UNFeigned

What are you supposed to do if you're feeling broken after you've healed? I've healed from these things already. I'm not supposed tofeel broken again...am I?

We tell our kids to get off their phones, while we’re scrolling in the bathroom. We call it ‘work,’ ‘networking,’ or ‘staying informed’, but let’s be real, most of us are just chasing that same dopamine hit, wrapped in grown-up excuses. On this episode of UNFeigned the Podcast, we’re flipping the camera on us l, the adults...the parents...the professionals...the leaders, because maybe it’s not jus...

🎙️ Episode 2...Generation Scroll: What It’s Doing to Our Kids Have you ever handed your kid a phone just to get a moment of peace? Yeah, we all have. Here’s the part that keeps me up at night though. We didn’t just give them a device. We handed them a mirror that talks back. ➡️ That mirror doesn’t just reflect who they are; it tells them who they should be...24/7. ➡️ That mirror compares, measures...

🎙️ New Series: The Effects of Social Media We live in the most connected time in history, and yet we’ve never been more disconnected from ourselves, our families, and our peace. The 'Effects of Social Media' series is a raw, unfiltered, deeply human look at what constant connectivity is doing to our minds, our bodies, and our souls. This series blends psychology, neuroscience, faith, sarcasm, and...

🎙️ (Ep. 2) Be Curious, Not Judgmental: Questions Save Relationships You ever had someone ask you a question that wasn’t really a question? It was more like an accusation wearing a trench coat. You know, "Why are you always late?" or, "Why can’t you just…?" Those aren’t questions. Those are judgmental grenades...but real questions, curious questions, can literally save relationships. On Episode 2,...

🎙️ New Podcast Series: Be Curious, Not Judgmental This series digs into one of my core mantras: Be Curious, Not Judgmental. Each episode explores what it means to approach people with openness, humility, and curiosity instead of assumptions, accusations, or hidden agendas. It unpacks how curiosity builds bridges in every type of relationship, whether with a spouse, a child, a friend, a coworker, o...

In today’s world, we’re drowning in noise...social media hot takes, childish name-calling, and debates that sound more like playground fights than meaningful dialogue. The result? Division, confusion, and a culture that’s forgotten what truth even is. In this episode, we dive into the necessity of intelligent conversations, why they matter, and why settling for immature, unintelligent arguments ha...

Most of us carry wounds when it comes to sex...wounds from the way we were taught about it, wounds from experiences that hurt us, wounds from shame and silence, and you can try to cover it up with performance, with jokes, with busyness…but wounds have a way of showing up when the lights go out.

➡️ How do I tell if I’m with a narcissist?➡️ Why is it that men are only called narcissists?➡️ Can’t women be narcissists too?➡️ What are the signs of narcissism?➡️ Can you do a deep dive into narcissism?➡️ How do I ‘deal’ with a narcissist? unfeigned.org skool.com/unfeigned"The Legends of Arkeia" ↔️ https://a.co/d/5Ez9HrA

Let’s be real. Too many couples are having “maintenance sex”...Scheduled. Serious. Silent. Then they wonder why the spark is gone. Here’s the truth...sex without play is like a joke without a punchline. Intimacy dies when laughter leaves. In this episode, of 'Let’s Talk About It', we’re breaking down why flirting, laughter, and curiosity might just be the sexiest things in your relationship. unfei...

The biggest block to great sex isn’t usually physical. It’s mental. It’s the stories we’re telling ourselves in the moment, and those stories can either draw us closer or shut us down completely. We’re going to unpack the unspoken mental soundtrack that plays during intimacy, and why it matters more than most couples ever admit.

There is something that quietly kills desire in a relationship. It’s not betrayal. It’s not attraction fading. It’s not even a lack of love. It’s misunderstanding. Two people who care about each other, who want each other, who have the right intentions, but they’re missing each other like two trains running on parallel tracks that never cross..and the wild part? Most couples don’t even realize it’...

