Settled

When a diagnosis, disappointment, or season of sorrow leaves us without the strength to hold on, we can rest in the truth that God loved us first and is already holding us. In this conversation, we reflect on how that reality has steadied us through Jason's stage four stomach cancer diagnosis. We talk about the difference between trying to hold tightly enough to God and receiving the comfort of be...

When a hard season makes the future feel uncertain, we can wonder whether the good things God has spoken over our lives are still true. In this conversation, we reflect on 2 Corinthians 1:20 and the reassurance that every promise of God finds its yes and amen in Christ. Jason shares how that truth galvanized him to return to the work God gave us, with practical limits that honor his treatment, app...

When life brings us face to face with what we cannot control, we can spend so much energy rehearsing worst case scenarios or trying to force every problem out of the garden. In this honest conversation, we share what has steadied us through Jason's stomach cancer diagnosis: the reminder that we have what we need when we need it, and the freedom to be present rather than live inside foreboding drea...

We can carry a surprising number of assumptions into marriage: who should work, who should clean, who should make the decisions, and what it means to be a husband or wife. But a role is not an identity. Roles are activities that can flex and change with the season, while our identity is something deeper that deserves clarity and care. We are talking about the family models we inherit, the expectat...

We didn't grow up assuming our home would feel safe - and if that's true for you too, you're not alone. This week we're talking about what it actually takes to build a safe place, in a marriage and in a home, and why safety rarely happens by accident. We talk through the tension between order and creativity, a study on a fenced playground that changed how we think about boundaries, and the differe...

Today, we dive deep into the intricate dance of struggle and support within marriage, uncovering how these dynamics have shaped our 26-year journey together. We share candidly about our own struggles, particularly in the early years of our marriage, where insecurities and the pressure of expectations led to friction rather than unity. Through personal stories and revelations, we explore how God in...

We're diving deep into the essential topic of fighting for connection in marriage. This week, we’re unpacking how prioritizing connection can transform our relationships, especially when it comes to our kids. We both recognize that fighting for connection might sound a bit aggressive, but honestly, it’s about leaning into conversations that matter, even when it’s tough. We’ll share some personal s...

Today, we dive into the core of what can make or break a marriage: communication. We unpack the significance of understanding both the overt and covert messages exchanged in every relationship, shedding light on how vital clarity is in our conversations. Throughout our discussion, we emphasize that communication isn't just about the words we say; it's about the feelings that linger beneath them. W...

Today, we're diving deep into the transformative idea of shifting our perspective in marriage from a right-and-wrong paradigm to one focused on relationship and union. This episode is all about how this change can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections with our partners. We share personal stories and insights on how the constant battle of who's right can create distance and competition in...

Forgiveness and grief are essential components of a thriving marriage, and this episode dives into why they often go hand in hand. We unpack how both concepts serve as a process of metabolizing our pain, much like our bodies process food. Jason and I share our insights from 26 years of marriage, emphasizing that whether we grieve first or forgive first, the important thing is to recognize they are...

Today, we’re diving deep into the concept of “unity with distinction” in marriage and how it reflects the nature of God. It’s not just about being one; it's about being beautifully distinct while still coming together as a cohesive unit. We explore how the Trinity serves as a powerful model for understanding this dynamic: each person of the Godhead is unique yet unified, which provides a profound...

We're diving into the complexities of marriage and how it reflects our relationship with Christ. As we share our own journey of 26 years together, we explore the idea that marriage isn't about losing ourselves in our partner but discovering our true selves through the relationship. We discuss how our experiences, both joyful and challenging, can lead us to a deeper understanding of ourselves and o...

Today, we're diving deep into the often misunderstood topic of judgment, as we wrap up our series on scriptures that tend to get a bad rap. We’re riffing off John 12:31-32, where Jesus reveals the transformative power of his sacrifice—an act that draws all of humanity to him, not just a select few. It’s crucial to recognize that when we add words like "peoples" for clarity, we might unintentionall...

We’re diving into some scriptures that can really freak us out, specifically one that we like to call the “scary Jesus scripture.” It comes from Matthew 7, where Jesus starkly declares, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven.” As we explore this passage, we’ll unpack the fears and misconceptions that often arise around it, especially the notion that knowing J...

This week, we're diving into the scriptures that often leave us scratching our heads and feeling a bit frustrated. Join us as we tackle the misunderstandings surrounding these texts, starting with 2 Corinthians 12, where the phrase “when I am weak, then I am strong” flips the script on what weakness truly means. We believe it’s not about God’s strength being contingent on our weakness, but rather...

We're diving deep into the concept of freedom this week, focusing on what it means to live from our reconciled selves in Christ. It's a profound exploration of how our understanding of freedom shapes our lives and choices. We discuss the importance of agreeing with who we are in Christ, not just striving to become something else, and how this reconciled identity empowers us to navigate life's chal...

Freedom is fully accepting oneself as a child of God and living from that identity. In today’s conversation, we dive deep into the framework of what freedom truly means in our spiritual journeys. We’ve all grappled with definitions and frameworks that have kept us in bondage, so we're here to challenge those misconceptions. By exploring our identities in Christ, we come to realize that acceptance...

We're diving into the concept of freedom this week, exploring how we frame it within our ministry, and sharing an update on my ongoing battle with cancer. We’ve been through a whirlwind of emotions and medical jargon that felt pretty dire, but we’re grateful to have found a more hopeful team to support us. It’s been a journey of understanding that true freedom is less about being boundaryless and...

This week, we’re diving deep into a personal journey that took an unexpected turn when Jason faced a health crisis, leading to a life-changing diagnosis of stage 4 stomach cancer. It’s been a challenging month, and we’re here to share not just the details of that experience but also how it connects to the theme of Word Curses that we’ve been exploring. We’ll unpack how words spoken over us—whether...

We're getting into the nitty-gritty of Inner Vows and how they shape our lives. What are Inner Vows, you ask? Well, they’re those self-directed promises we make to ourselves, often in response to tough experiences, and they can create a cycle of striving that keeps us from living freely. We dive deep into how these vows can actually tether us to past pain instead of allowing us to heal and grow. B...

We're diving deep into the intriguing world of generational iniquities, inner vows, and word curses this week. We start our new series by unpacking the concept of generational iniquity, which, let's be honest, sounds like a mouthful of churchy jargon but is so relatable once we break it down. We all have these invisible threads connecting us to our family histories, shaping our behaviors and tende...

We're diving deep into our final discussion on spiritual warfare, and let me tell you, the key player in this whole saga is none other than Jesus. We unpack the reality that our battles are not against flesh and blood, but against the deeper spiritual forces at work. It’s so tempting to channel our frustrations onto the people around us, but we’ve got to remember that it’s the principalities and p...

This episode dives deep into the intriguing topic of spiritual warfare, specifically focusing on the power that God imparts to us through the Holy Spirit. We explore how this power can sometimes feel paradoxical, especially when it comes to the idea that victory in spiritual battles often comes through surrender rather than striving. We also reflect on our personal experiences in Pentecostal envir...

We're diving deep into the often intimidating world of spiritual warfare this week, focusing on the crucial concept of perspective and how it shapes our reality. It's easy to feel overwhelmed when faced with life's challenges, but we're here to remind you that how we view these struggles can make all the difference. Our conversation highlights the powerful truth that we fight our battles through s...

We’re kicking off a new series on spiritual warfare, and today, we’re diving deep into the intriguing paradox that to win in this spiritual battle, we actually need to surrender. It’s a concept that flips our usual understanding of conflict on its head. We’ve all been taught that fighting back is the way to victory, but what if the true path lies in yielding to Jesus and embracing the humility tha...