The Sensualist Podcast

Prostate Pleasure What was the inspiration for the book, "The Ultimate Guide To Prostate Pleasure?" Are there actually benefits to prostate massage, or is it just an excuse for "butt play?" Why pay attention to your prostate?   What can prostate play do for a relationship?  How do prostate orgasms differ from penile orgasms?  What's the difference in technique between pleas...

Can you still have a sex life if you are experiencing Erectile Dysfunction, and cannot "fix"it? How men with ED sabotage their sex life and push their partners away, and turn them off What is the performance trap, and how does it ruin sex, and make ED worse? What is the solution, when you cannot get satisfactory, or lasting erections? What makes the sensation of your touch erotic magic v...

What is sexual suggestibility - and why does it matter to your relationship?  What is the difference between someone primarily  "physical" vs "emotional" and how are their needs and reactions or responses different?  What is the real danger of a sexless relationship?   Should you have sex even if you don't feel like it?  How can people better meet their partner's needs,...

Why would a director, and journalist skeptic become a hypnotist?  What is the connection between sexual frustration, war, and orgasms?  The mind-blowing potential of hypnotic - and no-touch orgasms The dilemma faced when talking about hypnotic orgasm, and sexual research in general  How many different kinds of orgasms can you have, using trance, and what the heck is a flattergasm?  A surprising re...

The face of monogamy is changing, and one thing is clear, the way a lot of people are doing it is not working.   What can monogamous couples learn from the communication habits of poly folk?  Is one better than the other?  BIO: Leah is the founder and leader of the Esther Perel Discussion Group on Facebook, a community of over 13K members from across the globe who regularly dis...

Tatiana Alexeeva caught my attention this year with her hilarious and creative youtube videos. What I didn’t expect was how helpful and informed she was, and the high standard of support and attention that she puts into anyone she works with. We are here to discuss a technique that is so effective, it is almost foolproof and can be used to thrive in any area of life, from business to health, to yo...

Peter Lancett  is a practicing hypnotherapist, healer and published author. In his current business Living Well With Sally and Pete, he specializes in treating ( but is not limited to) chronic pain, limiting beliefs, low self-esteem, weight loss, smoking cessation, and has an extraordinary way of getting the change you are wanting to see.   We are discussing something Peter calls the mor...

Anxiety is at the tip of everyone’s tongue, from children to people in their 80s and 90s. So I want to speak to experts who treat anxiety for a living, to find out more about it and how every day people can get control over their anxiety quickly and easily, before it destroys their health and relationships. The blurb on Lori Hammonds page says: I help normal, everyday people solve normal everyday...

Kaz Riley is a award winning and leading hypnotist, hypnotherapist and hypnosis trainer with an international reputation for excellence with client work, and her specialist training and mentoring programmes for hypnotherapists. Kaz works with a wide range of issues that include Anxiety, IBS, Fertility, Childbirth, trauma and PTSD. Kaz also has a specialism in Sexuality, sexual dysfunction, sexual...

Anxiety is at the tip of everyone’s tongue, from children to people in their 80s and 90s. So I want to speak to experts who treat anxiety for a living, to find out more about it and how every day people can get control over their anxiety quickly and easily, before it destroys their health and relationships. Today my expert guest is Marian Spurgeon, an internationally-recognized trauma-informed hyp...

Anxiety is at the tip of everyone’s tongue, from children to people in their 80s and 90s. So I want to speak to experts who treat anxiety for a living, to find out more about it and how every day people can get control over their anxiety quickly and easily, before it destroys their health and relationships. Today I’m lucky enough to speak to a man who works with anxiety, and brings a huge skillset...

This episode is about being the smile you want to see in the mirror, and discusses how you cannot get sexual satisfaction unless you are someone who can invite it.  What the heck does that even mean? A practical exercise which can instantly shift you from an annoying asshole into someone that is enjoyable to be around.  How is that as a prelude to foreplay?  A practical exercise whi...

