Stethoscopes and Strollers

Hey Doc! I'm going to need you to start talking your shit. Seriously. Because all that excellent work you're doing? The patients who love you, the charts you close, the problems you solve, the department you help keep running? People are not paying nearly as much attention as you think they are. And if you're waiting for someone to notice your contributions and reward you accordingl...

Hey Doc We spend plenty of time talking about what motherhood costs us. The mental load. Childcare. Career complications. The never-ending question of what these people are going to eat. All valid. But motherhood has also given me access to something incredibly valuable: community. And recently, I realized I haven’t appreciated that enough. I’m in multiple local mom groups. I can ask for childcare...

Hey Doc, I spent most of my career as an OB/GYN saying, “Pregnancy is not a disability.” I believed it. Then I had my second baby. That pregnancy gave me a very different understanding of what it means when someone says, “I can’t do this anymore.” I had pain that made walking excruciating. I stopped working at 30 weeks, six weeks earlier than I had with my first pregnancy. And I finally understood...

Hey Doc, “You worked so hard for this.” I still hear some version of that when people find out I stepped away from clinical medicine. And yes. I did. I worked hard to become an OB/GYN. I fought to become the surgeon I wanted to be. I sought out mentorship, built my skills, became someone other physicians could learn from, and eventually got exactly what I had been working toward. And then my life...

Hey Doc, You can stop breastfeeding. You can stop pumping. You can know all of the benefits, have enough milk, have a baby who breastfeeds well, and still decide: I don’t want to do this anymore. I know that can be an especially complicated decision when you’re a physician. We know the evidence. We know the recommendations. We know exactly what we’re “supposed” to do. And when you’re already spend...

Hey Doc I love outsourcing. Cleaning. Childcare. Grocery delivery. The random tasks that somehow require 47 emails and a phone call during business hours. Please. Take them. But there is one thing I do not want you to completely outsource: Knowing what is happening with your money. In this episode, I’m sharing a conversation I had with Dr. Felecia Froe on the Money with Mission podcast about my ow...

Hey Doc, This episode is a plea. Please take care of yourself. There has been a lot of loss in the physician community lately, and it has made me take a harder look at the care I’m giving myself too. Because I can preach about putting yourself first all day long, but meanwhile my Peloton has basically become furniture and my eating habits have been…questionable. 😂 And it reminded me that taking c...

Hey Doc, These children will really have you questioning your entire motherhood résumé. This summer, I left my kids in Trinidad with their grandparents while my husband and I stayed home to work on our businesses. And before you come for me, please understand the setup: camp, personal transportation, loving grandparents, extra help, someone cooking for them, and my mother making my son fry bake on...

Hey, Doc I'm sharing part of an interview I did on my friend Dr. Weili Gray's podcast, *The Dare to Dream Physician Travel Podcast*. At the time, she had just pivoted her show to focus on travel, and listening back now feels like opening a time capsule. We talk about my journey from Trinidad to Howard University, residency, burnout, entrepreneurship, and coaching. But we also talk about...

Hey Doc You worked incredibly hard to become a physician. Four years of undergrad. Four years of medical school. Years of residency and fellowship. Endless sacrifices. So why are you acting like you're not allowed to benefit from it? In this episode, I'm giving you full permission to use one of the few privileges you truly earned: your physician network. I've used it to get second o...

Hey Doc, I’m back with another episode where I was dropping gems on another podcast. I joined Dr. Diane Shannon on Vital Signs: Thriving as a Woman in Medicine to talk about something I think sits at the heart of so much burnout for physician moms: the definition of a "good mom." Most of us inherited that definition without ever questioning it. Be there for everything. Do it yourself. Pu...

One conversation can change your career. But first, you have to be willing to ask. In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Dr. Kristine Goins on The Physician's Guide to Doctoring to talk about one of my favorite topics: asking. Whether you're negotiating your contract, requesting a different schedule, asking for support at home, or advocating for yourself in medicine, the biggest...

