The Self-Hype Podcast

If you’re exhausted by ghosting, low-effort conversations, and another “promising” match that fizzles out, this episode is your deep breath. Eli breaks down what dating burnout actually does to your nervous system, why you don’t have to be a “super dater” 24/7, and how to see your love life in seasons instead of a constant grind. He walks you through taking a real break (yes, deleting the apps), n...

If you’ve ever stayed in a relationship that looked great on paper but felt terrible in your body, this one’s for you. Eli shares a recent experience witnessing an ICE raid in Chicago — and connects it to why so many of us normalize anxiety in our love lives. He dives into anxious attachment, “cool girl” behavior, and the kind of partners who leave you scared to speak up. Together, you’ll unpack w...

When Jenny lost her husband in a tragic plane crash, she didn’t just face grief—she faced herself. In this powerful episode, Eli and Jenny explore the full spectrum of healing: from shock and survival to rediscovering purpose, love, and joy. Jenny shares how she learned to care for herself while caring for her husband, the moment she decided to live again, and how listening to her intuition guided...

Love Is Blind! I’m ranting, reflecting, and dropping some truth bombs about what went wrong this season of the popular Netflix series. I'm unpacking the messy dynamics and explaining how you can avoid making the same mistakes. The season proved that love isn’t blind, but your standards don’t have to be—if you’re willing to do the work. We’re diving deep into why “love will grow” outside of attract...

Eli sits down with Hily Dating App's sexologist and sexuality educator Dr. Mindy DeSeta to flip the script on consent. This episode turns “awkward talks” into real-time foreplay—how to ask with finesse, lead with vulnerability, and keep things safe without killing the vibe. They break down why so many daters freeze from performance anxiety, how to start a spicy convo the right way, and why safety...

What do men want in relationships today? It’s more than just chemistry or physical attraction. Eli breaks down the key qualities men look for in long-term partnerships, focusing on emotional maturity, accountability, and how well you manage your emotions. In this episode, Eli discusses why emotional regulation is one of the most underrated yet crucial aspects of a successful relationship and how m...

Your circle isn’t just there to nod and say “girl, same.” Eli shows you how to transform friends into an accountability squad: ask permission before you vent, set the lane (listen vs. advice), and leave with one next step plus a date to report back. This is how support stops being emotional clutter—and starts becoming your healing engine. We unpack this and so much in stepping into your own power...

Ever been blindsided by a breakup, replaying every what-if, asking “Was it me?” Eli gets it. This week, he dives into the messy, uncomfortable, and sometimes hilarious reality of closure. Why it’s not always about answers, why secure people get triggered too, and why the “closure you want” isn’t always the closure you get. Through this episode, you’ll learn to parent your inner child, recognize av...

That instant spark, the butterflies, the “oh my God he’s hot” moment—it’s thrilling, it’s intoxicating… and it can make you blind. In this episode, Eli dismantles the myth that chemistry equals compatibility. He shares raw insights from years of coaching, personal experience as a former avoidant, and real stories from clients who got caught chasing sparks instead of substance. Learn how to pump th...

Self-care isn’t spa days and margaritas. It’s facing yourself with intention so you can raise the standard for your whole life. In this episode, Eli breaks down why real self-care is actually selfless, how “survival mode” keeps you burned out, and a simple intention-first system you can use today. He shares the BuzzFeed solo-date story, the backyard picnic that changed everything, and practical pr...

You asked, and Eli answered. In this special community-driven episode, host Eli Vazquez dives headfirst into your most burning questions about dating and heartbreak. Wondering what he’s really thinking in that rebound relationship? Confused about the difference between boundaries and rules? This is the episode for you. With his signature mix of tough love, relatable humor, and actionable advice, E...

You don’t need six months to see the truth—you need a process. In this episode, Eli gives you a three-date blueprint to identify avoidant patterns early: intentional check-ins, direct values alignment (marriage, kids, faith, location), and real talk about conflict and repair. You’ll learn how to calm an anxious attachment by building self-trust, practice reparenting with curiosity and compassion,...

