Secluded Thoughts

In this episode, we're getting into three areas of your life that you need to start looking at differently if you want to stop performing and start building the life you actually want. In this episode we discuss: How to start redefining the rules you live by so you can still be ambitious without needing to prove yourself through everything you do. The three areas of your life to start redefini...

What if the reason you can never seem to feel like you've done enough has less to do with your ambition and more to do with something you learned a long time ago? In this episode, we're getting into the “not enough” fracture underneath the externally validated identity, how it shows up in your work, relationships, and the way you make decisions, and what I've done to start changing the...

What if some of the goals you’re working so hard to achieve aren’t actually things you want? In this episode, we’re getting to the bottom of what you actually want, why it can be so hard to figure that out when you’ve spent years optimizing for achievement and being impressive, and how my life changed when I stopped doing that. In this episode we discuss: Why nothing could just be a hobby for me a...

Sorry, I ghosted y’all. 😂 But there was actually a reason, and it had a lot more to do with the version of myself I was becoming than me simply needing a break. In this episode, I’m catching you up on what happened while I was gone, what I realized about the identity I had built around achievement and being impressive, and why I had to let that version of me go before I could really build the lif...

I'm gonna be honest about what it actually feels like to be placed on a pedestal you never asked to be on, why vulnerability felt like the enemy for most of my life, and what God had to take me through in 2025 to break all of that out of me (and he was not gentle about it). This is part two so if you haven't watched part one please start there, but in this episode I'm getting into ever...

If you're the one who always has it together, the one everybody expects to be okay, the one who would genuinely rather deal with it alone than give people the opportunity to disappoint you — this episode is going to feel uncomfortably familiar. I'm gonna be honest about what it actually feels like to be placed on a pedestal you never asked to be on, why vulnerability felt like the enemy fo...

You've been working hard, staying consistent, making sacrifices... and yet just when things finally start working, something in you pulls back. You go quiet, you lose momentum, you forfeit the exact moment you've been working hard for. It makes no sense, and it's been driving you crazy. This episode is going to explain what is actually happening every time that cycle plays out, (becaus...

You know that season where you're not who you used to be, but you haven't fully stepped into who you're becoming yet? That in-between phase where you're doing everything right, working hard, and staying consistent, but something keeps blocking you from your next level? Yeah, that's exactly what this episode is about. And I'm going to tell you something you probably haven&#3...

In this episode, I'm getting in your business (you've been warned). I'm breaking down six shifts I had to make that completely changed my life. We'll discuss: The mentality that keeps you in a loop of negativity The 3 ways you're seeking validation that's holding you back The thing high achievers specifically struggle with that quietly destroys confidence (this one might hi...

My first Youtube video was me talking about how I was afraid to put myself out there. And now 2 years later I'm telling you everything I learned that helped me get more comfortable showing up online. Note: this episode is an oldie but goodie so the community no longer exists, however, I have created a new community with coaching to help you become the best version of yourself. If you struggle...

If you’re a high achiever, you may be dealing with what I call pedestal relationships — where people place you on a pedestal, expect you to always have it together, and then don’t show up for you the same way they show up for others. In this episode I share how I realized this was happening in my life, the signs I ignored at first, and the changes I’m making so my relationships aren’t built on me...

Hyper independence doesn’t come from nowhere. For a lot of high achievers, it’s learned. It’s survival. It’s what you do when you realize no one is coming to save you. In this episode, I’m opening up about how 2025 forced me to confront my hyper-independence and self reliance—and why God allowed it to break me down instead of letting me power through it like I’ve done in the past. We talk about: h...

In this episode we'll discuss both why you self sabotage and how to stop self sabotaging. If you don't do these things you run the risk of sabotaging your 2026 goals. If you struggle with self-sabotage and inconsistency when you try to work on your goals, sign up for my free masterclass to learn exactly what's causing it and how to fix it so you can become the best version of yourself:...

