The Weird Years

Isn't it nice to snoop into other people's lives and get a very reassuring reminder that it's not just you navigating the trenches of your 30s? 😅 Welcome back to DECISION CLINIC, where we get into YOUR real listener problems. In this episode, we are joined by Amy (@beingamykate) — she's a content creator, fitness expert, advocate for bigger-busted women and an all-round sound, safe pair of hands...

This week we're wrapping up Decision Season with maybe one of the most important questions so far... how do we know if life is actually going in the right direction? We hear a lot about hitting goals, ticking boxes and the unavoidable list of everything we're supposedly meant to have achieved by 30, blah, blah, blah. But when we're deep in the decision-making stage of life, how do we know if the c...

You've heard the term Soft Life, but what does it really mean when strip away the IG aesthetics? In this episode, we're joined by the one and only Toni Tone - podcaster, bestselling author, and one of our generation's wisest women - as we dive deep into the philosophy of the soft life. People may have hijacked the term to mean Pilates at 11 on a weekday, sugar baby culture, or kicking back and doi...

What if you’re actually not made for the 9–5? If you sometimes sit at a desk for 9 hours straight and start to feel like your body wants to wiggle out of your skin, then girl, I have been there. We were sold the dream of finding a career which is our purpose, climbing the ladder to the very top and smashing a few glass ceilings on our way. But more and more of us now, in our 30s, are looking aroun...

What if the reason you're stuck isn't confusion, it's that the life you want feels socially unacceptable? We all grew up with society handing us a script for what a "good life" should look like: the love story, the career, the milestones, the version of womanhood that makes sense to everyone else. But what happens when you look at that script and realise... I don't actually know if I want it? And...

How do you make the huge, meltdown-inducing decisions of your 30s - and is there ever really a "right" answer? In our first ever Decision Clinic, I'm joined by Jemma Sbeg, host of The Psychology of Your 20s - one of the biggest psychology podcasts out there - to get into real listeners messy, emotionally loaded questions that I'm pretty sure we're all going through right now. Jemma brings her back...

Date, get married, have a kid, live happily ever after - that’s what we were sold, right? Well, the dating pool is looking kind of swampy, women are more self‑sufficient and self‑funded than ever before and actually… not everyone wants kids. Cher said “Mom, I am a rich man” and influencer and internet personality Sophie Milner stepped up to it. Sophie is known for her hot dating takes, big girls’...

You know that niggling feeling that the path you're on isn't the right one... it's time to talk about it. The relationship which isn't moving forward, the job where the promotion never comes, the city we know will never feel like home - why do we stay too long in something we know isn't right? In this episode, we're going deep into the unspoken part of making decisions: knowing when to walk away....

What if one radical choice to heal rewired your life completely? Joining me this week is nutritionist, author and functional medicine practitioner Daniel O'Shaughnessy. Daniel has been doing something which many of us might have curiously come across, but haven't pulled the plug to try. He has been expanding his healing approach to include psychedelics and plant medicine. Daniel grew up overcoming...

What if being ‘too much’ was never the problem - you were just with people who couldn’t hold you? This week I’m joined by the stunning, vivacious and straight‑up hilarious Jackie Adedeji – the broadcaster and girls’ girl from Instagram known for her unapologetic empowerment and gentle roasting of her “older middle‑class white man” husband. We talk about the one decision in her twenties that change...

Welcome to Decision Season dramatic music plays I joke, this won't be scary, I promise. This season we dig into the choices that have shaped us so far, the ones we still wonder if we got right, and the ones we’re wrestling with right now. In this episode, I’m getting into a truth we all know but might be avoiding: the decisions are coming thick and fast in our thirties. It feels daunting, it can f...

"I love you, but I'm exhausted" is a line that's been whispered at 2am, 2pm, 10pm, and every hour in between to our big blue-eyed, five-month-old baby. Last time we caught up on baby life, I was three weeks postpartum and riffing mainly on the birth. Now, we're nearly five months in and emerging from the haze of the tiny baby stage. A new shape of me, my life, and my identity is starting to form,...

