Unrelenting Pursuit

When you love someone, it can be incredibly difficult to watch them struggle. Our instinct may be to fix it, protect them from consequences, solve the problem, or step in before they have to face the discomfort of their own choices. But is that actually love? In this episode of Unrelenting Pursuit, we talk about when to rescue and when to get out of the way —and how to recognize the difference bet...

Sex in marriage can be one of the most beautiful expressions of connection—but it can also become an area of hurt, rejection, frustration, and distance. In this episode of Unrelenting Pursuit, we’re having an honest conversation about sex and sexual intimacy in marriage . What happens when one spouse is no longer pursuing the other? What happens when sex becomes a weapon, a bargaining chip, or som...

What does it really take to raise kids well? In this episode of Unrelenting Pursuit, we’re getting real about Christian parenting, marriage, faith, and the mistakes we’ve made along the way. After raising three children, we’re sharing some of our biggest parenting failures, what we believe we got right, and the lessons we wish we had understood earlier. We talk about the powerful impact parents ha...

There are moments in life when you realize you are completely dependent on God. In this episode of Unrelenting Pursuit, we share the full story of how our son became a living miracle after being saved from death. We walk through what happened, the moments when we didn’t know what the outcome would be, and the incredible community of people who surrounded our family with prayer, encouragement, supp...

What if you’re capable of more than you’ve allowed yourself to believe? In this episode of Unrelenting Pursuit, we talk about increasing your capacity and what it means to step into the God-given potential He has placed inside of you. Sometimes the thing holding us back isn’t a lack of ability—it’s the limits we’ve learned to live with. Fear, disappointment, insecurity, past experiences, comfort,...

Why does something that feels easy and natural to you seem completely exhausting to your spouse? Why can you see what needs to be done while your spouse seems to miss it? Why do some conversations energize you but drain them? And why can the very things you admire about your spouse sometimes be the things that drive you crazy? In this episode of Unrelenting Pursuit , we’re diving into The 6 Workin...

What if some of the advice you’re receiving about your marriage isn’t actually helping? We’re talking bad marriage advice on this episode - well-intentioned words that can create confusion, resentment, distance, or even enable unhealthy patterns. That advice may come from friends and family, social media, or even the church: “Just leave.” “You just need to have more sex.”          “Forgiveness mea...

When do compassion and understanding become an excuse for behavior? And as Christians, can we have grace for someone's brokenness while still calling evil evil? Or have Christians become so afraid of being judgmental that we stop making moral distinctions altogether. Because when we stop calling evil evil, we don't necessarily become more loving. We simply become apathetic. And apathy does...

This episode is really special to us… because it’s our 200th episode! And if we’re honest—this journey has stretched us in ways we didn’t expect. It’s grown us, exposed things in us, healed places we didn’t even realize were still hurting… and through all of it, God has been so faithful. In this episode, we’re taking time to reflect on what He’s done—not just in this podcast, but in us. The obedie...

Sometimes healing doesn’t look the way we expected it to. In this episode, we set out to walk through 20 signs your marriage is healing… and honestly, we didn’t even get through all of them. But maybe that’s the point. Because healing isn’t a checklist you complete—it’s something you begin to notice in the small shifts… the quieter reactions… the moments where you choose differently, even when it’...

We are living in a time where women can do anything… and yet fewer are choosing marriage and motherhood. Why? In this episode, we unpack the cultural shift that’s separating what was once deeply connected—commitment, family, and children. We talk about the lies we’ve believed about success, the fear and pressure many women carry, and why motherhood has started to feel like “less than.” But what if...

We live in a world that constantly tells us we’re overwhelmed, overbooked, and at capacity—but what if that’s not the full truth? In this episode, we talk about the difference between being overloaded and being misaligned . Because sometimes it’s not that we’re carrying too much… it’s that we’re carrying the wrong things. Learning to increase your capacity isn’t about doing more—it’s about becomin...