This is your year end pep talk to get your life together before 2026. These are 5 things I need you to keep in mind as you start planning for 2026. If you struggle with self-sabotage and inconsistency when you try to work on your goals, sign up for my free masterclass to learn exactly what's causing it and how to fix it so you can become the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.c...

In today's episode, we'll discuss why you struggle to consistent when working on your goals and how to be consistent so you can become the best version of yourself. Ready to stop being inconsistent and shift your identity to finally become the best version of yourself? Enroll in Upgrade Your Standard:  https://secludedthoughts.com/upgrade Book - Atomic Habits: https://amzn.to/49ByQtU Perso...

In today's episode, we'll discuss how you can start being more comfortable in just being yourself. We'll start with a pep talk, then I'll give you some questions to do an authenticity audit, and lastly, you'll get some homework so you can start being who you are 100% AND knowing that you are ENOUGH. If you struggle with procrastination and inconsistency when you try to work on...

If I knew these things ahead of time it would have saved me a lot of agony and confusion so I'm going to give you a heads up. If you struggle with procrastination and inconsistency when you try to work on your goals, sign up for my free masterclass to learn exactly what's causing it and how to fix it so you can become the best version of yourself ✨ Free masterclass: https://secludedthough...

Today, we'll discuss the 6 things I learned (that humbled me) over the last 2 years of being in a wilderness season with God. This is the rough BTS of what it's like when you're committed to becoming the best version of yourself. Learn how to shift your identity to become the best version of yourself and create the life you desire: https://secludedthoughts.com/upgrade Free Quiz: Which...

Stop looking at everyone, go for the things they want in life, while you stay behind and watch your life pass you by. Learn how to Step into your Next Level in 90 days:  https://secludedthoughts.com/upgrade LET'S STAY CONNECTED! TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@secludedthoughts YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/c/SecludedThoughtsPodcast Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/...

In today's episode, we'll discuss my #1 strategy I've been using to accomplish my goals. I'll tell you how to apply it in your life to level up before 2026. Tune in every Wednesday for a practical tip or mindset shift to become the best version of yourself! [Course] Step into your next level in 90 days: https://secludedthoughts.com/upgrade LET'S STAY CONNECTED! TikTok:  https:/...

If you apply this 4-step system in your life, you'll be a different person in 90 days. Course - Step into your Next Level in 90 days: https://secludedthoughts.com/upgrade LET'S STAY CONNECTED! TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@secludedthoughts YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/c/SecludedThoughtsPodcast Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/ Partnership inquiries: hello@sec...

In today's episode, we'll discuss what to do when you contradict yourself. Tune in every Wednesday for a practical tip or mindset shift to become the best version of yourself! Resources to become the best version of yourself:  https://secludedthoughts.com/resources You'll get:  ✨ FREE Best Self Planner 📝 Best Self Journal Prompts 💻 Course: How to Level Up in the next 90 days LET&#39...

What are your excuses doing for you? Do you realize that if you had them behind and use them as crutches, you will wake up a year or 10 years from now, STILL miserable? Do you even have anyone holding you accountable? You're probably used to being coddled and being in an environment that allows you to make those excuses and operate at maybe 30% of your potential, but this ends today. I will ne...

Tune in every Wednesday for a practical tip or mindset shift to become the best version of yourself! Resources to become the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.com/resources You'll get:  ✨ FREE Best Self Planner 📝 Best Self Journal Prompts 💻 FREE TRAINING - How to Become the Best Version of Yourself in the next 90 days LET'S STAY CONNECTED! TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.co...

There’s nothing wrong with taking a nap or binge watching your favorite show on Netflix… except when you do it when you KNOW you should be working on your goals. Let’s address this today. RESOURCES TO BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF: https://secludedthoughts.com/resources You'll get:  ✨ FREE Best Self Planner 📝 Best Self Journal Prompts 💻 FREE TRAINING - How to Become the Best Version o...