The Art of Love With Lucia

If your ex hasn't reached out, you might be accidentally making it easier for them to stay silent. In this episode, I explain the mistakes that can stop an ex from contacting you - even when they miss you, think about you or have thought about reaching out. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #getexback #avoidantex #getavoidantexback #...

Want to make your avoidant ex start worrying and become anxious about losing you? In this episode, I'll give you specific tricks, along with real client examples, designed to take away the certainty that you'll always be there waiting for them. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #avoidant #avoidantex #getexback #exback #nocontact

There's one emotion that can change the way your ex sees the breakup, and make them question whether walking away was a mistake. I In this episode, I explain how this emotion develops in an avoidant and what to look for once they reach out to you. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #avoidantattachment #avoidantex #getexback #getavoida...

If your avoidant ex seemed completely done, but you're wondering whether they could change their mind, this video will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface. I explain the psychology behind why avoidant exes come back, after they seemed so certain the relationship was over. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #avoidantex...

If you're in no contact with an avoidant ex, you may think they want distance and don't care what you're doing, But what an avoidant says they want and what they may secretly want can be very different. In this episode, I explain what may be happening beneath the silence, and why giving them space can change the dynamic. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secre...

Your ex may seem completely certain they want to stay broken up - but what they feel today isn’t necessarily what they’ll feel forever. In this episode, I explain why an ex may defend the breakup even when feelings are still there, how relief can be mistaken for certainty, and why giving them space allows time, absence, and new information to change the way they see their decision. Get coaching! D...

How do you make an avoidant feel so safe that they finally let you in and don't pull away? In this episode, I reveal the 3 phrases that create the emotional safety an avoidant needs to stay connected and move a relationship forward. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #avoidantex #avoidantattachment #getexback

If your avoidant ex says they want to be friends after the break up, what does that mean? Do they still have feelings for you or are they trying to make the break up easier? In this video I explain why avoidants offer friendship, what’s happening emotionally beneath the surface and the question you need to ask yourself before you say yes. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Rea...

If you're wondering whether your avoidant ex ever thinks about you and if they'll reach out, this episode is for you. I explain why some people stay on an avoidant's mind long after the relationship ends, and why it has absolutely nothing to do with chasing. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #getexback #avoidantex #avoidantattachment #no...

One of my subscribers finally received a text from her avoidant ex. Was it a breadcrumb? Did she respond? In this episode, I analyze her journey from heartbreak to healing, and break down what happened after reached out. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #avoidant #avoidantex #getexback #exback #nocontact #getavoidantexback

One of the biggest mistakes people make after no contact is assuming that because their ex reached out, they want to get back together. Not necessarily! In this episode, I'll walk you through a real coaching email from someone who did an excellent job with no contact, but then almost fell into a situationship because she skipped one crucial step. Get ⁠coaching!⁠ Download Silenzio App: ⁠ iPhone ⁠ O...

What does it mean when your avoidant ex reaches out after months of silence, asks to see you, and tells you they missed you? In this episode, I discuss whether it means they want to get back together or if something else is going on. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #avoidantex #avoidantattachment #getexback #avoidantcameback

Are you accidentally helping your avoidant ex move on? In this episode, I analyze a real viewer’s heartbreaking story and show exactly how breaking No Contact at the wrong time changed the outcome of her relationship. Her avoidant ex admitted he always runs from relationships. He regretted the breakup, questioned his decision, and even begged her not to leave. But when she reached out and started...

Have you convinced yourself that you'll never get your avoidant ex back? In this episode, I explain why silence doesn't always mean it's over, how people with avoidant attachment process breakups differently, and why your ex's breakup words aren't always their final words. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #avoidantattachment #avoidantex...

Just because an avoidant ex hasn't reached out, doesn't mean they don't care or that they've moved on. Sometimes, they're waiting for you to reach out. In this episode, I share 5 signs your avoidant ex may be hoping you'll make the first move, even if they haven't contacted you. You'll also learn how avoidants often signal interest indirectly. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Androi...

Does your ex seem cold, distant or like they don't care anymore? What if their behavior isn't telling the whole story? In this episode, I explain the psychology behind why some exes act cold after a breakup and what it may actually mean. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #getexback #exback #nocontact #nocontactrule #avoidantex

Your ex starts watching your stories, liking your posts or quietly orbiting your social media. Does it mean they miss you and want to come back? In this episode, I break down a real-life case study and explain why reacting to your ex's breadcrumbs can be one of the biggest mistakes you make after a breakup. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instag...

Are you giving someone all the benefits of a relationship while they still refuse to commit? In this episode, I explain why overgiving to an avoidant or emotionally unavailable person can keep you stuck in a situationship instead of moving toward a real relationship. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #situationship #avoidant #avoidantatt...

Do you want your avoidant to be afraid to lose you, chase you and put in the effort they used to avoid giving? In this episode I explain the psychological shift that makes avoidants stop pulling away and start leaning back in instead. Get coaching Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #avoidantattachment #makeavoidantobsessed #getexback #getavoidantback #...

Attention is not the same thing as intention. Social media breadcrumbs can keep you emotionally stuck if you confuse attention with real investment. In this episode, I explain why an ex may keep watching, liking or reacting to your social media after a breakup - while still not reaching out or following through. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book I...

If you've ever called out an avoidant for pulling away, being distant or sending mixed signals, you may have accidentally pushed them further away. In this episode I explain why calling out an avoidant usually backfires and what to do instead if you want to stop the push-pull cycle. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #avoidant #avoidantat...

Your ex may look fine after the breakup, but that doesn't mean they're actually okay. In this episode, I explain why many dumpers experience a delayed emotional reaction after a breakup and why the early version of your ex may not be the full story. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #getexback #exback #nocontact #nocontactrule

If you're wondering what actually hurts an avoidant ex after a breakup, it 's usually not what most people think. In this episode, I break down what really gets through to an avoidant ex, what keeps them emotionally shut down and why trying to "fix" things often backfires. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #avoidantex #avoidantattachment...

Why is your ex so distant, cold and shut down? In this episode, I break down what that behavior means after a breakup and why trying to force connection will backfire. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #exback #getexback #nocontact #nocontactrule #avoidantex

When an avoidant pulls away, it's easy to assume they're relieved, unbothered and already moving on. But that's not always what's happening. In this video, I break down what your silence does to an avoidant after a breakup or pullback and why no contact can shift the dynamic. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Say hi on Instagram #a...