TheTomsters Show

In this episode, I’m joined by author Addy Baird. In her book, The Magical Game: The Spirit and History of Baseball's Superstitions, Rituals, and Curses, Addy presents baseball (and everything about it) as a beautiful expression and reflection of life. With this perspective, we discuss her love of and conversion to baseball and baseball fandom, and how being a fan has changed how she views the...

The 2026 NFL season is here, and you're looking for a team to support. Well, you can stop looking. You've found home. In this episode, I do my best to convert you to Buffalo Bills fandom. I start by telling you about who the Buffalo Bills are and how I became a Bills fan. I then dive into team history, past and present. I get you up to speed regarding important Buffalo Bills traditions and rituals...

Postpartum psychiatric disorders are the number one complication for women who have just given birth. And yet it’s a subject that’s severely underdiscussed and generally misunderstood. With the attention surrounding the Lindsay Clancy trial, I wanted to talk about postpartum psychiatric disorders, their prevalence, their signs and symptoms, their validity, and how to begin recovery and mental stab...

Death is an inescapable consequence of life. Yet, death’s impact is devastating. Or at least sometimes it is. I’ve recently been fascinated (and humbled) by the facts of death: it is inevitable, and it is random. While reason and death can be close partners, they can also be complete strangers. In this episode (filmed and recorded a couple of weeks prior to its release because life has been especi...

Dating can too often feel like some sort of social torture experiment, which (silver-ish lining) produces a heap of personal stories, from good to bad to horrific. I chose dating to be the focus of the first edition of Confessions Court, a new segment on TheTomsters Show where I read your submitted confessions (and Reddit posts) and rule whether the players in the stories are guilty or not guilty...

Goodbyes are a part of the human experience. Some goodbyes are hard, like having the final conversation with a passing loved one. Some goodbyes are easier, like breaking up with a loser ex. And some goodbyes, maybe most goodbyes, are somewhere in between. In today's episode, we discuss them all. I share my hardest goodbyes, why hard goodbyes are signs of real love, I cry a little (oop), and add a...

Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce were recently married, and everyone has opinions on the matter, from the venue to the decor to the guest list. Many people have a long list of criticisms for the Swift and Kelce celebration, but you know what: I’m happy they had the wedding they wanted. In this episode, I share my own wedding experience, which was very Mormon and very traditional and very much not a v...

Family means different things to different people. For some, family is simply those with whom you share DNA. For others, it’s more about the social connection than any common blood or genetics. And it can get complicated. Family isn’t always simple. And neither are friendships, or the skill of friend-making. Making and keeping friends isn’t natural or automatic for me, and I’ve struggled to make f...

This episode is all about my dad. This being the week of Father’s Day, I’ve written a mini love letter to and about my hero. He is the best, a fact I’ve known for over thirty years. Now, you get to know.

Love Island USA is the most popular show in America. So why does it lowkey resemble the Hunger Games? The program’s propensity to create conflict for the viewer’s pleasure not-so-subtly reminds me of Katniss and her friends all running around, just trying to survive. So is this a bad thing? Is Love Island USA a net negative on our society? And what does the popularity of the show say about us, tho...

Today, it is nearly impossible to watch a sporting event without being bombarded by gambling ads and betting partners. Sports gambling is on the rise, and so is sports gambling addiction. So why has sports gambling become more popular, and is it a problem? I discuss all of this and more in this episode of TheTomsters Show.

Happy Pride Month! In this episode, I share my story about accepting my bisexuality, even while married. Growing up, my views regarding any sexuality that wasn’t heterosexuality were discriminatory and uninformed, thanks to the faith I was raised in. Over the years, my opinions changed and evolved. Listen to the show to learn about the most important moments on my self-discovery journey and why I...

Artificial intelligence is entering every part of our lives, thanks to the greed and apathy of leading tech heads and billionaires. While promising increased wealth and staggering efficiency, the rise of AI has created a set of new and dangerous issues: AI affirmation and psychosis. In this episode of TheTomsters Show, I address these problems. Individuals, consciously or not, have begun to replac...

Calling all fans of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. In this episode, we're talking about Taylor Frankie Paul and her apparent inability to take accountability. In part, I answer her challenge to me personally. Then, we discuss psychobabble and its role not only in Taylor Frankie Paul's vocabulary but also in society as a whole.

Aging is one of life's few universal experiences, and when I turned 30 years old last year, I ... had a less than great time. I realized my relationship with aging and getting older was flawed and unhealthy. In this episode, I discuss how, over the past year, I have worked on my perception of growing old and fixing the mindsets that have been promoting fear and anxiety. My hope is that my experien...

IT'S THE FIRST EPISODE!!!!!!! Welcome. On this episode, we discuss the current drama on Bravo's Summer House and dig deeper into the topic of friend betrayals. I then read several listener-submitted stories that highlight friend betrayals. Thank you for your support!