Women Stepping Into Their Power -- What does that even mean? What does it look like?  Why are the women in their 40s all divorcing their husbands? Why the heck should we listen to a man about stepping into our power?  Marcus Ambrester explains all of this AND MORE on this podcast episode, including:  the spiritual bypassing that happens when people get caught up in polarity and subm...

What does " state control "  have to do with sex and relationships?  Only EVERYTHING!  Your state is the foundation on which everything rests,  you can't "get there"  if you're in a state of annoyance, criticism or anxiety!  In this "clean conversation" Mohammed explains how state control can be managed deliberately and almost instantly to not only have better perform...

What a treat! The founder of the Esther Perel Discussion Group, Leah Marshall has provided incredible insight as well as several very useful resources for ANY kind of relationship structure, but including those who are considering a level of non monogamy.  We talk about how polyamory can include, but is not about sex with more than one.  Facing fears and issues, the idea of don't ask don...

Steve and I discuss what the cultural definition of sexual prime is and why that is a useless definition when it comes to having great sex How age, gender, body type and sexual function do not = the decline of fabulous sex Can sex actually get better with age?  Limiting beliefs and ways around them

Dr. Elizabeth discusses HOW hypnosis can help you to have a better sex life.  By removing blocks and obstacles to pleasure or relating, for people who let anxiety or lack of focus get in the way, who have low libido or cannot access their pleasure. Plus!  Foot fetishes and installing pleasure feet Orgasms from GIVING oral sex People who can't go into trance Unethical erotic hypnosis http...

Special guest Kaz Riley of Kaz Riley Hypnotherapy , and Sexual Freedom Hypnosis and I discuss what it means to be a better woman, sexually. How to have better sexual experiences Why blaming men for your shitty sex life is not actually going to make it any better What internal shifts need to happen to have more pleasurable sex Something that angers many women about what why their sex life is not ge...

Nighttime Conversations With Steve and Freja:  Special guest Dr. Elizabeth Bonet talks about why being present during sex is important What does being present mean How does it help sex and make it better How to "be present" How distractibility ruins sex And how Steve finds orgies to be a major distraction!  Visit our guest here    https://drlizhypnosis.com/ Subscribe for more g...

Productivity: Highly prized, revered. Like industriousness, it is often seen as a virtue. But is it all that? Where did we get our ideas about productivity? Why are so many of us restless and hard on ourselves when we aren’t being productive? Can productivity be harmful, and affect our relationships detrimentally? I mentioned to Steve the other day that I was feeling guilty as I had not made use o...

Steve and I discuss what options people have when they are sexually mismatched -- after defining what that means.  one person wants sex once or twice per day, the other  1x a month alternatives to breaking up is there such a thing as a spectrum of monogamy what are the options for very strictly monogamous relationships?  what are the options when people are open to mild exploration,...

This evening's talk is inspired by conversations with girlfriends in the dating world: a common situation is after a brief period of dating, a text will come in with a request to " do anal and swallow" I want to address two parts of it, why sending a text with a request for that early in a relationship without any discussion is a RED FLAG --porn mindset and how Steve and I disagree on this! ...

Inviting intimacy, or as Freja puts it -- how to ask for sex without being a douche.  Steve and I talk about common obstacles to initiating/inviting sex, particularly in a changing environment where people are afraid to ask for what they want.  We talk about How do you avoid feeling rejected when you ask for sex a lot and your partner says no?  Is it even worth it to ask for sex whe...

Freja here:   Steve and I wanted to open a dialogue and INVITE you to share with us your own stories of sexual connection. What are some of the reasons you have, or have HAD sex in the past that are not just be because you're trying to alleviate libido or strong desire, which is what we tend to imagine is the reason for doing it. What we find upon examining things deeper is that sexual desire...

If "Romanticism"  or Romantic thinking is harmful to relationships, and most of us are on a spectrum of this type of thinking/projection/fantasy, what are some alternatives for the single or partnered person?   What are some healthier ways to approach dating or your partner in a relationship, and how to avoid the disappointment when the other does not meet expectations?  -What...