Swapping Secrets

For Pride Month, we’re diving into the realities of modern queer relationships with elite gay matchmaker and relationship expert Daniel Cooley . From dating app burnout and modern matchmaking to monogamy, non-monogamy, communication, and the biggest misconceptions people have about LGBTQIA+ relationships, this conversation goes far beyond the stereotypes. Daniel shares what thousands of conv...

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence sit down with renowned sexologist and relationship counsellor Alice Child to answer one of the biggest questions facing modern couples: Why does intimacy break down, even in loving relationships? From mismatched libidos and emotional labour to communication challenges, parenting, stress, resentment and screen-time overload, Alice explains the...

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence sit down with internationally recognised dominatrix, sex educator, and somatic practitioner Eva Oh for one of the deepest and most psychologically fascinating conversations the podcast has explored yet. From power dynamics and long-term psychological play to shame, erotic liberation, BDSM, submission, embodiment, and human desire — Eva opens u...

  Get tickets to the Live Recording Jess and Lawrence are diving into Reddit’s wildest open relationship stories — and things get messy fast. From ethical non-monogamy dating struggles and first-time anxiety to sex club boundaries, changing rules mid-play, safer sex debates and questionable couple behaviour, this episode unpacks the Reddit posts that made them laugh, cringe and ask: is this real o...

In this episode of Swapping Secrets , we explore people, policy and pleasure podcast conversations with Deputy Lord Mayor Jess Miller , unpacking the hidden history of sex-on-premises venues in Sydney and how thoughtful legislation has shaped safer adult communities. From the legacy of the Disorderly Houses Act to the Bodyline precedent, police discretion, planning reform, and the role of local co...

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence are joined by Dr. Leigh Barlow for a candid conversation about sex stigma, sexual health, STI testing, condoms, herpes, BV, and the choices that help people stay safe without shame . Together, they unpack why stigma around sex still exists, where sex education still falls short, and how open, informed conversations can reshape the way we think...

In this episode of Swapping Secrets , Jess and Lawrence unpack one of the most relatable (and chaotic) parts of modern relationships — red flags in dating and why we ignore them when attraction takes over. We’ve all been there… The red flags are obvious, but the chemistry is too strong to walk away. From cocky behaviour, poor communication, ignoring boundaries, and unsafe sex practices , to the di...

Want more of this smut? Join our Patreon for extra spicy content! In this exclusive, sneak-peek clip from our new segment, Raunchy Recaps , Jess and Lawrence share some of the wildest swingers club stories from inside Our Secret Spot. From dungeon encounters and orgy room chaos to hilarious behind-the-scenes moments, these real lifestyle stories reveal what actually happens inside a swingers club....

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence sit down with Genevieve LeJeune, founder of Skirt Club — the world’s largest women-only community for bisexual and bi-curious women. With over 27,000 members worldwide, Skirt Club has created a safe, empowering environment where women can explore sexuality, identity, and desire without pressure or judgement. Visit our Patreon for extra spicy c...

In Part 2 of this deep-dive episode, Jess and Lawrence answer real questions from the OSS community about boundaries, consent, rule-breaking, and what really happens when things shift mid-play. We unpack: • What to do when another couple changes the rules during sex • How to handle boundaries being crossed in non-monogamy • Tips for anal and DP (double penetration) done safely • The biggest regret...

What happens when curiosity turns into lived experience — and desire reshapes your identity, relationships, and sense of self? In Part 1 of this raw and reflective episode, Jess and Lawrence unpack how sexual desire can both liberate and destabilise. From early curiosity and boundary-blurring moments to the emotional hangovers no one prepares you for, this conversation dives into the grey areas be...

Midlife used to be framed as the beginning of the sexual slow-down. Less desire. Less energy. Less spark. But what if that story is completely wrong? In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence are joined by globally renowned intimacy expert Susan Bratton to unpack what she calls The New Midlife Sexual Renaissance — a powerful phase where confidence deepens, communication sharpens, and...

In this episode of Swapping Secrets , Jess and Lawrence are joined by Bradford and Angela from the By The By Podcast to unpack the emotional mechanics of jealousy, envy, fear of missing out, and the boundaries that keep open relationships healthy, sexy, and sustainable. Together, they explore why jealousy often has more to do with insecurity than possession, how unmet needs amplify emotional react...

