The Bone Zone

Send us Fan Mail It’s easy to assume that you’ll feel happy, safe and secure when… You have a great relationship, the perfect job, a certain amount of money in your bank account etc. No amount of anything external will make you feel enough if you don’t feel enough. In this episode, we talk about:  How being self-critical can spur you to action but how it leads to a success ceiling later down the r...

Send us Fan Mail We like to challenge narratives that we see perpetuated out in the world on the Bone Zone and in this episode, we talk about the growing trend of pitting men and women against each other. It seems everywhere on social media now, you have men degrading, insulting and attacking women. And women who are done with men. Posts and podcasts about the “man child”, toxic masculinity and un...

Send us Fan Mail We’ve been hearing the word “narcissist” a lot recently, with various friends talking about a person in their life who has narcissistic tendencies.  So, we wanted to record an episode, where we talk about our experiences with narcissistic people and some key ingredients to either stop attracting them or improve your encounters with them.  In this episode, we talk about:  Our exper...

Send us Fan Mail Our family relationships can be some of the most triggering relationships in our lives.  It can be easy to get caught in a cycle of blame and finger pointing (especially if there is much history to back it up!) but challenging family dynamics are also some of the greatest tools for growth. We talk about the impact of Sara’s parents two-week visit and why we’d do it again (no, real...

Send us Fan Mail It’s not just women that are subject to the “age” programming that is so prevalent in society. Today’s episode is courtesy of a listener’s friend who is adamant that men in their 50s have low sex drive! As we’ve talked about before, just because something is normalised, doesn’t mean that it’s the truth. Your thought patterns affect your physiology and your actions. You don’t need...

Send us Fan Mail Today’s episode follows a conversation that Sara had with a friend going through a very messy divorce. It’s easy to feel confused at exactly where a relationship went wrong. And it’s also good practice to draw learnings from the relationship, so you know better next time. However, we all have blind spots and self-awareness gaps (to differing extents) that can make this reflection...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we talk about all things perimenopause! Sara talks about the “perimenopause” seed and how it was first planted, the proliferation of her symptoms and how she reversed them through a combination of physical, sexual and emotional/energetic practices. The bottom line here is that: you don’t have to suffer miserably throughout perimenopause and menopause. And you don’...

Send us Fan Mail What do you do if you want to grow but your partner doesn’t? It can be hard when you feel that your partner isn’t on the same page as you, or worse, they actively try and discourage you from growth and improvement. The answer isn’t necessarily to seek out a new partner. You can create an amazing relationship by focusing your attention on the right things and in this episode, we ta...

Send us Fan Mail The body is always speaking to you. And your genitals are no different. You can use any points of soreness or tension or resistance in the genitals as a guide to what’s going on with you emotionally at that time. In this episode, we give a real-life example of how to use what’s going on in the bedroom to quickly heal the body. We talk about:  Tension, soreness and discomfort in th...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, inspired by the dating experience of one of our friends, we talk about why you tend to end up in repeating dating patterns with people who don’t make an effort, disrespect you, or tend to lose interest. The modern dating world can be brutal – and I’ve heard the phrase time and again “there are no good men (or women) out there.” In this episode, we talk about:  How...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Sara talks about her journey to find the balance between the masculine and feminine within. And Richard shares his journey stepping into his masculine. Women are often taught from a young age to be strong, independent go-getters. Sometimes, through early life experiences, the “masculine” armour also develops as a way of protecting yourself. And there is a lot to r...

Send us Fan Mail Within our relationship, we implemented the practice of the 3-hour sex date once a week. Barring some periods of falling off the wagon, we have more or less stuck to it for almost 2 years. Sex and intimacy are like anything else. If you don’t make it a priority and plan for it (likegoing to the gym), you’re likely to see it slide further down your list. However, what do you do if...

