it's revolutionary),...

Ever expected change to feel exciting and empowering—only to find yourself deep in anxiety, overthinking, and overwhelm the minute you take a step forward? In this episode, we’re getting real about what change actually feels like. Not the Instagram version. The real, messy, chaotic one that brings up old wounds, fear, resistance, and allll the spiraling thoughts. Kathleen shares personal stories f...

Ever felt like you’re in between versions of yourself—no longer who you once were, but not quite sure who you’re becoming? Yeah, same. In this episode, we’re talking about that unsettling space where your old dreams, values, and identity no longer fit, but you’re still figuring out what’s next. Whether you're going through a major life transition, healing deep wounds, or just realizing that what y...

Ever feel like you’ve moved on, healed, grown… and then BAM! The past comes knocking? Maybe an old relationship resurfaces, a pattern you swore you broke sneaks back in, or you find yourself reacting in ways that feel way too familiar. Here’s the thing: when the past resurfaces, it’s not a sign you’re back at square one. It’s an invitation to handle things differently this time. In this episode, w...

Why NOT you? Do you believe you can have it all? Its a new year baby, goals, dreams and resolutions are about to be set — but do you know what’s getting in the way? Limiting stories. Limiting belief systems. Old wounds. Join me in this episode walking you through exercises and mindset shifts to help you see your own blindspots that are keeping you stuck in old patterns and get clear on whats reall...

Ever feel like the end of the year sneaks up, brings a megaphone, and shouts: “You haven’t done enough!” ? As you see other people celebrating their big wins, it’s so easy to fall into the trap of comparison—questioning your progress, your worth, and your future. Suddenly, you’re knee-deep in a spiral of self-doubt and drafting a wild list of ego-driven goals for 2025. In this episode, we’re talki...

Ever look at other people’s friendships — how close and supportive they are — and get just a little... jealous? Wonder if you’re ever going to have those soulmate friendships like you see on Instagram? SAME. In this episode, we spill the tea on how to actually build those deeper, more meaningful connections. We’re diving into the truth about how friendships can make or break our mental health, and...

In this empowering episode, we dive deep into the world of self-confidence and reveal that it's so much more than just "faking it till you make it." Together, we break down how true confidence is built on a foundation of self-acceptance and authenticity, not perfection or external validation. Expect an honest conversation about how societal pressures and media often distort our ideas of what confi...

In this episode, we dive deep into the roots of perfectionism, how it often stems from childhood experiences and the pressures we all face in today’s world.  For many, perfectionism is more than just striving for excellence—it's a coping mechanism, a way to maintain control and protect our self-worth.   But as we discuss, there's so much power in understanding where this need comes from, so we can...

We’ve all been there—saying yes when we really want to say no, bending over backward to keep everyone else happy while feeling totally drained ourselves. 🙋‍♀️In this episode, Kelsey and I get real about how people-pleasing has impacted our lives and share all the juicy tips to break free from it! In this episode, we chat about: Surrounding yourself with people who lift you up (because vibes matte...

Ever find yourself panicking about ticking biological clocks, societal expectations, and the feeling of falling behind in life’s milestones? You’re not alone. In this week’s episode, Kelsey and I dive deep into these pressing concerns, sharing our own experiences and insights on the journey of getting closer to 30, facing societal pressures, and navigating the complex emotions tied to aging, relat...