The Self-Hype Podcast

If you spent the entire new season of Love Is Blind screaming at your television, you are not alone. This week, Eli returns to the mic for a highly anticipated, wildly unfiltered deep dive into the latest mess of the pods. He breaks down why this season was simultaneously boring and incredibly telling, exposing the reality that "love" isn't blind—insecurity, desperation, and infatuation are. Eli r...

If you’ve ever wanted to literally paint a picture of your trauma and stare it right in the face, this episode is for you. Eli brings on viral artist Shannon Lane, who took the internet by storm by literally painting the "demons" of depression and anxiety. Shannon gets incredibly raw about turning to a paintbrush when she couldn’t afford expensive therapy, how her viral "You Are Not Alone" project...

Are you making a relationship your ultimate life goal just so a man can finally validate your existence? Eli is here to violently dismantle that mindset. Stepping away from the usual dating mechanics, Eli unpacks the heavy, terrifying reality of finding your actual life purpose. He shares his own journey of moving to Chicago, slowing down, and mourning the fact that he missed out on long-term love...

If Shakira and Beyoncé can get cheated on, absolutely nobody is safe. In this highly requested return episode, Eli sits down with badass divorce attorney Michele Locke to rip the glamorous filter off of celebrity marriages. They go totally unfiltered on the delusions of the Hollywood elite—from J.Lo’s endless lack of accountability to Tom Brady treating his supermodel wife like an off-season hobby...

Grab your notebook ya’ll. In this highly requested community Q&A episode, Eli battles through a nasty sinus infection to deliver the ultimate intervention for your anxious attachment. He holds nothing back as he roasts the delusion of waiting for a guy who literally told you he belongs to the streets, breaks down why you need to stop mistaking a panic attack for "the spark," and explains why h...

Are you exhausted by Instagram trainers promising you'll drop 30 pounds in 30 days if you just "grind harder"? In this unfiltered guest episode, Eli sits down with his own personal trainer, Ambrose, to expose the absolute BS of the modern fitness industry. Ambrose breaks down why he walked away from a six-figure tech job at Meta to become a trainer who actually gives a damn about your mental healt...

In this highly requested solo episode, Eli takes a hilarious, unfiltered deep dive into why romantic comedies are secretly ruining our dating lives. Calling out everything from Notting Hill to cheesy Hallmark Christmas movies, Eli breaks down why we are all addicted to the "spark" and delusional fairy tales. He roasts your favorite cinematic heroines for emotionally cheating on their perfectly fin...

If you’re currently sobbing over someone who abruptly decided to walk away, this episode is a massive, warm hug for your nervous system. Eli sits down with poet and bestselling author Cailin Hargreaves (whose viral words probably saved you at 3 AM) to talk about the brutal, unfiltered reality of sudden heartbreak. Cailin gets incredibly vulnerable about her own current separation, breaking down th...

Why does someone seem to move on so quickly after a breakup, especially when you’re still trying to pick up the pieces? In this deeply personal episode of The Self Hype Podcast, Eli Vazquez shares his own experience as a former avoidant who entered a rebound relationship while still emotionally raw from heartbreak. He opens up about the fear, loneliness, need for validation, childhood wounds, and...

In this spicy, highly requested solo episode, Eli dives deep into the controversial truth about why modern men are so terrified of settling down. He spills the tea on the male psychology behind dating, breaking down how the endless dopamine loop of hookup culture has completely warped men's sense of self-worth. Eli gets real about the massive difference in social pressure between men and women, us...

In this powerhouse guest episode, Eli sits down with digital creator and advocate Sander Jennings to completely dismantle the toxic man playbook. Sander gets totally unfiltered about his journey from a college guy to politically active advocate who knows true strength means crying with your friends. They roast the red pill manosphere’s obsession with "getting rich, ripped, and laid," and break dow...

In this highly requested episode, Eli steps slightly outside of his usual relationship advice to go completely unfiltered on the manosphere. As a reformed "dusty man" turned dating coach, he debunks the most toxic Red Pill myths currently poisoning modern romance. From tearing apart the "80/20 rule" to calling out why the obsession with being a stoic, dominant "Alpha Male" is actually just a massi...

