Thinking Out Loud | Kimberly

EP54: Navigating Self-Worth Without Superiority Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud ! I’m Kimberly, and in this episode, we tackle a crucial question: When does believing in yourself cross the line into thinking you’re better than everyone else? Join me as we explore the complexities of self-confidence and superiority in our personal and professional lives. We’ll discuss: The Weight of Achievement :...

EP 54: Fears We Inherit Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud ! I’m Kimberly, and in this episode, we’ll explore the complex relationship between fear and perception. Are we truly afraid of individuals, or are we responding to the narratives that have shaped our understanding of danger? Join me as we unpack: The Legacy of Fear: How the Cold War and historical narratives have instilled fear in our cult...

EP52: Carrying Our Own Weight Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud ! I’m Kimberly, and in this episode, we tackle a crucial question: How often do we accept responsibilities that were never ours to carry? Join me as we explore the nuances of personal responsibility versus interdependence in our relationships. We’ll discuss: Recognizing Responsibilities: Understanding how easily we can take on the emo...

EP51: The Meaning of Self Expression Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud ! I’m Kimberly, and in this episode, we’re exploring a nuanced question: What is self-expression? Self-expression can sometimes blur the lines between sharing one's story and infringing on someone else's privacy. Join me as I delve into the complexities of expressing ourselves without taking over another person's narrative. In...

EP50: Understanding Capacity Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud ! I’m Kimberly, and in this episode, we’re diving into the essential question: What does it mean to have capacity? We often discuss capacity in simplistic terms, but it’s nuanced. Sometimes it refers to physical energy, while other times, it’s emotional or mental resilience. As we explore this concept, I’ll introduce three metaphors—sp...

EP49: Why Can I Get Over the Past? Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud ! I'm Kimberly, and in this episode, we’re tackling a deeply relatable question: How do I get over it? We often envision healing as a straightforward hurdle to jump over, but the reality is far more complex. What if moving on isn’t just about clearing obstacles but understanding what we’re really grieving? Sometimes we put time l...

EP48: Healing Isn't a Race Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud ! I’m Kimberly, and today we’re addressing a fundamental question: Why do we rush healing? In a world that often places a premium on speed and productivity, healing can feel like just another checkbox on our to-do list. We want to feel better now, to create something meaningful now, and to prove to ourselves that our choices were worth i...

EP47: The Performance of Healing Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud ! I’m Kimberly, and today we’re diving deep into a crucial question: Why does healing sometimes feel performative? Healing is often framed as a journey toward self-awareness and growth, what happens when the act of healing becomes a performance? In our quest for validation, we may find ourselves more focused on appearing healed tha...

EP46: When Does Influence Become Indoctrination? Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud ! I’m Kimberly, and today we’re diving into a topic that often stirs up strong emotions: When does influence or a deeply held belief cross the line into indoctrination? We often picture indoctrination as a black-and-white scenario involving cults or strict regimes, but what if it manifests more subtly in our daily l...

EP45: Estrangement Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud ! Hi, it's me, Kimberly. In this thought-provoking episode, I’m delving into a complex and often misunderstood topic: Why might someone choose estrangement? When we hear that someone has chosen to cut contact with a family member, it’s easy to jump to conclusions and label one party as the villain. What if we’re asking the wrong questions? Inste...

EP44: Unmasking Narcissism: A Journey into Accountability In this compelling episode of "Thinking Out Loud," Kimberly takes a deep dive into the complex questions surrounding narcissism and personal accountability. Addressing the common concern, "Am I the narcissist?" Kimberly bluntly prompts a more profound exploration of our behaviors and relationships. Kimberly invites listeners to reflect on t...

EP43: The Complexity of Survival and Manipulation In this thought-provoking episode, Kimberly tackles the intricate relationship between survival behaviors and emotional manipulation. She prompts listeners to consider when survival instincts, driven by fear and trauma, cross the line into controlling others' perceptions of reality. Kimberly explores the confusion that arises when harm is intertwin...

EP42: Abuse Beyond Lables In this thought-provoking episode, Kimberly challenges the obsession with diagnosing narcissism and shifts the focus towards a more essential conversation: defining abuse. She reflects on how the term "narcissism" has offered clarity for many, revealing confusing and manipulative dynamics in their lives. However, Kimberly argues that understanding narcissism is just the b...

