Unlearning

When we're in the middle of a hard season, a transition, a business decision, a relationship, grief, healing, or simply the uncertainty of what's next, we often expect ourselves to have complete clarity. But what if that's an impossible ask? In this episode, we're talking about why our nervous systems crave certainty, how urgency creates tunnel vision, and why the answers we're...

School is winding down, routines are shifting, and summer is beginning. With it can come a quiet kind of pressure: to make it magical, make memories, be more present, feel confident in your body, say yes to every invitation, and somehow enjoy every second. But what if summer does not need to be optimized? In this gentle episode, we’re talking about the transition into a new season—the logistics, n...

Have you ever reached a goal only to realize it didn't change how you felt about yourself? In this episode of The Unlearning Podcast, we're exploring the hidden expectations many of us place on success. We believe achievements will make us feel worthy, validated, safe, connected, or at peace, but those experiences can't be earned through accomplishment alone. Join me for a compassionat...

This year marks 10 years in business, and if there's one thing I've learned, it's that entrepreneurship is never just about business. It's about courage. It's about identity. It's about resilience. It's about learning how to trust yourself when things don't go according to plan. In this episode, I'm sharing the 10 biggest lessons I've learned over the last d...

Have you ever noticed that some people seem to take up residence in your mind long after the conversation ends? Maybe you're replaying what they said. Analyzing their behavior. Anticipating their reactions. Trying to understand them, fix them, manage them, or avoid upsetting them. In this episode, we're exploring the hidden emotional cost of carrying other people in your head. We'll di...

You can deeply love your life… and still feel overwhelmed by it sometimes. In this deeply personal episode, we talk about: business expansion and nervous system capacity parenting through different seasons watching your children grow up relationships shifting into logistics and the pressure to “love every moment” This episode is a reminder that gratitude and overwhelm can coexist, and that being h...

The hidden exhaustion of always being the strong one Being the capable one can feel empowering… until it becomes heavy. In this deeply honest episode, we explore: emotional labor and invisible responsibility entrepreneurship + motherhood overwhelm why capable people struggle to receive support resentment, nervous system depletion, and over-functioning and how to soften without collapsing If you’ve...

Growth can be beautiful… but it can also feel lonely. In this deeply personal episode, we explore what happens when your healing, priorities, and alignment begin shifting faster than the world around you. We talk about: entrepreneurship and unconventional living parenting while evolving marriage and differing growth paces nervous system shifts grief, boundaries, and belonging If you’ve ever felt l...

From 5AM routines to diet culture to perfectly curated wellness habits… it’s easy to feel like everyone else has life figured out. In this episode, we unpack:why comparison hits so deeply how borrowed routines disconnect you from yourself the hidden shame behind wellness culture and how to create habits that actually align with your body and life If you’ve ever felt like someone else’s discipline...

You can understand your patterns, know where they come from, and still find yourself repeating them. In this episode, we explore the gap between awareness and real change, and why knowing isn’t always enough to create lasting transformation. We talk about: why awareness alone doesn’t shift patterns how the nervous system holds onto familiar responses the difference between understanding and integr...

Ever feel like life has gotten calmer… but instead of feeling better, it feels a little off? In this episode, we explore why your nervous system can interpret safety as boredom, and why that’s a normal part of the healing process. We talk about: why your body prefers familiarity over safety how calm can feel uncomfortable at first the difference between peace and numbness and why you may feel pull...

Ever leave a space feeling irritated, overwhelmed, or completely off, and wonder why it affected you so much? In this episode, we explore what’s really happening when your nervous system responds to high-energy, emotionally charged environments. *cough* kids sporting events.... Through a real-life experience, we unpack: why certain spaces feel so intense what “normalized dysregulation” actually lo...

The moment you stop abandoning yourself… someone will notice. In this episode, we explore the often unspoken side of alignment, the guilt, the shifting dynamics, and the discomfort that comes when you start choosing yourself. We talk about: Why alignment changes your relationships The difference between guilt and misalignment Why people may feel disappointed when you grow How to set boundaries wit...

