The Bone Zone

Send us Fan Mail We couldn’t not watch the Manosphere. Join us for this episode where we rant, analyse and share some of our key takeaways from the Louis Theroux documentary and what it says about masculinity, femininity and relationships. In this episode, we talk about:  How we got here – the discrediting of “masculinity” and how it led to polarization  The men in the Manosphere are not “alpha me...

Send us Fan Mail Arguments within a relationship are not a bad thing. The problem is where arguments remain unresolved, where things said in the heat of the moment are weaponised or where they linger on for weeks affecting the relationship. However, if we can learn to argue well and not take things so personally, then, arguments are huge opportunities for personal and relationship growth. In this...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we challenge the belief that arguing and conflict within a relationship is “bad”. We talk about something far more insidious that can spell doom for a long-term relationship. And that is non-communication or silence. The irony is that you might think silence is helpful to maintain harmony (and maybe it is in the short term), but the more you do this, the more you...

Send us Fan Mail Today, we’re talking about the problem with taking life (and relationships) too seriously!  The older we get, the more we hear phrases like “grow up” – but what if we used play strategically to make every aspect of our life better (and had fun doing it)? For Richard and I, humour has always been an integral part of our relationship and something that we default back to when everyt...

Send us Fan Mail People throw around the term “integrity”, but what does it mean and how does it show up within a relationship? Unfortunately, in a world where we have a lot of high-profile examples of toxic masculinity, it can be hard to pinpoint the qualities of the healthy masculine.  Integrity forms one of those qualities and we go deep into it! And it goes far beyond a moral code! In this epi...

Send us Fan Mail There are some shocking statistics out there about how much couples actually talk to each other over the course of a week!  No wonder relationships fail – because whether you’re happy or not, unless you put time, attention and effort into your relationship, it will suffer and eventually the love dies. You wouldn’t expect to show up to work for half an hour a week and expect to suc...

Send us Fan Mail When I say the words “fair exchange” – what do you think of? For a lot of people, the first thing that comes to mind is money. While you may think that’s less true in relationships than say work, money undoubtedly can become a bone of contention in a relationship. Especially if the breadwinner sees themselves as “being owed”, or the one being supported financially has wounding or...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we talk all things female orgasm, with intuitive sex and intimacy coach, Jake Kelly. It’s easy to think that it’s all about the clitoris, when it comes to female pleasure. But this is the tip of the orgasmic iceberg.  In this episode, we talk about:  The infinite range of possible orgasms!  The main orgasms for women in addition to the clitoris  The price of admis...

Send us Fan Mail Having trouble getting into sex and climaxing? It can be easy to write it off as just one of those things, and tell yourself: “well, that just happens sometimes.” But how we feel in our relationship and other areas of life shows up in the bedroom, and if we choose to go there and ask why we’re blocked sexually, rather than ignore it, we can alchemise our emotional blocks. In this...

Send us Fan Mail There seems to be two polarised schools of thought in relation to dating, romantic relationships and marriage. The deeply cynical view that relationships get worse over time and the opposite: fairy tale love. We don’t advocate settling in a relationship, however, looking for a fairy tale too soon can lead to you to run away from people that are a great match for you too early in t...

Send us Fan Mail This episode is a part 2 to “sorry, not sorry for being me”. If you are going to be yourself in a relationship, the other side of that is allowing your partner to be themselves in the relationship. They say that men get married hoping their partner will never change, and women get married hoping their partner will change. Both sides are invariably disappointed! Just as the path to...

Send us Fan Mail There is a lot of bad relationship advice out there – some of which talks about “do’s and don’ts” – don’t be too successful; don’t be too loud; don’t talk about this... The reality is that if you want to find a soulmate relationship, you need to be yourself. Not someone that you think you have to be to “win” at the game of love. That includes feeling safe to say what you really th...

Send us Fan Mail Things Are Going Great… Quick, Ruin It!" – A Story of Upper Limiting Why is it that when something seems to be going well for us, somehow something happens and it seems to fall to shit? Often through us engaging in self-sabotaging behaviours. In this episode, we introduce a concept discussed in the book The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. Upper limiting – i.e. once we’ve surpassed...

Send us Fan Mail As a couple, it’s inevitable that you will disagree. However, if you find yourself consistently fighting about banal, everyday shit; that’s not really the issue!  It’s indicative of a deeper problem that many don’t take the time to really uncover. The meaningless shit (whether it be taking the trash out, cleaning etc) hides a deeper meaning, that if not addressed can spell the end...

Send us Fan Mail The term feminine embodiment is not all about the “woo woo” things you might hear out there. For those of you that could never identify with the woo woo, this episode is for you! We also talk about how and why women tend to have “low” libidos and why most women are only accessing a small fraction of the potential sensitivity of their yoni. In this episode, we discuss: What exactly...

Send us Fan Mail "Fall Apart To Rise" How Letting Yourself Crumble Leads To Rebuilding Stronger In this end of year episode, Sara shares insights from the end of a challenging year and her intuitive downloads. In this episode, we talk about: Falling apart as a pre-cursor to better – the end of a cycle. How allowing yourself to fall apart (and expressing fully all the emotions associated...

Send us Fan Mail Episode 7 "The Ex-Files", Shitty Relationships and Using Them as A Tool for Growth In this episode, we talk about our past relationships and what they taught us. It can be easy to write off love and relationships after years of bad relationships and bad dates, but if you can flip your thinking and see the challenges as a learning curve, it will make you more ready for at...

Send us Fan Mail Episode 6 Brainwashed in Bed. Escape the Conditioning that’s Sabotaging Your Pleasure. In this episode, we talk about common belief systems about sex, men and women; that have been ingrained in us by society, family and culture. As much as we might believe we don’t follow these programs, once they filter into our subconscious, they hold us back from realising our sexual potential...

Send us Fan Mail Putting Yourself First No Matter What We have a potentially triggering episode topic today – putting yourself first no matter what! This is one of the keys to happy relationships (and a happier life). This doesn’t mean you don’t do anything for anyone else! It means that when you do little things to fill up your own cup, you are more able to be there fully for others and less like...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we encourage you to develop a reflective approach to have more and better sex within a long-term relationship! It’s easy to believe that sex, romance and passion fades over time. Everyone tells us that’s what to expect. Look at all the jokes about sex and marriage (i.e. you won’t have much of it the longer you’re together!) The truth is more complex. We may “norma...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we talk about six key ingredients to attracting a soulmate relationship. While this is not the full list of ingredients, paying attention to these six points will go a long way in helping you to attract higher quality romantic prospects into your life! We talk about: 1. What exactly is a soulmate partner? 2. The four areas to assess compatibility with a partner 3....

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we talk about trust. Trust between you and your partner. And trust in yourself. Although, in this episode, we talk about it in terms of trust in relation to financial matters and thinking of money in terms of “our” rather than “you and me” separately; this could apply to any topic within the relationship where trust (or the lack thereof) is a factor. Even within a...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to the inaugural episode of the Bone Zone with Richard & Sara. In this podcast, we will be excavating sex & relationship myths to uncover the truth of how relationships really work. We bridge the esoteric and practical worlds to bring you grounded, sage and tangible advice & tools whether you’re looking to attract a soulmate relationship or grow and expand with...