Slut PhD

In this episode, Julie talks with Allison Whaley, the founder of a new website for curated "smut," Bothered Stories . Allison talks about how enjoying erotica and romance can empower women and defy patriarchal conventions while also explaining how she came to want to cultivate a space for high quality erotic writing. Julie talks about some elements that she often sees neglected in romantic writing...

This podcast has been such an interesting and fun journey! Thank you to everyone who has joined me on this adventure! I'm taking an indefinite hiatus to focus on my writing, but there's a good chance I'll be back once my current projects are complete. Maybe I'll podcast again as SlutPhD, or maybe I'll spin off into a different podcast. Regardless, I'll post another episode to SlutPhD so you can fi...

Trigger warnings: vague discussion of sexual assault and sexual harassment Having gotten therapy from Jasmine in Part 1, in Part 2 Julie interviews Jasmine about her experiences with the adult industry. Jasmine talks about how much more positive her experiences have been, and the two of them celebrate the representation of sluts on and off screen. While being honest about some of the challenges se...

Trigger warnings: discussion of sexual assault, sexual harassment, suicide and mental health In this episode, Julie talks with the amazing rising adult industry star Jasmine Sherni, discussing her (Julie's) conflicted feelings about the in-depth research she conducted on the industry in 2019. Julie says she's coming to Jasmine for "therapy," because she knows the industry has changed a lot for the...

One of the most common questions people ask me is "how do you go to so many kink conventions without getting completely exhausted?" And my answer is always: it's definitely not a talent, it's a very carefully honed skill. In this episode, I share the tips and tricks I've developed over the years to not "drop" after events--meaning not experience post-event exhaustion/depression/withdrawal, as well...

Picking up the conversation from where we left off in Part 1, Part 2 examines certain challenges in cohabiting poly, kinky life, and then concludes by focusing more intentionally on problem-solving tactics that Julie, ElsieXO, and Jordan have successfully implemented in their relationships. The trio considers various communication strategies that can facilitate easy sexual communication without ne...

TO BE CONTINUED (this episode cuts off in the middle of a conversation) In Part 1 of this two-part episode, Julie chats with her peeps ElsieXO and Jordan to try to uncover the secrets of keeping sex and kink alive in long-term cohabiting poly relationships. All kinky, poly, queer women married to cis men for years, they discuss some of many challenges they have faced in keeping their long-term rel...

Trigger warnings: mental health, eating disorders In this episode, Julie tackles a subject few have been brave enough to ask: what's the real difference between BDSM and non-suicidal self-injury (NSSI, self-harm, "cutting," etc.)? Especially to outsider observers, BDSM and NSSI can look incredibly similar. Being a lifelong masochist who has never really engaged in serious NSSI, Julie found two vol...

In this episode, Julie and her sub Artifiction discuss some of the challenges of moving from Dominant/submissive desires to actually translating those desires to relationships that can be manifested in the real world. They discuss D/s as an abstraction as well as some of its practical realities. Along the way, they talk about major obstacles in this process of creating these relationships, as well...

In this episode, Julie and her co-top SugarAndPoison break down some the pleasures and cautionary tales of co-topping. While recounting some of their favorite scenes together, they discuss things to be on the lookout for--in both good ways and bad--when plotting and planning co-topping scenes. They discuss the co-topping elements of everything from two-person rigged rope scenes to cuckolding scene...

This episode provides a very brief survey of some interesting and occasionally significant figures from bisexual and polyamorous history, primarily targeting people who were born in the nineteenth century. Here are links to many of the sources: ⁠ Virginia Woolf⁠ ⁠Eleanor Roosevelt⁠ ⁠Cole Porter⁠ Julie D’Aubigny JD cont Alfred Kinsey Morning Glory Zell Ravenheart MGZR cont Ma Rainey Josephine Baker...

This episode is a continuation of the previous one where Julie and Remy discuss their book, Violated: Sexual Consent and Assault in the 21st Century (with obvious trigger warnings for discussion of sexual assault). They begin by discussing aspects of the BDSM subculture that can might be able to inform consent practices in the broader culture. Then they focus on the discussions of rape law in the...

