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It's the LAST episode of Season 2 😭 In our final Teatime with Toni, Producer Annisha and Toni are helping a listener work through anxious attachment and heartbreak, plus another navigating a 20 year friendship on the rocks. Then Toni reflects on the whole season in the Sisterhood Spotlight, from her live show happening TOMORROW to her move to Houston to her new book Soft Life dropping September 1...

It's been one whole year of marriage for Toni and Taiwo 💍 She's sharing everything she's learned in year one, from protecting your independence to the questions that never stop coming from family and friends 👀 Plus in Teatime with Toni 🫖 Producer Annisha and Toni tackle a dilemma about an ex who just won't leave your mind, even after you've done everything "right" to move on. PS Toni's first ev...

Are you actually ready to be in a relationship? 🤔 Not "do you want one" but really, truly ready? Toni's asking the big question this week and breaking down what it actually means to become the right person before you go looking for the right person. Plus in Teatime with Toni and Producer Annisha tackle two dilemmas: a listener working through resentment towards her dad while healing an avoidant a...

Breadcrumbing or genuinely just busy?? 🍞 This week Toni's breaking down the difference between someone giving consistent effort and someone keeping you on a string, plus how to spot the pattern before you waste more time on mixed signals. Plus what would you do if your mum kept showing up unannounced (with the spare key 👀) are you taking the key back...Producer Annisha would! Join our Patreon: P...

Is it a furfuckle or a kerfuffle? Whatever it is, Toni's found herself in one and she's speaking on it. Context really is everything, clips get twisted online, and honestly we might be living through a nuance epidemic. Toni and Producer Annisha also get into your dilemmas this week, from a mother in law who still won't accept a marriage eight months on, to a woman stuck between running from her ex...

Toni's talking dating with discernment this week, because sometimes what feels like chemistry is actually just desperation for connection in disguise 👀 Plus in Teatime with Toni, Producer Annisha joins to unpack two listener dilemmas: one on realising your relationship has become your whole identity, and another on the difference between grieving a person and grieving the routine you built around...

Beauty maxxing is everywhere right now 👀 Toni's unpacking soft maxxing vs hard maxxing, whether it's genuine empowerment or insecurity wearing a cute filter, plus her own routine, the things she regrets and the things that were 100% worth it. But here's the thing... you can maxx your face all you want, at the end of the day character maxxing matters more. Being good looking doesn't change whether...

Toni's unpacking Auntie Culture this week. The backhanded compliments, the double standards and the self appointed board of directors who somehow have an opinion on everything you do. Plus, what happens when your mum starts planning your wedding before you've even picked a path for yourself...and is rushing into marriage really the answer she thinks it is? Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe...

Toni's talking people pleasing this week and why it never actually pays off 😩 Plus Teatime with Toni is back with Producer Annisha for two juicy dilemmas: a listener who found something in her boyfriend's wallet that isn't hers, and another grieving her relationship with her mum after a new marriage changed everything. Then it's Sisterhood Spotlight, breaking down why people pleasing is costing y...

This week on Toni Told Me, Toni sits down with beauty content creator Damilola ( @Dami. Adei ) for an honest conversation about navigating the beauty industry as a Black gay man, from his coming out journey, to the moment conversion therapy backfired in the most unexpected way, to the double standards men still face in beauty spaces. Plus, it's Teatime with Toni first, where Toni and Producer Anni...

It's a triple celebration on this week's episode of Toni Told Me!!! We've hit 20K subscribers on YouTube, it's Toni's birthday AND she's sitting down to share 20 lessons she learned from her 20s. From the things she wishes she'd known sooner to the hard truths that shaped who she is today, Toni is getting reflective, real and a little bit vulnerable, and Annisha joins her for Teatime with Toni to...

Are you ready for your weekly dose of Toni Told Me? This week Toni is sharing something very special with her listeners...it's her NEW BOOK ' Soft Life' . For those of you that watch the podcast on YouTube, you'll get an exclusive peek at the cover whilst Toni delves into how her latest book came about and some of the topics she touches on that she has never shared before. And in Te...

