True Identity

I had this idea of having a husband that would be home every night for dinner. A husband that would have weekends off. A husband that I would see every day with some exceptions. A husband I would be able to attend events with. This is not what it's like for us. In singleness, I had this idea of what I thought my marriage would look like. Don't get me wrong, my husband is the perfect man fo...

It is possible to long for a husband AND be content in singleness. You are waiting for a spouse. You have a deep desire to be married, but you don’t know how or when. You may be asking yourself, “Will I be single forever?” You have days you feel okay with your situation. Other days are a struggle and you often cry out of frustration or disappointment. Regardless, this is the season you are in, so...

As Christians we are told to surrender, but how do we do that? Surrender is a heart posture. It’s letting go of what you think you know and giving it to God. It’s inviting the Holy Spirit into every part of who you are. It’s trusting God has your life in his hands and the ultimate plan for you. Surrender is not a one and done situation. It is daily. How do we do this? I will share what it looked l...

"He's not my type" Have you said this before? I sure have! I share advice from my own experience to help you meet the right person. The person you think is not your type may be the one for you all along. Give him a chance! What do you have to lose? Worst case, you never have to talk to him again, best case you marry him! Give God control and trust that he has the perfect person for y...

I host an online community for single women and in this group there were some questions and topics they brought up. I thought it would be a good idea to talk about them more in depth here on this episode. We discuss: How to Meet Singles Single Women Collective volosports.com meetup.com IRL San Diego How to be Available/Approachable When is it appropriate to make the first move (especially as a wom...

This is a difficult question to think about, but what if? What if you don't get married? What if all you have in this life is Jesus? Is that enough? Let's work through this thought and question together! Spoiler: God IS enough and he knows what you need. Here are some resources and free guides for you: How to Prepare to Be a Wife (Guide) How to have Self-Confidence (Guide) Single Women Col...

You have a deep desire to have a husband. You don’t know how or when you will meet him. One day you want to have a successful marriage, so why not start now on preparing yourself to be a wife!  While I was single I had a mindset shift and thought, if I wanted to meet an amazing, healthy man, I need to be that myself. I needed to prepare myself to be a wife. I will share with you what I did to do j...

Have you heard the phrase, "I'll sleep when I'm dead"? Well, you may die sooner than you think with this mindset. Sleep is when your body recovers, restores, rejuvenates. All the systems in your body operate because of sleep. Don't underestimate it. In this episode, I share research and studies about sleep. I share how many hours you actually need and practical ways to help y...

Do you feel you are getting “too old” to meet your spouse? Do you feel “left behind” as others around you are getting married, having kids? Do you feel you will never meet your life partner? This can be a hard place to be in. It can feel like you aren’t moving forward in life as you thought you would. Maybe you are approaching your 30s or 40s and you think you should have been married by now. When...

What do you do when things don't go as planned? Maybe you are in a waiting season. It can feel lonely and discouraging. I'm here to share with you what I do when things don't go as planned. I share real life experiences and how I've been able to get through them. One of these experiences was my singleness journey. I had moments of doubt, but someone offered me hope. Spoiler alert.... GOD! It's all...

We talk about the importance of sleep, hydration, nutrition, recovery, and mental health. All these need to be aligned to be able to achieve optimal health and performance. I share practical tips and things you can do today! You may want to take notes ; ) *don't feel you need to do all the things I share right away. I started with a few and once I felt ready, I added more. This is called Habit...

As we age our muscle mass and cognition declines. There is a supplement to help with this and it's called creatine. There are many benefits of creatine -helps with muscle recovery -enhances focus -energy production -protects against brain neurodegenerative diseases -and so much more! In this episode, I share what creatine is, how to use it, who it's good for, when to take it, how much. Thi...

When I was single I didn’t think about certain things that would happen while being married. I didn’t really know what to expect. Yes, I’ve had people tell me what their marriage was like, but I didn’t think about what it would be like for me.  So I want to tell those of you who are single some aspects I didn’t think about of what marriage would be like. Giving you a heads up, something to prepare...

One thing I’ve come to realize and love about my relationship with my husband (there are many) is that we are on the same page politically, morally, and religiously. These are important things to note when you are dating someone and talking about marriage. No, you don’t have to agree on everything, but in my opinion the big stuff you should.  If you are single, dating, talking about getting marrie...

Do you struggle with the thought of feeling "left behind"? As if you are getting "too old"? Or thinking you may never be married? In this episode, I walk through what I did personally to work through the questions and doubts while I was single. I struggled thinking I would never be married as I watched my friends get married and start families. I'm here to offer hope and en...

Is physical attraction important in a relationship? At one point I thought yes. In this episode, I unpack what is the most important aspect of a relationship and the truth behind attraction. Something to think about, our appearance changes overtime. For listening to this episode, I want to give you a free gift! Click here to get your guide to Boost Self Confidence. I share particle tips you can st...

Do you know what you are looking for in a partner? Do you know the characteristics and traits they would have? If you answered no to these questions, it may be time to sit down and write out a list of what you are looking for in a future partner. I'm not talking about physical traits. I'm talking about if they love Jesus, are loyal, outgoing, fun to be around, have a sense of humor, have i...

There was a point in time when I was set on meeting my future husband “organically.” I had this dream that I would meet him through friends, mutual friends, or doing something I love. I didn't want my story to be "we met online." With diving into my relationship with Jesus, working on myself, and truly wanting to be with a quality guy, I started to change my mindset around online dat...

Maybe you think the reason you are not dating the people you want or aren't dating at all is because of who you are. Maybe you feel you need to change aspects of who you are in order for people to want to date you. I'm here to tell you this is not true! If you feel this way, maybe it's because you are lacking self confidence. In this episode I share pratical tips for you to boost your...

You may be wondering, what is dating coaching? I want to share what dating coaching is and what it looks like to have a coach. Stay tuned until the end of the episode where I will share 2 health tips with you! You may be unsure what life coaching is and certainly what it means to have a dating coach. In this episode, I hope to answer some of those questions and give you a glimpse as to what it may...

What is the hardest part about being single?  This is a question I’ve been reflecting on recently. It has brought up some hard moments for me and I share these with you. This is a vulnerable question and I give you an honest answer. I had moments of crying myself to sleep because I was so sad and disappointed.  I decided I needed Jesus in those moments. I also chose to dwell on what I did have not...

Green flags, much like a green light, are the go ahead. They are good signs things are going in the correct direction in your relationship. Green flags are what you want in a partner and things to look for when you are dating. 1. Self Confidence 2. Respectful 3. Integrity 4. Relationship with God 5. Own hobbies 6. Solid group of friends 7. Driven and Hardworking 8. Asks good questions 9. Healthy B...

Today we are going to discuss red flags, what they are and how to determine if there is a red flag in your relationship. If you are not in a relationship, these are good to keep in mind when you do enter into a relationship or start dating. Red Flags are a warning sign. They may not be deal breakers, but definitely a discussion would need to be had. There are some red flags that would be deal brea...

In this episode, I discuss the foundations of marriage according to a book I've been reading. It's call "Happy Wives Club" by Fawn Weaver. If you are a wife and haven't read this book, I encourage you to do so. She visits 12 countries, 6 continents, with 1 mission, to find the secret of marriage. She interviews a number of married couples and they all say the same secret! I d...

You may be thinking, will I ever meet someone worthwhile? Will it ever be my turn? Will dating lead me to meeting someone I want to spend the rest of my life with? The answer is YES! DO NOT SETTLE! I had a coworker tell me I needed to compromise what I was looking for in a partner. I’m so glad I didn’t listen to her. You do not need to compromise or settle. I know it can be hard. I had moments I w...