Picking up from an earlier episode where Julie read the first chapter of Violated, Julie (a sociologist) and Remy (a lawyer) discuss their book, Violated: Sexual Consent and Assault in the 21st Century (to be continued in the next episode). They talk about how they came to write the book, things that surprised them as they worked on it, and the key themes of the book. The three most important of t...

Building on a previous episode about sexuality and gender (with Doug Robinson), this episode explores more ideas and themes around this weird and complicated topic. This breakdown includes things like some of the emotional and psychological dimensions of sexual attraction and identity, and how much of modern dating has come to be defined by willingness--or reluctance--to conform to a norm of three...

In this episode, Julie reads the first chapter of her book, Violated: Sexual Consent and Assault in the 21st Century. Next month, she will have two episodes with her co-author Remy Green discussing their book. This episode provides the introduction for that conversation. Enjoy, and stay tuned! Violated link

In this episode, Julie and her friend Doug Robinson chat about some of the things they love about group sex (threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes). Whether it's enjoying the freedom that comes with embracing queer sexuality or new ways to share bodies and friends, they talk a lot about the bonding that comes from group sex. They also talk about the Bad Stuff--problematic community and relationship...

In this episode, Julie speculates about some of the reasons there's apparently such a high overlap between BDSM/polyamory and neurodivergence. There's very little published research on this topic, but there's a great deal of interest within these communities, so she considers some of the reasons these things might be related. She also takes a lengthy detour to discuss aphantasia and rope. Mentione...

Sadly, there's no full audio recording (yet!) of my sociological book on the American BDSM scene, Please Scream Quietly: A Story of Kink. But here's chapter 1, Introduction: Your Fantasy Is My Reality, read by the author. You can buy my book on Amazon , or you can buy it straight from the publisher . (If you're purchasing internationally, I believe the publisher is your best bet).

Traditional BDSM culture has tended to ignore the artistry of being a good switch in favor of pure-dom/pure-sub identities and dynamics. Contemporary BDSM culture places a much higher value on switches and switching, but the specific skillset remains less understood and appreciated. In this episode, Julie and ElsieXO describe some switch identity journeys and unpack some of the skills good switche...

Julie and her sub Artifiction have both been writing erotica for years. In this episode, they share their wildly different journeys to the same destination of writing smutty stories. They discuss the qualities of good erotica, share perspectives on erotica reading and writing, and end with tips, tricks, and games for writing it for yourself, an audience, and/or your partner. Julie has published st...

~Content warning: Very explicit BDSM erotica~ Welcome to the Valentine's Day erotica special! This episode is a two-parter. This second episode contains two original short stories by Julie that are Fem Dom/masc sub. The first is "The first taste" and the second is "Possession." If you're looking for published versions of my stories, check out these anthologies: Best Women's Erotica, Volume 8 Big B...

~Content warning: Very explicit BDSM erotica~ Welcome to the Valentine's Day erotica special! This episode is a two-parter. This first episode contains two original short stories by Julie that are Masc Dom/fem sub. The first is "Your dirty little fuck toy" and the second is "The kind of slut you are." If you're looking for published versions of my stories, check out these anthologies: Best Women's...

In this conversation between Julie and Doug Robinson, they unpack some of the quirks and challenges of defining and articulating more complicated "sexual orientations." Both of them feel like usual labels don't do a great job of encompassing their own sexual desires and experiences, and they question the usefulness of these labels. In particular, Julie questions the wisdom of depending on "born th...

In this episode, Julie interviews playwright Doug Robinson about his experiences growing up and living as a gender non-conforming man. A pressing point in their conversation is the need for a social equivalent for feminine butch for men. We have come to accept a gender identity/presentation (at least for queer women) of "woman, but kind of masculine," but we have no corresponding identity/presenta...

In this episode, Julie talks about many the things that she loves about rope bondage (sometimes called shibari) and discusses vocabulary for talking about what we all love about rope. From art to dance to sex to intimacy to spirituality, there are so many ways to approach rope and do it with passion. This episode is intended for experienced rope lovers to articulate what they love about rope, and...