An unplanned… but it felt important to share. This week, I lost my grandma. And later that same day, while teaching a class in a practice I’ve held for years… I broke open in a way I didn’t expect. In a room where I’m usually the one holding others, I was the one being held. In this episode, I’m sharing what happened, what it revealed about the nervous system, grief, control, and the identity of “...

You’re in the in-between. That space where who you used to be no longer fits… but who you’re becoming doesn’t feel fully anchored yet. In this episode, we explore the season that so many women find themselves in—but rarely have language for. The moments where: – clarity is followed by doubt – expansion is followed by contraction – and nothing feels as certain as it once did This isn’t confusion. T...

We hear it all the time, “be kind.” But what if that’s not actually the standard we should be striving for? In this episode, I share a simple moment from my day that sparked a deeper realization about how we show up in the world—and how often we focus on behavior while completely overlooking energy . Because here’s the truth: People don’t just hear you… they feel you. We explore: Why “being kind”...

Alignment isn’t about certainty, confidence, or getting it “right.” It’s about safety. Honesty. And the body’s ability to tell the truth without fear. In this episode, we explore: Why alignment can feel confusing after survival The difference between ego-led and body-led alignment What alignment actually feels like in the body Why alignment emerges after regulation, not before This episode continu...

In this episode, we explore regulation not as a concept, but as a lived, day-to-day experience. After unlearning old patterns and softening shame, regulation becomes the missing piece that allows real change to happen. We talk about: Why regulation is often mistaken for calm or control How dysregulation gets mislabeled as intuition or failure What regulation actually looks like in real life Why ca...

Ever notice how the moment things feel unclear, uncomfortable, or slow, you assume something is wrong? In this episode, we talk about why healing, unlearning, and growth often feel messier than we expect, and why that doesn’t mean you’re failing. This is a relatable, honest conversation about: The awkward “in-between” phase of growth Why discomfort doesn’t mean regression How shame convinces us we...

This wasn’t the episode I planned to record. But I woke up receiving such a strong download around the New Moon Solar Eclipse in Aquarius and the beginning of the Year of the Fire Horse… that I couldn’t ignore it. In this episode, I break down (simply and grounded, not woo-woo) what eclipses represent, what Aquarius energy invites, and how the Fire Horse symbolizes bold identity shifts. But more i...

Valentine’s week often brings pressure, comparison, and questions about worth, especially if you’ve learned to equate love with effort or self-sacrifice. In this episode, we explore: How self-abandonment shows up in love and relationships Why love learned through survival feels intense but exhausting What love feels like in a regulated body Why safety matters more than chemistry How to move throug...

Shame doesn’t always shout, often, it whispers. It’s the quiet voice that keeps us small, stuck, and self-abandoning even when we know something needs to change. In this episode, we explore: ✨ What shame really is (and what it isn’t) ✨ How shame forms as a nervous system response ✨ Why unlearning can feel unsafe ✨ The link between shame, self-abandonment, and resentment ✨ How to work with sha...

Unlearning old patterns can feel liberating… and disorienting. In this episode, we explore the quiet, often confusing space that comes after you stop over-functioning, people-pleasing, or abandoning yourself, but before clarity fully arrives. This conversation is about integration, not urgency. Safety, not fixing. Learning how to trust yourself when the old armor is gone. In this episode, we talk...

We say we want change, but what if what we’re really afraid of isn’t growth… it’s unlearning ? In this episode, we explore why letting go of old patterns can feel more threatening than staying stuck, even when those patterns no longer serve us. We unpack how survival strategies like people-pleasing, overworking, and self-abandonment once kept us safe, and why your nervous system may resist releasi...

Resentment doesn’t come from nowhere. It builds when we override our needs, silence our truth, and choose connection at the cost of ourselves, again and again. In this episode, we explore: How self-abandonment forms (and why it’s not your fault) Why resentment is a nervous system response, not a character flaw The deep human need for safety in the body How unmet needs quietly turn into irritation,...