The Weird Years

What if being ‘too much’ was never the problem - you were just with people who couldn’t hold you? This week I’m joined by the stunning, vivacious and straight‑up hilarious Jackie Adedeji – the broadcaster and girls’ girl from Instagram known for her unapologetic empowerment and gentle roasting of her “older middle‑class white man” husband. We talk about the one decision in her twenties that change...

Welcome to Decision Season dramatic music plays I joke, this won't be scary, I promise. This season we dig into the choices that have shaped us so far, the ones we still wonder if we got right, and the ones we’re wrestling with right now. In this episode, I’m getting into a truth we all know but might be avoiding: the decisions are coming thick and fast in our thirties. It feels daunting, it can f...

"I love you, but I'm exhausted" is a line that's been whispered at 2am, 2pm, 10pm, and every hour in between to our big blue-eyed, five-month-old baby. Last time we caught up on baby life, I was three weeks postpartum and riffing mainly on the birth. Now, we're nearly five months in and emerging from the haze of the tiny baby stage. A new shape of me, my life, and my identity is starting to form,...

Why are we suddenly craving the "soft life"? You might know this term from polished reels of flawless women skipping out of pilates at 11am and into a matcha café, but the soft life philosophy has a much richer origin. It started with women in Nigeria reclaiming their time and energy, pushing back against hustle culture and the expectation to always grind, give, and self-sacrifice. Now more than e...

What if the version of “working on yourself” you’ve been sold is actually pulling you further away from other people? In this solo episode, I’m unpacking the strange relationship between self-improvement and selfishness, and the point where becoming your “best self” can turn into endless optimisation, isolation, and feeling like who you are right now is never enough. I get into how self-improvemen...

Why does everything feel like it’s your fault… even when it isn’t?  In this solo episode, I’m unpacking guilt - that constant, low-level hum that seems to follow women everywhere. From work to relationships, money to motherhood, friendships to finances… why does everything feel like it’s somehow our responsibility? I get into the psychology behind why women experience guilt more frequently and m...

What if your “self-awareness” is just control in disguise? 👀 I hate to call you out like that… but I’m also calling out myself. In this episode, I unpack something that’s been sitting uncomfortably with me: I can explain my feelings perfectly… but I don’t always feel them. I dive into the sneaky coping mechanism of intellectualising emotions — how we analyse, rationalise, and “do the work”… witho...

What if it’s not dating that’s broken… but how we’re showing up in it? Stick with me for this.... I personally know so many amazing, sucessful, loving, and beautiful women who want to find a partner but are struggling in the dating world, so what's going on? In this episode, I'm joined by dating and confidence coach Laura Nagiel to get into how we can break the cycle of unsuccessful dating and fin...

What if the problem isn’t your body… it’s the fact you’ve been thinking about it for 30 years straight? This week, I’m getting into body image, and why, somehow, it feels more confusing now than it ever did before. Because here’s the thing… I've generally had a pretty good relationship with my body. Then I hit 30, then at 33 had a baby and suddenly it all feels a bit weirder. In this episode I go...

Content warning: This episode includes discussion of suicide. We're sold a Disney-inspired story of love. Meet the love of your life, get married, have children and live happily ever after. But nothing in life is guaranteed. What happens when something cataclysmic changes your whole life’s path? How do you begin to rebuild after trauma and sudden loss? And who might you become when the dust starts...

If you told me a year ago that I would be releasing this episode, I would have been shooketh... But wow can things change. Really fast and really dramatically. And now my big becoming era is being shaped by a new reality of motherhood. I was very unsure about the choice to have a child, I was very scared about how it was going to shape me and maybe you're feeling the same if this is something you'...

In our 20s it feels far away. Like something that will “change everything”. But in your 30s? It starts to feel closer. And the questions get louder. Will I lose myself? Will my ambition survive? What happens to my identity? In this episode, I’m joined by Raychel Addo. We talk about the fear around motherhood, the way life reorganises with a child, and the identity shift that comes with becoming a...

Somewhere along the way, making new friends got… weird. In our 20s it just happened. School. Uni. Work. Nights out. You were thrown together and something stuck. But in your 30s? It can feel awkward. Forced. Like everyone else already has their people. In this episode, I’m joined by Rose and Zoe, founders of CityDaze! We talk about why adult friendships feel harder now, how algorithms quietly narr...