Send us Fan Mail This episode was inspired by an insight that cropped up during our weekly date night. During long, loving relationships – whether they be family, friends or romantic partners, there will be times when the people you love will need support. What is the correct balance for that support between allowing the other person autonomy to ask for help, looking after yourself and looking aft...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we talk about open relationships, poly-amory and other types of non-monogamous relationships. These types of relationships characterised by agreement between the parties concerned have been glamourised and offered as a solution for the monotony of monogamy in the last decade or so. But what’s the real reason why people choose to enter these arrangements? We talk a...

Send us Fan Mail We couldn’t not watch the Manosphere. Join us for this episode where we rant, analyse and share some of our key takeaways from the Louis Theroux documentary and what it says about masculinity, femininity and relationships. In this episode, we talk about:  How we got here – the discrediting of “masculinity” and how it led to polarization  The men in the Manosphere are not “alpha me...

Send us Fan Mail Arguments within a relationship are not a bad thing. The problem is where arguments remain unresolved, where things said in the heat of the moment are weaponised or where they linger on for weeks affecting the relationship. However, if we can learn to argue well and not take things so personally, then, arguments are huge opportunities for personal and relationship growth. In this...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we challenge the belief that arguing and conflict within a relationship is “bad”. We talk about something far more insidious that can spell doom for a long-term relationship. And that is non-communication or silence. The irony is that you might think silence is helpful to maintain harmony (and maybe it is in the short term), but the more you do this, the more you...

Send us Fan Mail Today, we’re talking about the problem with taking life (and relationships) too seriously!  The older we get, the more we hear phrases like “grow up” – but what if we used play strategically to make every aspect of our life better (and had fun doing it)? For Richard and I, humour has always been an integral part of our relationship and something that we default back to when everyt...

Send us Fan Mail People throw around the term “integrity”, but what does it mean and how does it show up within a relationship? Unfortunately, in a world where we have a lot of high-profile examples of toxic masculinity, it can be hard to pinpoint the qualities of the healthy masculine.  Integrity forms one of those qualities and we go deep into it! And it goes far beyond a moral code! In this epi...

Send us Fan Mail There are some shocking statistics out there about how much couples actually talk to each other over the course of a week!  No wonder relationships fail – because whether you’re happy or not, unless you put time, attention and effort into your relationship, it will suffer and eventually the love dies. You wouldn’t expect to show up to work for half an hour a week and expect to suc...

Send us Fan Mail When I say the words “fair exchange” – what do you think of? For a lot of people, the first thing that comes to mind is money. While you may think that’s less true in relationships than say work, money undoubtedly can become a bone of contention in a relationship. Especially if the breadwinner sees themselves as “being owed”, or the one being supported financially has wounding or...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we talk all things female orgasm, with intuitive sex and intimacy coach, Jake Kelly. It’s easy to think that it’s all about the clitoris, when it comes to female pleasure. But this is the tip of the orgasmic iceberg.  In this episode, we talk about:  The infinite range of possible orgasms!  The main orgasms for women in addition to the clitoris  The price of admis...

Send us Fan Mail Having trouble getting into sex and climaxing? It can be easy to write it off as just one of those things, and tell yourself: “well, that just happens sometimes.” But how we feel in our relationship and other areas of life shows up in the bedroom, and if we choose to go there and ask why we’re blocked sexually, rather than ignore it, we can alchemise our emotional blocks. In this...

Send us Fan Mail There seems to be two polarised schools of thought in relation to dating, romantic relationships and marriage. The deeply cynical view that relationships get worse over time and the opposite: fairy tale love. We don’t advocate settling in a relationship, however, looking for a fairy tale too soon can lead to you to run away from people that are a great match for you too early in t...

Send us Fan Mail This episode is a part 2 to “sorry, not sorry for being me”. If you are going to be yourself in a relationship, the other side of that is allowing your partner to be themselves in the relationship. They say that men get married hoping their partner will never change, and women get married hoping their partner will change. Both sides are invariably disappointed! Just as the path to...