Self Study Lab

Most of us move through the world assuming our senses are giving us an accurate readout of reality. And if someone else is having a different experience of the same moment, one of us must be off. In this episode, I make the case that that assumption is wrong — and that a lot of unnecessary conflict, self-judgment, and misunderstanding lives inside it. In this episode, I talk about: Why no two nerv...

In this episode, I make the case that self-awareness is the foundation for any meaningful change. This episode explores why so much of your behavior is driven outside of conscious awareness, how conditioning and nervous system patterns shape your reactions, and why learning to observe yourself is the starting point for reclaiming choice. In this episode, I talk about: Why most of your reactions ha...

In this episode, I translate nervous system theory into everyday experience. This episode explores freeze and fawn as nervous system states, how they shape behavior outside of conscious choice, and why recognizing state is essential for reducing shame and reclaiming agency. In this episode, I talk about: Freeze and fawn as adaptive mammalian survival responses How nervous system state, not persona...

In this episode,  I translate nervous system theory into everyday experience. This episode explores  fight and flight  as nervous system states, how they shape perception before conscious thought, and why understanding state is essential for compassion and change. In this episode, I talk about: Fight and flight as adaptive mammalian survival responses How nervous system state, not p...

In this episode, I translate last week’s big-picture context into everyday experience. Why can the same situation feel manageable one day — and completely overwhelming the next? Why do we sometimes react in ways we don’t recognize or like? This episode explores how your  nervous system state  shapes perception before conscious thought, and why understanding state is foundational to real...

In this episode, I zoom out and offer some context for why being human feels so hard right now. Before we get into tools, habits, or deeper self-study, I think it helps to understand the environment the human nervous system actually evolved for — and how different it is from the one we’re living in today. This episode is about  evolutionary mismatch : the gap between ancient bodies and modern...

In this first episode, I share the story behind the Lab — where it began, why I created it, and the gap I kept seeing after thousands of hours sitting with clients. If you’ve ever felt like: you “should” know yourself better by now, you understand your patterns but can’t seem to change them, therapy has been helpful but you’re still missing  something , or you’re overwhelmed by all the inform...