In this episode, we’re talking about something that sounds simple… but is actually deeply challenging— solitude . What happens when God asks you to lay down not just sin, but your wants, your noise, and your need to stay busy? I share personally how difficult it has been to quiet my mind and sit still before Him—and what He’s been revealing in that space. If your mind feels constantly full and slo...

You can’t build a strong life on weak foundations. In this episode, we challenge the idea that doing “well overall” is enough. Because if one pillar is weak—your spiritual life, your health, your emotions, your relationships, your work, or your finances—it will eventually impact everything. We share where we’ve struggled personally and invite you to take a real, honest inventory of your own life....

There is a point in marriage restoration where working on the relationship can quietly turn into overworking the relationship. Every conversation becomes serious. Every interaction becomes an evaluation. Every moment together feels like it has to produce progress. Without realizing it, you can slip into fix-it mode — where connection is replaced with pressure, safety is replaced with performance,...

Secure attachment is not about being perfect - In this final episode of our attachment series, we talk about what it looks like to live and love from a place of emotional security. Secure individuals are able to communicate clearly, handle conflict without panic, and remain present even when relationships feel uncomfortable. We will explore how secure attachment shows up in marriage, parenting, an...

Have you ever felt like part of you deeply wants connection… but another part of you doesn’t trust it? Fearful-avoidant attachment lives in that tension. In this episode, we talk about the push–pull cycle that happens when someone both craves closeness and fears it . This attachment style often forms in chaotic or traumatic environments, and it can create emotional swings, confusion about needs, a...

In this episode of Unrelenting Pursuit , we’re diving into avoidant (dismissive) attachment — the style that often says, “I’ll handle this myself.” Avoidant attachment isn’t about not caring. It’s about learning early on that emotions felt unsafe or overwhelming — so independence became protection. We explore how this plays out in: Marriage — withdrawing during conflict, struggling to verbalize em...

In this episode, we take a deep dive into anxious attachment —what it is, how it forms, and how it quietly shapes the way we love, lead, and parent. If you’ve ever felt afraid of being abandoned, needed constant reassurance, or found yourself overthinking every conversation or conflict, you may lean toward an anxious attachment style. Many people with anxious attachment love deeply, give generousl...

In this episode, we sit down with Chris and Jamie Bailey from Expedition Marriage to talk about the full journey of parenting—from the daily work of raising our kids to the emotional leap of eventually launching them. No matter the season, the call is the same: to trust God with what we can’t control and to remember that where we can’t be, He always is. We explore how to stay united as a couple, h...

Soft Christianity teaches us to stay safe, avoid discomfort, and keep our faith at a surface level. But when we resist conviction, avoid growth, and choose comfort over transformation, it doesn’t just affect us—it affects our marriage. A faith that never challenges you will never change you. And a marriage that isn’t anchored in real transformation will struggle to survive. This episode dives into...

When marriage starts to feel transactional, we often begin building a case to justify why we’re done—replaying conversations, collecting offenses, and deciding the verdict before the conversation ever happens.  In this episode, we unpack what happens when we attempt to take the place of God in our marriage, how internal narratives become reinforced, and why contractual love erodes intimacy and fai...

In marriage—and in life—our biggest breakdowns often don’t come from a lack of love, but from assumptions, defensiveness, and rushing to protect ourselves. In this episode, we talk about non-anxious curiosity and why it’s one of the most powerful relational skills you can develop. Instead of reacting, shutting down, or jumping to conclusions, non-anxious curiosity invites us to slow down and ask b...

Standards are easy to admire. Resolutions are costly to live. In this episode, we unpack the critical difference between God’s standard and our resolution. God’s standards reveal what is right, true, and good — rooted in Scripture and unchanging, regardless of circumstances. But many believers stop there. We agree with truth. We affirm it. We even teach it — without ever resolving to obey it when...

The holidays can bring joy—and they can bring pressure. In this episode, we talk about how to create a healthy dynamic for your marriage and your family by paying attention to what actually matters. It all begins with clarity and unity between you and your spouse, especially when it comes to calendars, commitments, and expectations. Because every yes is also a no—and when you learn to choose with...