Pretty privilege… it's still a thing, and will it ever  not  be? Toni gets into ALL of it this episode, from the halo effect, to that very attractive felon Jeremy Meeks, to Toni's own personal experiences with pretty privilege. In Teatime with Toni, one listener needs advice when the guy she's talking to isn't tall enough and the conversation isn't matching his height eith...

Love Island is only one week into its 13th season and already the same conversation has taken over social media. Once again, representation is at the forefront of everyone's minds, and Toni herself has thoughts. Black women on the show continue to face the same recurring challenges: being overlooked by the male contestants and consistently feeling like they're getting the short end of the stick. B...

Are you dealing with a cheater or just not feeling excited in your relationship anymore...then this episode is for you! This week Toni delves into a subject a lot of us may try very hard to avoid even though we know it's the right thing to do. When is the right time to walk away? It's a question deep down in our heart we know the answer to but it's just a bit too scary to face. Join our Patreon: P...

Strong. Resilient. Unbreakable. But at what cost? This week we're diving into Strong Black Woman Syndrome, what it is, why it's harmful, and why Black women are choosing to put the cape down. Plus, in Teatime with Toni one listener has fallen for someone great but can't stop questioning whether she's "enough", and another listener who's stuck in the middle of a friendship fallout that's tearing he...

This week Toni is joined by Producer Annisha for Teatime with Toni where they're solving your dilemmas! Then in the Sisterhood Spotlight, Toni is getting into the debate that never seems to end — bare minimum vs princess treatment   BUT we are de-bunking the phrase princess treatment, and coining it ‘going above and beyond’ instead. Because at what point did we start calling basic care and lo...

This week Toni is joined by viral dating strategist  Anxiously Alej , who turned her own heartbreak and betrayal into a platform empowering women to take their power back in love. But first, Teatime with Toni!  One listener is stuck with a man who won't commit but refuses to let her go, and another is navigating the messy fallout of mutual betrayal in a long-distance relationship. Then A...

We've all been there: Having to push back on expectations foisted upon us by others. From partners expecting you to take their name, to parents expecting you to follow a certain path, and even just the wider societal expectation of meeting suppose life milestones by a certain age, in this episode, Toni and Producer Annisha explain how we actually find our own way and make sure we're making choices...

We made the vision board. We wrote the list. We did the work. So why does getting everything we asked for feel so… complicated? This week we're unpacking the truth about manifesting, the part nobody talks about. Plus, Toni and Producer Annisha are in the inbox solving your dilemmas, including one that'll make you question everything you thought you knew about your dream person showing up. Join our...

You can cut off a friend. You can leave a situationship. But family? That's a whole different conversation. This week Toni is getting into why setting boundaries with the people closest to us is the hardest thing to do, and why the guilt never seems to go away. Plus, two dilemmas that are giving family drama, financial pressure, and a mum who cannot keep a secret to save her life. Join our Patreon...

"I don't need anyone"...sounds empowering, right? But what happens when that mindset starts closing the door on real love and connection? This week Toni is unpacking hyper-independence in women: the difference between being self-sufficient and emotionally shutting the world out. In Teatime with Toni, two listeners share how their independence is costing them in love, one was told she felt more lik...

Ever felt like the responsible one or the overlooked one? This episode dives into birth order, family dynamics, and how it affects you in adulthood. Plus, juicy listener dilemmas you don’t want to miss!! Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday! Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to  toni@tonitoldmepod.com  or slide into...

Toni’s back, and this week we’re talking about something everyone experiences but hardly anyone wants to discuss… periods. From mood swings to cycle tracking, nothing is off limits as Toni dives into the realities of life on your period. And in Teatime with Toni, things get juicy: what would you do if your man started avoiding you every month?  Join our Patreon: Patre...

Toni and Producer Annisha are back with more real talk and even realer tea this week on Toni Told Me. From a workplace situationship that ended in gold digger accusations to a suspicious dating app match who may or may not have a whole wife at home, the dilemmas are messy! Plus, we’re switching the focus from red flags to the green ones we should actually be paying attention to. If you’ve ever que...