EP41: The Impact, Impact Has In this introspective episode of "Thinking Out Loud," Kimberly invites listeners to explore the profound question: does impact truly matter? She begins with a metaphor of an invited guest who, despite their good intentions, leaves a mess behind. This scenario prompts a deeper examination of how the positive aspects of relationships can be overshadowed by negative impac...

EP40: Redefining Parenting: Beyond Labels and Expectations In this transformative episode, Kimberly invites listeners to examine the term "lazy parenting" and its implications on our understanding of effective parenting. Challenging societal norms, she demonstrates how stepping back from conventional responses can lead to more intentional and compassionate parenting practices. Drawing on personal...

EP39: Embracing Discomfort: A Path to Self-Discovery In this thought-provoking episode, Kimberly invites listeners to reconsider their relationship with discomfort. Rather than viewing it as an enemy, she posits that discomfort can be a valuable messenger — a tool for reflection and growth. Kimberly shares personal anecdotes about her own challenges with discomfort, emphasizing that not all uncomf...

EP38: Navigating the Complexity of Love and Relationships In this deeply reflective episode, Kimberly explores the intricate layers of love and what it truly means in today’s relationships. She challenges conventional notions that love necessitates sacrifice and questions whether staying in a relationship at the cost of one’s emotional well-being is genuine love. Kimberly emphasizes the importance...

EP37: Raising Truth-Tellers: Accountability Without Shame In this insightful episode, Kimberly delves into the challenging question: How do we raise children who feel safe to share their mistakes? Reflecting on her own experiences growing up, she explores the fine line between teaching responsibility and instilling fear of disappointment. Kimberly shares her journey of navigating the complexities...

EP36: Navigating Accountability and Authenticity In this reflective episode, Kimberly tackles the timeless question: How do you know when you're in the wrong? Through her personal journey, she explores the nuances of accountability, fostering a deeper understanding of how our conditioned responses can distract us from our true selves. Kimberly emphasizes that being "in the wrong" is often less abo...

EP 35: Rediscovering the Self Beyond Labels In this introspective episode, Kimberly grapples with the profound question: "Why don't I know who I am anymore?" She reflects on the myriad labels imposed on her throughout life—seen through the lens of others’ perceptions—and how they shaped her identity in ways she didn't realize. Kimberly discusses the impact of societal labels and expectations, emph...

EP34: The Challenge of Adult Friendship In this insightful episode, Kimberly addresses the complexities of making and maintaining friendships as adults. While on the surface, friendship seems straightforward—meeting, connecting, and enjoying each other's company—the reality is often much more intricate. Kimberly explores how unresolved pain, societal expectations, and personal trauma affect our ab...

EP33: The Complexity of Family Estrangement In this thought-provoking episode, Kimberly explores the phenomenon of family estrangement, challenging the notion that it’s merely a trend or a sign of fragility. Instead, she delves deeply into the dynamics of family relationships in our modern, hyper-connected world. Kimberly raises critical questions about leadership and power within families, examin...

EP32: Are You Really a People Pleaser? What if you’re not “naturally” a people pleaser at all—just someone who was trained to be overly considerate at your own expense? In this episode of Thinking Out Loud , Kimberly explores how compliance, self-erasure, and hyper-consideration often get mislabeled as kindness or “being a good person,” when they’re actually unfinished development and survival str...

EP31: Learning to Live Beyond Survival Mode What if the problem isn’t that you’re lazy, unmotivated, or “broken”—but that your nervous system has been stuck in survival mode for so long it doesn’t know what to do with safety? In this episode of Thinking Out Loud , Kimberly explores what happens after the crisis ends: the crash, the exhaustion, and the unfamiliar work of learning how to live, not j...

EP30: When We Call Someone a Liar What is really gained when someone is labeled a liar—and who benefits from that label? In this episode of Thinking Out Loud , Kimberly reimagines the story of “The Boy Who Cried Wolf” to explore how credibility gets stripped from those with the least power, and how that protects comfort, systems, and self-image more than it protects truth. We look at what happens...