The Real Marriage Podcast

Have you ever wondered, “Was that God speaking to me, or was that just my own thoughts?” Learning to hear from God can sometimes feel confusing, but we believe God still speaks—and He wants us to recognize His voice and follow His leading. In this episode of The Real Marriage Podcast , we get practical about what it looks like to hear from God in our everyday lives. We break it down into three sim...

What’s the difference between being a peacemaker and simply being a peacekeeper ? In this episode, we talk honestly about why conflict can be so difficult to approach, why we often avoid hard conversations, and how our desire to “keep the peace” can actually create more problems in the long run. True peacemaking isn’t about avoiding conflict or pretending everything is okay—it’s about having the c...

Giving mercy and forgiveness sounds simple until we’re the ones who have been hurt. In this episode, we talk honestly and personally about how challenging it can be—even for us as a couple—to extend mercy, let go of resentment, and choose forgiveness when we don’t feel like it. But we also explore why mercy and forgiveness are so essential to following Jesus. Ultimately, learning to forgive isn’t...

Life is full of distractions, disappointments, and everyday pressures that can easily pull our focus away from what matters most. In this episode of The Real Marriage Podcast , we talk about what it practically looks like to fix our eyes on Jesus in the middle of busy schedules, unexpected hardships, and the ordinary moments of life. We share biblical encouragement, personal experiences, and pract...

What does it look like to drift into complacency without even realizing it? Does cheap Christianity satisfy? In this episode of The Real Marriage Podcast , we have an honest conversation about the danger of lukewarm Christianity and God's desire for our hearts to be fully devoted to Him. It's easy to become comfortable with routines, attend church, and say the right things while slowly l...

Have you ever found yourself wanting more of God—more of His presence, more of His peace, and more of His guidance? In this episode of The Real Marriage Podcast , we talk about what it means to cultivate a genuine desire to draw closer to God and hear His voice more clearly. We discuss how intimacy with God isn't built through quick fixes or emotional highs, but through daily surrender, time...

When people think about legacy, they often think about accomplishments, possessions, or the impact they leave on the world. But the most important legacy we can leave behind is a spiritual one. In this episode, we discuss what it means to pass down a faith that endures from generation to generation. We explore biblical examples of spiritual inheritance, the responsibility believers have to invest...

Weariness and burnout are struggles many Christians face, yet they often feel difficult to talk about openly. In this episode, we share a candid conversation about the pressures, disappointments, and demands that can leave believers feeling exhausted in their faith and daily lives. Together, we explore what Scripture teaches about rest, God's presence in seasons of weakness, and how to recogn...

We all struggle with dry seasons. In our faith, relationships, work, etc.   We feel off.  Things are flowing as well as we would like. How can we thrive spiritually when it feels that way? Join us as we dig into seasons of drought and growing through them. 

We have finally made our way back to making episodes! As we shift into more spiritual-focused conversations join us as we talk about what it means to live set apart. 

Every marriage has a story. How you met. How you realized they were the one. What life has been like since getting married.   We realized that we hadn't fully shared our story and how God brought us together.  It certainly had twists and turns and each of us made decisions that could have ultimately kept us from living in God's will but through His grace He finally brought us together. L...

You may have been told before you had kids that once they come there is no going back.  It changes everything.  It's hard to know how true that is until it comes but if we aren't careful it can create difficult challenges for the marriage.   Griffin and Heather ran into this recently in what seemed like a random moment.  Heather felt like she needed more time and focus on the marriage an...

Hormones! We all know that every month a woman is impacted physically, mentally and emotionally.  The question is how does that disrupt the marriage? It may or may not be an open and comfortable conversation in your home but if you aren't on the same page with this time of the month then you can open yourselves up to issues that develop over time. Listen and hear how Heather and Griffin have...

A new year always produces reflective thoughts.   Where are we in life?  Where are we headed?  Are things where we want them to be? With how busy and overwhelming life is it can be tempting to just ask those questions but not have a true plan to move forward.   This episode is a discussion about why it is necessary to grow and move forward.  Why we must not get stagnant and just stay where we are....

Gratitude is a choice. Unfortunately it isn't always the natural one.  As we've discussed before it can be easy to live in a place of discontent and wanting rather than a place of gratefulness.   Listen and hear Heather and Griffin speak on the power of gratefulness.  You will hear them explore the significance of what your gratitude is anchored to and why it takes work to develop a natu...

Making life-changing decisions always comes with trepidation.   This year Griffin and Heather made the big decision to homeschool all of their children.  After praying and seeking the Lord's guidance they made the move to alter their lives and maybe more significantly the lives of their children. This episode explores the challenges of making big decisions as a family.  How do you deal with s...

It's hard not to be anxious or worried. When you open social media, check the news or even just go about your day you run into information that is unsettling. Politics, wars, daily news, hurricane destruction, etc. make it really hard to avoid being affected by so many challenging circumstances in the world.  So, what's the balance between caring and being informed versus being overwhelm...

The demands on your life are strong. Do you often feel like you can't keep up? Like you are falling behind and missing things you should be keeping up with? One of the most common questions Griffin and Heather get is "How do you do it all?"  The true answer is that they don't feel like they do.  The feeling is often that we are not keeping up well enough. Listen and hear Heathe...

Words matter. You can think back to different times in your life where words made a significant impact on your life.  It could have been positive or negative but when people speak into your life it leaves a mark, especially when those words come from someone you care about. It's no different in marriage and parenting.  Your words to your spouse and kids are of extreme importance.  Choose them...

Everyone parents differently.   There is no easy or perfect template to parenting that creates the best case scenario with our kids.  One thing that is true, though, about parenting is that we are responsible for them.  Their growth, their character, their values, etc.   Increasingly, it is becoming harder to fight against the influences of our culture to have a strong voice in the lives of our ki...

Dreams can be difficult. On the one hand we get excited about what could be and striving for more.  On the other hand not all of our dreams should be the focus of our attention.  How do you balance this in your marriage? Listen to an open conversation about a recent dream that was crushed in Heather's life and how it sparked a great conversation between Griffin and Heather.  You will hear the...

While life seems to get busier by the day the distractions seem to come just as quickly. Whether it is aimlessly scrolling through social media, watching the random tv shows or however you fill the ever so small blank space you have in your day-to-day it never seems to help us move forward. In other words, our distractions can hold us back.   This episode is a conversation we try to always keep in...

You probably have many goals for the new year.   Getting healthy physically and maybe spiritually.  Goals for your kids and relationships.   What if sex and intimacy was a part of your goals this year?  When God created marriage He made it to where sex is a major component of strengthening and protecting a marriage.  It is a blessing that we get to take part in. However, as life goes on and we get...

Somehow the year is already over. Another year down and 2024 is now to come.  One of the practices we try to do often is reflecting on where we have been and what we have been through.   For us, 2023 has been full of new challenges as well as circumstances to celebrate.  Listen and hear us unpack our takeaways from the year.  From challenges with kids and work, learning how to keep maturing and fi...

Do you ever feel like you and your spouse aren't on the same page?  Do you feel like you are headed in two different directions?  Sometimes in our marriage one spouse can change as time goes on.  Your passions, your beliefs, your core values can grow as you do but your spouse doesn't come along with you.  This can be common for many marriages when life change happens like having kids, mo...