In a refreshing and honest conversation on the Selfhype Podcast, Eli Vasquez welcomes the infectiously positive Suzi Jalowsky to share the story behind her viral fitness fame. What began with workout DVDs in her garage after putting the kids to bed has blossomed into a million-follower community inspired by her simple and effective approach to health. Together, Eli and Suzi explore the power of st...

Why does dating feel like a never-ending cycle of disappointment? Eli dives into the sneaky ways social media rewires our brains to expect heartbreak, distrust, and division in love. From heartbreak content loops that keep wounds open, to confusing growth with potential in relationships, he exposes the traps that leave so many burnt out in the digital streets. But it’s not all bad news—Eli shares...

Episode Introduction: Erin Valente is a compassionate therapist and content creator whose deep curiosity about people and their stories fuels her mission to make mental health more approachable and relatable. On this episode of the Selfhype Podcast, Erin joins Eli Vasquez to unpack the realities of trauma, healing, and the human experience. With years of experience supporting clients through diver...

In this raw and real episode of the Self Hype Podcast, Eli Vazquez delivers a no-nonsense wake-up call about the trap of falling for "potential" in relationships. With his signature wit and straight talk, Eli breaks down why chasing someone’s unrealized potential is a recipe for heartbreak and how to shift your focus to reality. He gets candid about his own journey, from his "dusty" days to becomi...

This episode of the SelfHype Podcast features Brittani Ard, a resilient architect and storyteller who transformed personal pain into a powerful narrative. Brittani shares her gripping story with Eli, diving into her experience with a manipulative relationship that unraveled a web of deception, leading to her viral podcast season that reached #1 in five countries. Through raw vulnerability, she ref...

This week Eli breaks down how we constantly end up with same type of people and how on a inner work level challenge yourself to uncover not only why you do so but how to break the cycle for good. All so you can finally have the healthy, mature love you so desperately deserve!    Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   F...

This episode of the SelfHype Podcast features Michele Locke, a dynamic divorce lawyer who’s lived every angle of family law—from navigating her parents divorce as a child to facing her own after 22 years of marriage. Michele shares her raw and inspiring journey with Eli, diving into how her life-altering decision to prioritize herself which led to profound transformation while sharing knowledge on...

In this raw and heartfelt birthday episode of the Self Hype Podcast, Eli Vazquez opens up about his journey with mental health and its profound impact on love and life. Recorded just before his birthday getaway to Orlando, Eli shares how he’s taking a well-deserved break to reflect and celebrate with loved ones. With unfiltered honesty, he dives into the struggles of anxiety, depression, and self-...

This week Eli we discuss men's mental health and so much more with Kristofer Goldsmith who is a combat veteran, investigative researcher, and nationally recognized expert on disinformation and domestic extremism. He is the founder of Task Force Butler Institute and the On Offense media project, and a co-host of the Find Out Podcast—platforms that use investigative journalism and viral content to e...

This week we are talking all things accountability! Why it so important, how to create a healthy inner child healing system around your own accountability and why men struggle with it. We dive into the nitty gritty so you can stop venting to your poor friends over and over again - so you can start doing the work of interpersonal healing like a boss!    Want To Join My Healing Program? JOIN HERE  ...

This week we are answering community questions! That is right! We are diving into answering questions about your musty, dusty, rusty man. Cheating, how to heal in ways no one talks about and more!    Want To Join My My Healing Program? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE   Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instag...

This week on the Self-Hype Podcast we dive into how your relationship with money could be holding you back from finding true love. Join Eli Vazquez and Latina wealth activist Lea Landaverde, queer first-gen financial educator and founder of Requeza, as they unpack financial wounds and share strategies to heal money habits, challenge limiting beliefs, and foster empowered partnerships.   Lear more...

This week we are talking all things communication w/ an avoidant attached partner! I dissect and break down the nitty gritty of how to created regulated spaces of communication in a relationship and how to learn to talk to the opposite attached partner. We break down my story of being avoidant, how I did the work and what worked for me in opening up. So you can apply it to success in your love lif...