In this raw and unfiltered solo episode, Eli hits pause on the usual relationship psychology to get real about aging, anxiety, and why getting everything you ever wanted can actually feel like a massive letdown. Celebrating his 36th birthday from his new Chicago apartment, Eli takes us through the terrifying "exposure therapy" of slowing down after years of digital nomading and chasing dopamine. H...

In this AMA episode, Eli dives into the Instagram mailbag to answer your most burning questions about avoidant exes, messy breakups, and the reality of the healing era. He tackles the ultimate question: can an avoidant ex actually process your breakup while monkey-branching into a new relationship? (Spoiler: Hell no.) Eli breaks down the neuroscience of heartbreak, explaining why your brain goes t...

Welcome back to the Selfhype Podcast! This week, Eli is diving into the sweet, beautiful, and absolutely terrifying world of rejection. If you’re letting the fear of a "no" hold you back from your dream career, your personal growth, or filtering out that dusty-ass ex, it's time to wake up. We’re talking all about rejection therapy, having the audacity to take up space, and training your nervous sy...

If your knee-jerk reaction to conflict is to shut down or freak out, your subconscious might be stuck in the third grade. In this incredibly nerdy and insightful episode, Eli geeks out with Danny B, a certified aerospace mental fitness coach who works directly with the teams at NASA. Dani breaks down the literal neuroscience of how our brains get programmed, and hands you the exact blueprint to re...

If you just caved and texted your toxic ex, hooked up with him, or stalked his new girlfriend’s Instagram story—take a deep breath. In this solo episode, Eli is letting you off the hook. He breaks down why failure in your healing era is not actually failure; it's a completely normal biological response to losing your "tribe." Eli explains why beating yourself up is a waste of energy and challenges...

If you have a history of making a man the absolute center of your universe and abandoning your own life, this episode is your intervention. Eli is breaking down exactly how to protect your independence without sacrificing a secure partnership. He unpacks the harsh truth that your partner is supposed to be your support system, not your cure—and if you expect him to fix your anxiety or loneliness, y...

What happens when your "perfect on paper" life suddenly falls apart? In this episode, Eli sits down with author and former corporate lawyer SC Perot to talk about surviving the ultimate life plot twist. SC opens up about the acute grief of navigating divorce during the pandemic—losing not just a partner, but her community, her house, and her dog. She explains how she traded her corporate blazers f...

If you are terrified of losing yourself in another relationship or repeating the same toxic patterns, this episode is your official game plan. Eli answers one of the most common questions he gets: How do I actually "do the work" when I don't currently have a partner triggering me? He breaks down why you can't truly simulate a romantic relationship while single, but how you can still prep your nerv...

In this highly requested solo episode, Eli takes a hilarious, unfiltered look at the classic Disney princess movies that secretly ruined our dating expectations. He breaks down why we’re all addicted to a delusional, “fairytale” view of love—and how media propaganda has conditioned us to chase a non-existent spark. From dragging Snow White for moving in with seven roommates, to questioning how Ari...

We all know the post-breakup urge to grab mimosas, turn up, and numb the pain. But in this episode, Eli and guest Colleen Freeland break down exactly why drinking through your heartbreak practically guarantees you’ll repeat the exact same toxic patterns in your next relationship. Using her own story of navigating divorce and high-functioning alcohol dependency, Colleen explains how outsourcing you...

Eli is dropping the ultimate truth bomb for anyone stuck in a frustrating relationship trying to "fix" their partner: you cannot change a man. In this quick, hard-hitting solo episode, Eli breaks down why dating for potential—when it's entirely one-sided—is just delusion in disguise. He shares his own journey of doing the inner work, revealing that he didn't heal his avoidant tendencies to save a...

In this solo episode, Eli is hitting you with the ultimate post-breakup reality check: when are you actually ready to start dating again? He breaks down the crucial difference between just "healing while single" and giving your nervous system the required time to fall in love with your own life. If you are downloading dating apps out of FOMO, anxiety, or the fear of being left behind, this episode...

It’s time for the quarterly Q&A! In this episode, Eli opens the mailbag to answer the wild, messy, and deeply relatable questions submitted by the Selfhype community. He breaks down exactly why men use "gray language" to keep you in a situationship, the real reason an avoidant jumps right into a new relationship (and why it’s not a reflection of your worth), and why your ex blocking you everyw...