Hey Doc— One of the questions I've been asked the most over the past few months is, "Why did you leave medicine?" The short answer is: I didn't leave medicine to do something else. I left clinical practice because I found another way to serve physician moms. In this episode, I share the story behind that decision, why coaching became my second calling, and why stepping away fro...

Hey Doc— Welcome back to Part 2 of this conversation. In Part 1, we talked about why so many physician moms end up exhausted, overwhelmed, and questioning whether this is simply what motherhood and medicine are supposed to feel like. In this episode, we shift to what comes next. We talk about the beliefs many of us carry into motherhood without ever examining them, why trying to do everything your...

Hey Doc— This summer I'm re-releasing some of my favorite conversations from podcasts where I was the guest because the topics are just as relevant today as they were when we recorded them. In this first part of my conversation on the Girl Doc Survival Guide podcast, we talk about why so many physician moms find themselves exhausted, questioning everything, and wondering why success doesn&apo...

Hey Doc, This episode is a little different. First, a content warning. I talk about miscarriage and describe one of the most difficult calls I've had as an OB/GYN, so if that's not something you want to hear today, I completely understand. I also share one of my favorite tools for getting through stressful moments. It's a technique I've used for years with anxious patients duri...

Hey Doc, Father's Day has me thinking about something we don't talk about nearly enough. Men can experience postpartum depression too. In this episode, I'm diving into paternal postpartum depression, why it often goes unrecognized, and how it can show up in ways that look very different from what we typically expect. Because when a husband suddenly becomes withdrawn, irritable, dist...

Hey Doc, As Juneteenth approaches, I've been thinking a lot about freedom. Not the big, abstract kind we usually talk about. The everyday kind. The freedom to be a child. The freedom to love your beautiful brown skin without anyone planting doubt in your mind. The freedom to be curious, imaginative, and just a little bit weird. In this episode, I'm sharing some of the moments that make m...

Hey Doc— If you're looking for an au pair right now and wondering whether all the good candidates have disappeared into thin air, you're not imagining it. I've had several physician moms ask me how I find au pairs when the agency websites seem completely picked over. And since I'm currently searching for a new au pair myself, the timing felt perfect to pull back the curtain on...

Hey Doc, Were you taught that patients lie? I was. Somewhere during training, the idea got planted that our job is to uncover the truth because patients won’t always tell it. Then I became an attending and started experiencing it myself. You spend twenty minutes counseling a patient. You draw diagrams. You answer questions. You document everything. Then somehow… “Nobody explained that to me.” “The...

Hey Doc — I finally had to sit down and record this episode because I keep talking about NotebookLM to everybody. My Facebook friends. My sisters. Random physician moms who probably just asked me one innocent question and suddenly got a 20-minute TED Talk about AI 😂 But seriously? This tool is one of the most useful things I’ve added to my life recently. And if your brain already feels overloaded...

I have to tell you what just happened in my house. My son ran inside to find me, eyes wide, proud as anything, and announced: "Mommy, I was just being resourceful." His toy car had rolled under the fridge. He tried the broom. He tried the mop. The fly swatter is what finally worked and he found another car under there he thought he had lost. In this episode, I'm using that moment to...

Au pair travel comes up in the groups every single week, and it's usually a horror story. The awkward silences, the au pair completely checked out, the vacation that didn't feel like a vacation. I did this episode because I think a lot of that drama is avoidable, and I want to share how we do it. But before you book that extra ticket, you need to answer a few questions honestly. Is this...

Hey Doc, I just got back from ACOG and I’m still on a high! I went mainly to hear Michelle Obama speak and she did not disappoint. But what surprised me most was how deeply aligned her message was with everything I talk about here on Stethoscopes and Strollers . This wasn’t some polished keynote speech full of inspirational fluff. It felt like sitting in on a private conversation between two accom...

Hey Doc, I’m on my way to DC! My first home in this country. Howard. All of it. I’m going to ACOG’s ACSM, our national meeting, which is funny, because I don’t practice anymore. But this work I do with physician moms is rooted in the same transitions we see every day in medicine. Last year I went for physician wellbeing. This year, Michelle Obama is there, so… clearly I’m going. Also, it’s my son’...