The Art of Love With Lucia

Are you accidentally helping your avoidant ex move on? In this episode, I analyze a real viewer’s heartbreaking story and show exactly how breaking No Contact at the wrong time changed the outcome of her relationship. Her avoidant ex admitted he always runs from relationships. He regretted the breakup, questioned his decision, and even begged her not to leave. But when she reached out and started...

Have you convinced yourself that you'll never get your avoidant ex back? In this episode, I explain why silence doesn't always mean it's over, how people with avoidant attachment process breakups differently, and why your ex's breakup words aren't always their final words. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #avoidantattachment #avoidantex...

Just because an avoidant ex hasn't reached out, doesn't mean they don't care or that they've moved on. Sometimes, they're waiting for you to reach out. In this episode, I share 5 signs your avoidant ex may be hoping you'll make the first move, even if they haven't contacted you. You'll also learn how avoidants often signal interest indirectly. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Androi...

Does your ex seem cold, distant or like they don't care anymore? What if their behavior isn't telling the whole story? In this episode, I explain the psychology behind why some exes act cold after a breakup and what it may actually mean. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #getexback #exback #nocontact #nocontactrule #avoidantex

Your ex starts watching your stories, liking your posts or quietly orbiting your social media. Does it mean they miss you and want to come back? In this episode, I break down a real-life case study and explain why reacting to your ex's breadcrumbs can be one of the biggest mistakes you make after a breakup. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instag...

Are you giving someone all the benefits of a relationship while they still refuse to commit? In this episode, I explain why overgiving to an avoidant or emotionally unavailable person can keep you stuck in a situationship instead of moving toward a real relationship. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #situationship #avoidant #avoidantatt...

Do you want your avoidant to be afraid to lose you, chase you and put in the effort they used to avoid giving? In this episode I explain the psychological shift that makes avoidants stop pulling away and start leaning back in instead. Get coaching Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #avoidantattachment #makeavoidantobsessed #getexback #getavoidantback #...

Attention is not the same thing as intention. Social media breadcrumbs can keep you emotionally stuck if you confuse attention with real investment. In this episode, I explain why an ex may keep watching, liking or reacting to your social media after a breakup - while still not reaching out or following through. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book I...

If you've ever called out an avoidant for pulling away, being distant or sending mixed signals, you may have accidentally pushed them further away. In this episode I explain why calling out an avoidant usually backfires and what to do instead if you want to stop the push-pull cycle. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #avoidant #avoidantat...

Your ex may look fine after the breakup, but that doesn't mean they're actually okay. In this episode, I explain why many dumpers experience a delayed emotional reaction after a breakup and why the early version of your ex may not be the full story. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #getexback #exback #nocontact #nocontactrule

If you're wondering what actually hurts an avoidant ex after a breakup, it 's usually not what most people think. In this episode, I break down what really gets through to an avoidant ex, what keeps them emotionally shut down and why trying to "fix" things often backfires. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #avoidantex #avoidantattachment...

Why is your ex so distant, cold and shut down? In this episode, I break down what that behavior means after a breakup and why trying to force connection will backfire. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Instagram #exback #getexback #nocontact #nocontactrule #avoidantex

When an avoidant pulls away, it's easy to assume they're relieved, unbothered and already moving on. But that's not always what's happening. In this video, I break down what your silence does to an avoidant after a breakup or pullback and why no contact can shift the dynamic. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Say hi on Instagram #a...

My client got his fearful avoidant ex back after 9 long months of no contact. In this episode I break down why she broke up with him, what happened during no contact and why she eventually came back on her own. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Say hi on Instagram #exbacksuccessstory #gotexback #avoidantattachment #fearfulavoidant

Have you finally stopped chasing an avoidant and now you're wondering what happens next? In this episode, I break down the stages an avoidant goes through when they realize you've given up - from internal panic, to loss of control, to testing whether they still have access to you. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Say hi on Instagram #avoidantatta...

If an avoidant dumped you, ghosted you or pulled away, this episode is for you. I'm going to break down the 7 triggers that make an avoidant break their silence and reach out. You'll learn what really makes them feel the loss, why they often come back after distance, and what causes them to finally confront their feelings. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Sec...

A lot of breakup advice about no contact is either oversimplified or flat-out wrong. In this episode, I talk about why no contact is not right for every situation, why "respond so you don't look angry" is terrible advice, and the exceptions to no contact that most people don't know about. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Say Hi on Instagram #noco...

If they were consistent and then pulled away, don't assume it means you ruined it or they don't care. In this video, I break down the "Silence Loop" (the emotions that keep people from reaching out) and what to do so you don't make things worse. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Say hi on Instagram #exback #nocontact #getexback #nocontactrule #avo...

When an avoidant goes silent, after they've ghosted or dumped you, sometimes they're waiting to see if you'll reach out first. In this video, ex back expert Lucia breaks down the subtle signs that an avoidant is watching from a distance and leaving the door slightly open - without ever saying it directly. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Say hi o...

If your ex hasn't reached out, it doesn't always mean what you think. Most people misread the silence - and make things worse. In this episode, ex back coach Lucia breaks down what it actually signals and how to handle it without sabotaging your position. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Say Hi on Instagram! #nocontact #exback #nocontactrule #get...

Every avoidant has one person they can never fully let go of emotionally, no matter how much time has passed. Are you that person? In this video, dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals the specific traits and circumstances that make you unforgettable to someone with an avoidant attachment style. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Say hi on Instag...

Most people think that dealing with an avoidant means explaining, checking in or trying to say things the "right way". That usually pushes them further away. In this episode, ex back coach Lucia walks you through taboo ways people unintentionally make avoidants miss them - by doing less instead of more. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Say Hi on...

Blocking an avoidant ex feels powerful - but it often does the opposite of what you want. Ex back strategist Lucia explains why blocking can quietly backfire with avoidant attachment, what it does to their nervous system and the new rule you need to understand before you decide whether to block or not. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android No Contact Secrets Book Say Hi on Instag...

When getting back with an ex, people usually say they're going to "take it slow", but rarely do. Dating expert Lucia explains why pace is the deciding factor, especially with an avoidant ex and why talking doesn't actually move things forward. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets Book Say hi on Instagram #exback #getexback

Being patient with an avoidant doesn't save the connection - it often kills attraction. Dating expert Lucia explains why attraction fades when you're waiting, being understanding, and "not putting pressure on it". If you've been trying to stay calm and do the right thing while nothing changes, this episode is for you. Get coaching! Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR Android Read No Contact Secrets...