Naughty Christmas swinger stories are the unofficial love language of the holidays — and OSS has plenty to unwrap. In this extra-spicy Christmas special, Jess and Lawrence dive headfirst into naughty Christmas swinger stories sent in by the community, opening listener gifts, reading filthy confessions, and reliving the most outrageous festive moments of the year. From toy reveals and cheeky fan le...

Self-pleasure has quietly shifted from a whispered taboo to a full-blown cultural reclamation — and few people have championed that transformation more powerfully than Rosie Rees . In this episode, Jess and Lawrence dive deep into the world of empowered intimacy, slow pleasure, mindful masturbation, and the quiet revolution happening in bedrooms everywhere. Rosie opens up about the origins of Yoni...

Consent is easy when it’s a bright, enthusiastic “yes.” But what about the murky moments — the mixed signals, the non-verbal cues, the awkward pauses, or the moments you only realise after the fact that something felt… off? In this episode, Lawrence, and our guest Prue, dive into the real-world grey areas of consent — the ones that don’t show up in manuals but absolutely show up in bedrooms, clubs...

Jess and Lawrence pull back the curtain on one of the most real, raw challenges in the lifestyle: how to balance parenting with swinging, non-monogamy, and staying sexy. From babysitters to bedtime, stigma to scheduling — this episode is a candid look at the juggling act of raising toddlers while still embracing fun, intimacy, and freedom. With real stories from parents in the community (and a few...

Get your Safer Sex Checklist Jess and Lawrence are diving into the practical side of love, lust, and lifestyle — how to stay safe, healthy, and confident in open and non-monogamous relationships. From STI checks to mental health, condoms to communication, this episode busts myths and flips stigma on its head with real talk and real tools. Because it’s not about being “dirty swingers” — it’s about...

No Rules, Just Love: Redefining Relationships with Lucy Banks (Part 2) Jess and Lawrence are back with Part 2 of the New Relationship Revolution , joined by special guest Lucy Banks — PR powerhouse, CEO of the Australian Adult Industry Choice Awards, and marketing lead for Sxhibition. This episode goes deeper into how people are rewriting the rulebook of love and intimacy in 2025, balancing person...

Jess and Lawrence return with Part 1 of a two-part special exploring the new relationship revolution . In this episode, they dive into how younger generations are rethinking love, intimacy, and commitment — moving beyond traditional models and embracing non-traditional paths like swinging, polyamory, and relationship anarchy. From peer-reviewed studies to app data from Bumble, Feeld, and OkCupid,...

Welcome to the brand-new Swapping Secrets podcast — the revamped show from inside Our Secret Spot. Jess and Lawrence are back with cameras, lights, and plenty of cheeky stories to kick off the new era.  In this episode, we dive into first time swingers club stories — the funny, the awkward, and the oh-so-sexy moments of starting out in the lifestyle. From taking that nerve-wracking step into the s...

It’s not Episode 101 just yet, but we couldn’t resist bringing you a mid-season treat — the juiciest, funniest, and most outrageous moments from the pod so far. In this special “Best Of” edition, Jess and Lawrence revisit the stories that had us laughing, blushing, and fanning ourselves, plus a few that made us stop and reflect. Expect to hear: Listener confessions that still make us giggle Sexy s...

It’s not Episode 101 (yet), but we’re keeping your earbuds warm with a juicy mid-season treat. In this special in-between-isode, Jess and Lawrence are joined by Our Secret Spot’s own literary temptress — Natasha Rose — to talk all things erotica, imagination, and the powerful role of storytelling in sexuality. What turns us on in a story? How do erotic novels differ from visual porn? What fantasie...

We’ve officially hit the big 1-0-0! The OSS 100th episode is a celebration of you – our amazing community of listeners, guests, and sexy supporters. To mark the occasion, we asked you to send in your most memorable podcast moments, listener stories, voicemails, DMs, and love notes from the past 99 episodes — and you delivered . In this very special episode: We share spicy voice notes from the bedr...

We’re coming up on 100 episodes—and we want you to be part of the celebration! In this episode, Jess and Lawrence share some exciting news about what’s next for the podcast. We’re calling on our listeners to send in their favourite podcast moments—whether it’s a wild story, a laugh-out-loud moment, or something that made you feel seen. Email, message, or send a voice note! PLUS, we’re giving the p...