Why are we suddenly craving the "soft life"? You might know this term from polished reels of flawless women skipping out of pilates at 11am and into a matcha café, but the soft life philosophy has a much richer origin. It started with women in Nigeria reclaiming their time and energy, pushing back against hustle culture and the expectation to always grind, give, and self-sacrifice. Now more than e...

What if the version of “working on yourself” you’ve been sold is actually pulling you further away from other people? In this solo episode, I’m unpacking the strange relationship between self-improvement and selfishness, and the point where becoming your “best self” can turn into endless optimisation, isolation, and feeling like who you are right now is never enough. I get into how self-improvemen...

Why does everything feel like it’s your fault… even when it isn’t?  In this solo episode, I’m unpacking guilt - that constant, low-level hum that seems to follow women everywhere. From work to relationships, money to motherhood, friendships to finances… why does everything feel like it’s somehow our responsibility? I get into the psychology behind why women experience guilt more frequently and m...

What if your “self-awareness” is just control in disguise? 👀 I hate to call you out like that… but I’m also calling out myself. In this episode, I unpack something that’s been sitting uncomfortably with me: I can explain my feelings perfectly… but I don’t always feel them. I dive into the sneaky coping mechanism of intellectualising emotions — how we analyse, rationalise, and “do the work”… witho...

What if it’s not dating that’s broken… but how we’re showing up in it? Stick with me for this.... I personally know so many amazing, sucessful, loving, and beautiful women who want to find a partner but are struggling in the dating world, so what's going on? In this episode, I'm joined by dating and confidence coach Laura Nagiel to get into how we can break the cycle of unsuccessful dating and fin...

What if the problem isn’t your body… it’s the fact you’ve been thinking about it for 30 years straight? This week, I’m getting into body image, and why, somehow, it feels more confusing now than it ever did before. Because here’s the thing… I've generally had a pretty good relationship with my body. Then I hit 30, then at 33 had a baby and suddenly it all feels a bit weirder. In this episode I go...

Content warning: This episode includes discussion of suicide. We're sold a Disney-inspired story of love. Meet the love of your life, get married, have children and live happily ever after. But nothing in life is guaranteed. What happens when something cataclysmic changes your whole life’s path? How do you begin to rebuild after trauma and sudden loss? And who might you become when the dust starts...

If you told me a year ago that I would be releasing this episode, I would have been shooketh... But wow can things change. Really fast and really dramatically. And now my big becoming era is being shaped by a new reality of motherhood. I was very unsure about the choice to have a child, I was very scared about how it was going to shape me and maybe you're feeling the same if this is something you'...

In our 20s it feels far away. Like something that will “change everything”. But in your 30s? It starts to feel closer. And the questions get louder. Will I lose myself? Will my ambition survive? What happens to my identity? In this episode, I’m joined by Raychel Addo. We talk about the fear around motherhood, the way life reorganises with a child, and the identity shift that comes with becoming a...

Somewhere along the way, making new friends got… weird. In our 20s it just happened. School. Uni. Work. Nights out. You were thrown together and something stuck. But in your 30s? It can feel awkward. Forced. Like everyone else already has their people. In this episode, I’m joined by Rose and Zoe, founders of CityDaze! We talk about why adult friendships feel harder now, how algorithms quietly narr...

Do you ever feel overstimulated, constantly distracted… but at the same time, you know something inside you needs space? This episode is about what happens when you remove the noise completely. When there’s no phone, no talking, no distractions, and no way to avoid yourself. I’m joined by Rio, who travelled to Poland to spend four days in complete darkness and silence. Pitch black. Total stillness...

Do you feel like your life isn't going to plan…but at the same time, you know you're growing? This solo episode is about that uncomfortable, confusing phase so many of us hit in our 30s, where things are shifting internally but the external milestones haven't quite caught up yet. That feeling? It's limbo. In this episode, I break down why limbo exists, honestly... why it feels so shit, and why it...

The DJ, the Control Freak & the Incoming Baby... in like 2 weeks, wtf. This week, I’m joined by my husband Chris for a very honest pre-baby conversation, recorded in that strange limbo where everything is about to change.… but hasn’t yet. We lay it al out on what it really feels like to stand on the edge of being first time parents and the lurking "uuuraaaghhhh" of what is about to happen. We...