The Answer To Everything

Do you feel stuck when it's time to complete a task? Does it feel impossible to check off all the boxes on your to-do list? Have you considered you may have ADD? In this episode, I explain where ADD traits begin in childhood, and I give you a powerful step to focus and accomplish your goals when you feel like starting is impossible. Today's client, John: In John's counseling session, he shares wha...

Our caregivers' behaviors send us messages. For example, caregivers who are distracted and disconnected, leave their children to navigate through life alone. This sends children the message, "You are not valuable." In this episode, I explain how your caregivers sent you damaging messages, and the simple steps you can take towards healing. Today's client, Mallory: In Mallory's counseling session, s...

Are you waiting for an apology from someone? Ask yourself: Do I want an apology? Or do I want changed behavior? In this episode, I explain what you really want is changed behavior… not an apology.  Today's client, Mallory: In Mallory's counseling session, she recounts stories of her abusive childhood, but when I ask Mallory if she's ever gotten an apology from her parents, she says, "No"-- and she...

Do you think you're genetically predisposed to anxiety, depression, or addiction? Do you think you're stuck with these traits because they run in your family? In this episode, I explain explain that genetics play a very, very small role in your personality, and how you ACTUALLY picked up these traits and what to do with them. Today's client, Tracy" In Tracy's counseling session, we hear the moment...

In this episode, I explain how your family roots can affect your perception of yourself. Then, I ask you a very important question: are your family roots limiting your perception of how much you can achieve in your life? Today's client, Tracy: You hear a portion of Tracy's session where she shares her secret family history--which includes her Mom and Grandma's horrific past. —-- Want to work with...

Do you hide your true self from the world--keeping your thoughts and feelings, wants and needs inside? It's not a very happy way to live, is it? I will teach you the steps take to to be more open with who you really are. Today's client, Jasper: In this episode, you hear a portion of Jasper's session where he tells me that he hides parts of his personality from the world. He says this is a decision...

Today, I explain why it's so hard for you to speak your truth, and that speaking up is NOT manipulative. I give you tips for how to start speaking up for yourself - even when it's scary. Today's client, Jasper: In this episode, you hear a portion of Jasper's session where he tells me he's afraid to speak his truth. From the little things he needs, to the big things like initiating sex with his par...

Today, I explain where anger comes from and I help you navigate your intense anger with greater understanding and intelligence. I give you the three steps to take when you feel yourself getting angry - none of which include "taking deep breaths".  Today's client, John: In this episode, you hear a portion of John's session where he tells me the story of his "tantrum" in the mountains.  —-- Want to...

Today, I explain what quality connection with your child looks like, and how much quality connection your child actually needs (you'll be surprised). I give you tools to keep the connection with your kids solid, even when you're dealing with mental health issues. Today's client, Tracy: In this episode, you hear a portion of Tracy's session where she feels mom guilt about experiencing anxiety.  —--...

Today, I explain how skipping over difficult emotions can make you sick. I give you tips for how to feel your emotions when you find yourself wanting to push them down. Today's client, John: In this episode, you hear a portion of John's session, where he explores his drive to push through difficult situations without feeling emotions. —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If y...

Today, I explain why we worry about things that aren't real and explain the term, "orientation." I describe how orientation can bring you to a place of peace. I gives you tools to stop worrying today! Today's client, Tracy: In this episode, you hear a portion of Tracy's session in which her hypochondria is flaring up. —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you love the music...

Today, I explain why people laugh through their difficult stories and experiences, and whether or not this is a functional or dysfunctional response. I have tips for people who laugh their way through difficult situations and stories. Today's client, Mallory: In this episode, you hear a portion of Mallory's session where she and I discuss her traumatic past with her abusive partner -  while laughi...

Today, I explain why people love and stay in relationships with abusive partners. I give tips for people who love an abusive person. Today's client, Mallory: In this episode, you hear a portion of Mallory's session where she and I discuss the love she feels for her abuser. —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you love the music, check out The Gospel Whiskey Runners Produce...

What roles do you play in your life? Do you manipulate your relationships to keep yourself safe in the roles you play?  Today, I explain where our roles come from and what you do to keep yourself in those roles, even when you don't like them! Today's client, Jasper: In this episode, you hear a portion of Jasper's session where he and I discuss his relationships and how he always plays the "helper"...

In all of your relationships - do you find yourself being "the giver"? Is it a challenge for you to receive? Today, I explain what true human connection looks like, and the steps you need to take if you can't receive from the people in your life. Today's client, Jasper: In this episode, you hear a portion of Jasper's session where he and I discuss his need to be needed, and his issues around recei...

Have you made an unpopular decision? Do you try to explain your decision to people? Is that scary for you?  Abortion is a sensitive topic, so today, I create a safe space for an open discussion about it. I am compassionate and understanding to those who have experienced abortion. And I have tips for those currently deciding if continuing their pregnancy is the most loving choice. Today's client, R...

Today, I explain two big reasons why you might find yourself going back to the same type of toxic relationship. And I give you tips for how you can stop the cycle. Today's client, Raegan: In this episode, you hear a portion of Raegan's session where she and I discuss her recent relationship with an abusive partner.   —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you love the music,...

Today, I explain why you shouldn't give power to disturbing thoughts by worrying about them because: they aren't created by you, they aren't for you, they won't last forever, and, they do not define who you are. I give you tips on what to do with your unwanted thoughts so when they come, they go away faster. Today's client, Tracy: In this episode, you hear a portion of Tracy's session where we dis...

Today I will explain what depression does for you: it slows you down so you can work through issues and move closer to being your best self. I will also explain the difference between physiological depression and situational depression. I give you tips for what you can do to help heal your depression while still allowing it to guide you. Today's client, Tracy: In this episode, you hear a portion o...

What is your posture like right now? Today, I discuss how your physical state affects your emotional and intellectual state. Changing your posture is a quick and easy way to change your current mood. I encourage you to play with weak postures and strong postures, and notice how your thoughts and emotions change.   Today's client, Jewely: In this episode, we hear a portion of Jewely's session where...

What bad things are you capable of doing? Today, I explain why hating the dark part of yourself gives it power, and embracing it allows you to use that power in positive ways. After all, the dark parts of us protect us, and that is a positive thing! I give you tips on how to get to know your dark self, understand where it came from, and how to use it for good in your life. Today's client, Jewely:...

What if all the bad things in your life turned into good? In this episode, I challenge the idea that painful events are bad and pleasurable events are good. In fact, I believe the pressure to make everything feel  good , causes you to feel bad . I will give you a tip for adjusting perception about bad events, so instead of feeling upset, you feel grateful. Today's client, John. —-- Want to work wi...

Do you ever beat yourself up to ensure you don't repeat mistakes? I will explain why we do this and why it never works. I also give you tips on how to turn criticism into curiosity so you can be more effective and lower your chances of repeating mistakes.  Today's client, John: In this episode, we hear a portion of John's counseling session in which he harshly criticizes himself for his past mista...

In what ways do you wish your parents were different? In this episode, I talk about how to take care of yourself when your parents  just won't change . I explain the stress that comes with arguing with who a person is never going to change, and I give you tips on how to make changes within yourself so you can live in peace with (or without) your parents.  Today's client, Ezzy. —-- Want to work wit...

Have you ever received a fake apology? In this episode, I explain the difference between real and fake apologies. And I'll tell you exactly how to handle the situation when someone gives you a fake apology (And be aware: my tips for today are more difficult than they seem.) Today's client, Ezzy. —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you love the music, check out The Gospel...