Do you ever feel overstimulated, constantly distracted… but at the same time, you know something inside you needs space? This episode is about what happens when you remove the noise completely. When there’s no phone, no talking, no distractions, and no way to avoid yourself. I’m joined by Rio, who travelled to Poland to spend four days in complete darkness and silence. Pitch black. Total stillness...

Do you feel like your life isn't going to plan…but at the same time, you know you're growing? This solo episode is about that uncomfortable, confusing phase so many of us hit in our 30s, where things are shifting internally but the external milestones haven't quite caught up yet. That feeling? It's limbo. In this episode, I break down why limbo exists, honestly... why it feels so shit, and why it...

The DJ, the Control Freak & the Incoming Baby... in like 2 weeks, wtf. This week, I’m joined by my husband Chris for a very honest pre-baby conversation, recorded in that strange limbo where everything is about to change.… but hasn’t yet. We lay it al out on what it really feels like to stand on the edge of being first time parents and the lurking "uuuraaaghhhh" of what is about to happen. We...

What happens when you remove the most popular social lubricant and fully meet yourself in your thirties? In this episode, I’m joined by Emily Syphas, founder of Sober & Social and one of the UK’s leading voices on sober curiosity, hangover-free living and rethinking alcohol in your 30s. Emily shares her personal journey from heavy drinking in hospitality, to years of full sobriety, to finding...

What if trying to be our best, healthiest, most beautiful selves is actually… stressing us out? In this episode, I’m joined by Emilie Lavinia, Fitness and Wellbeing Editor at The Independent , to make sense of the ever-expanding world of health, wellbeing and beauty in our thirties. This is not yet another podcast episode with a list of everything you need to be doing — it's Emilie's stripped-back...

What if the arguments you’re avoiding/repeating/stuck in… are the exact ones that could make your life better? In this week’s Weirdly Personal, I’m getting into the fights we should be having in our thirties — and the ones we can finally stop wasting energy on. After spending way too much time arguing with men on the internet (productive? questionable), I realised just how much of our energy goes...

What if you built your career through your own sucessful business… only to realise you’d quietly outgrown it? That’s exactly what Chloë Downes found herself facing and right at the peak of her success. Chloë is the recently exited founder of the multi-million-pound talent agency SHFT, a Forbes 30 Under 30 alum, and one of the few women of colour in her industry. From the outside she was thriving,...

What if your self-worth has quietly been outsourced? In this Weirdly Personal episode, I’m unpacking the validation loop - that exhausting cycle of chasing approval, likes, or praise even when we know it’s making us miserable. I get into how our need for validation isn’t a personality flaw, but a learned pattern shaped by our childhood and reinforced by a culture that rewards traditional progress...

We know that losing people we love is inevitable - but why does grief still feel so awkward? Freddie lost both of his parents by the age of 23, an experience he didn’t face head-on. The first time, he buried it in childhood distractions; the second, he numbed it through socialising and alcohol. Now in his thirties, he’s learned that grief doesn’t end — it evolves. And at some point, it has to be f...

What if your hormones had ruled your life for as long as you could remember? After years of emotional crashes and misdiagnoses, Kristina finally discovered she was living with PMDD — premenstrual dysphoric disorder, a hormone condition that debilitates her for two weeks of every month. In this raw and brave conversation, Kristina opens up about: 🌀 What living with PMDD is really like 🌀 How it im...

What if identity shifts aren’t breakdowns but breakthroughs? This week, we’re getting weirdly personal about identity - that quiet, disorienting shift that creeps in when who you were stops fitting, but who you’re becoming isn’t clear yet. Suddenly, the things that once defined you, your job, your habits, your goals, might not feel like you anymore. From grieving old versions of ourselves to reali...

Remember when friendship just… happened? This week, we’re getting weirdly personal about the friendship gap — that strange, silent drift that happens as life scatters us into different jobs, cities, and stages. Suddenly, maintaining friendships feels like a full-time job. From friendship “breakups” that still sting years later to the awkward reality of trying to make new friends as a grown adult,...