New Series:Let’s Talk About It: Sex, Love, & Intimacy in Real Life This isn’t your typical, "surface-level talk" about relationships. In this raw and unfiltered series, we’re getting real about what happens behind closed doors, and beyond them. From the beauty of true intimacy, to the struggles couples rarely admit, we’ll unpack the truth about sex, love, and connection without the shame or su...

One of the myths we believe about being healed is that, in order to be healed, the emotions that we used to feel when we were broken must disappear. It's as if we think that if we feel any of those things, then we must not be healed. That couldn't be more of a lie. The goal of "healing" isn't to make our shame, guilt, regret, anger, hate, depression, etc., or any of the other emotions that we felt...

This episode will be hard. It will feel vulnerable. It may feel terrifying, because today, we’re talking about radical honesty. Not partial confessions. Not half-truths. Not convenient omissions. This is the moment where the lights get turned all the way on, but hear me clearly — restoration can’t be built on what’s still hidden. Secrets are termites in the foundation, and if we’re going to rebuil...

Healing Out Loud is a series, released the last Friday of every month, where we dive into questions submitted by y'all. On this episode, I answer the following question: What advice would you give to someone who was groomed and taken advantage of by a mentor?

Healing Out Loud is a series, released the last Friday of every month, where we dive into questions submitted by y'all. On this episode, I answer the following question: How should one propose Christian-based coaching to a spouse when counseling (secular) was torturous for them? They struggle with communication. We have been together for decades but we have so much to work on to restore our marria...

There are parts of my story I’ve never shared on this podcast. However, those parts were very real, very painful, and very broken —when I was sitting in silence, trying to hold the pieces together, asking if I'll ever feel whole again. "Behind The Mask" is where I take you there, to the unspoken, to the wounds I’ve lived through but haven't talked about on this podcast yet, to the moments that sha...

This isn’t about pointing fingers. It’s not about quick fixes. It’s not about hiding behind “God will work it out”, without actually doing the work. This is about what happens when the marriage has been shattered by betrayal, when one of you, or both, stepped outside the covenant, when one of you was left reeling, when trust was broken, hearts were crushed, and everything feels like it’s hanging b...

This new series, "After the Break - Restoring Marriage After Infidelity", is a deeply honest and healing series, designed for couples walking through the devastation of betrayal, and also for singles who want to build healthy, lasting love in the future. Each episode offers real conversations, practical tools, and heart-level guidance for both the unfaithful and the betrayed. Whether you're fighti...

On this final episode in our Emotionally Whole Series, we’re going to talk about how to sustain emotional regulation, when the world around you still feels chchaotic. It’s one thing to regulate your emotions in a quiet morning with your Bible open, coffee hot, worship music on……but what about when you walk out the door? What about when you turn on the news? What about when you go to work, or sit a...

On this episode, we’re talking about a voice that can feel louder than all the others...the inner critic. You know what I mean — that harsh, accusing, critical, unforgiving voice that lives in the back of your mind, repeating: “You’ll never be enough.”“Why did you do that?”“See, you messed up again.” That voice is sneaky. It sounds like truth, but it’s actually shame, and if you’ve lived long enou...

This episode is about that split-second moment — when you feel the surge of anger, the flood of tears, the urge to run, or the impulse to shut down. That moment when you’re about to explode… or disappear. We’re going to learn how to pause in that moment — to hold the tension — so you can respond in truth instead of react in fear. Pausing is hard, but it is holy work. It is a sacred practice that c...

We either believe every feeling we have is truth, or we shame ourselves for even having feelings in the first place. Feelings aren’t facts, they're messengers. They are real, but they aren’t always right. unfeigned.org coff.ee/unfeigned

Everyone of us has gone through this...those moments where you’re going about your day, you’re fine — and then you're not; something happens: a comment, a look, a memory, a tone of voice. Your chest gets tight. Your mind is racing. You shut down or you explode, and you don’t even really know why. That, my friend, is what we call being triggered. A trigger is not weakness. A trigger is not proof yo...