Resentment-Free Relationships

Episode Title: Breaking Free from People Pleasing: A Personal Rant Episode Summary: In this special episode, Becky goes on a passionate rant about people-pleasing advice . Listen for insights that will change how you approach your relationships. Highlights: John Delony's Take: Becky breaks down advice from a renowned expert and shares what she agrees and disagrees with. Personal Stories and In...

Are you struggling to connect? Kelly & Shalece Fiack are back to share how Two-Way Prayer saved their marriage & can strengthen yours! Get practical tips on: Overcoming resentment & communication roadblocks Deepening emotional connection Creating a daily practice (floors & ceilings!) Plus, a free Two-Way Prayer guide! Resources: ⁠https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5f50b318fe914...

This episode explores two-way prayer, a practice for deepening your connection with the divine. Kelly and Shalece Fiack discuss its history, how it can guide you, and how to incorporate it into your routine. Learn to listen for messages from your higher power and hear how others have benefited. Resources: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5f50b318fe914e1b2aa32bfb/t/6037ad90fed0f117c530ca90/16...

Feeling Burnt Out from People-Pleasing? You're Not Alone. Do you ever feel like you're constantly seeking approval? Exhausted from always trying to fix things? In this episode, Lauren's story will resonate deeply if you've ever struggled with needing everyone to be Okay. Discover how to: Ditch the need for approval and embrace your authentic self. Navigate uncomfortable emotions wi...

Building a House of Repair: Embracing Mistakes and Growth In this episode, we explore the concept of 'building a house of repair, not perfection,' and how this mindset can transform family dynamics and personal growth.  00:00 Introduction and Summer Greetings 00:13 Introducing the Concept: House of Repair, Not Perfection 01:25 Perfectionism vs. Progress 03:31 Embracing Mistakes and Learnin...

Acknowledging and accepting your partner's feelings without agreeing with them is crucial for building a strong connection. Understanding the difference between validation and agreement, using active listening techniques, managing frustrations without defensiveness, and resolving conflicts constructively is essential. This guide aims to improve relationship dynamics, reduce conflict, and foste...

Becky discusses the challenges of dealing with a partner's defensiveness during conflicts, particularly for those who often prioritize others' needs over their own. Click here for a safe space to talk. https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships .00:00 Introduction to Navigating Partner Defensiveness 00:45 Lessons from Bear Lake 02:02 Understanding Partner Defensiveness a...

This episode delves into the concept of personal authority Becky discusses the significance of reflecting on our responses, actions, and feelings to own our personal authority. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:04 Exploring Dog Training and Personal Growth 01:29 The Concept of Inner Authority 02:05 Applying Inner Authority in Personal Relationships 04:39 Empowering Yourself Through Inner Author...

In this episode, host Becky delves into the unique experience of re-listening to a book she had read years ago, 'What Alice Forgot' by Liane Moriarty.  Re-experiencing the book offered her new insights, emphasizing how different stages of life can alter one's interpretation of a story. The narrative of Alice, who forgets a decade of her life, serves as a foundation for Becky to explore...

Becky delves into the concept of 'hidden dreams' within relationships, drawing on insights from John and Julie Gottman's work on healthy conflict. Becky highlights how perpetual arguments often mask deeper, unexpressed desires and values. Through the lens of the Gottmans' personal experience and a detailed example of their methodology, she illustrates the transformative potential o...

In Becky's 200th podcast episode, she talks about handling conflicts well. She starts where the last episode ended and talks about the third step: calming yourself and the other person down during arguments by taking breaks or doing calming activities like breathing exercises. Then, she talks about the fourth step: compromising, which she says isn't a bad thing but should be done in a fair...

In this episode, we delve into the second step of the five-step series on resolving conflict, as taught by the Gottman Institute. The focus is on making and receiving repair attempts to manage conflicts effectively. The host, Becky, emphasizes the importance of starting conflicts softly, avoiding the 'four horsemen' that escalate fights, and adopting positive repair attempts. Techniques su...

This episode features insights from John and Julie Gottman's research on conflict in marriage, advocating for healthy disagreement as a key component of intimacy and trust in relationships. Host Becky debunks myths about conflict-free marriages, introduces the concept of 'soft startup' for resolving disagreements, and discusses how to avoid the 'four horsemen of the apocalypse'...

Refreshing Your Culture of Conflict In this podcast episode, Becky discusses the importance of recognizing and improving the culture of conflict within marriages. She draws an analogy between renovating a home and refreshing a relationship's approach to conflict, emphasizing the need to identify and change unproductive behaviors and thoughts. Despite the challenges, the effort made to enhance...

In this podcast, the host, Becky, discusses a common question asked by her coaching clients about managing emotional responsibility towards the feelings of others. She explains the challenge faced by empathetic individuals who are closely connected with their family, friends, or colleagues and feel obliged to take on their emotions. She discusses the importance of awareness of this emotional over-...

Rebuilding Trust and Dating after Divorce In this episode, host Becky answers a question about recovery and dating after divorce. She emphasizes the importance of thorough grieving and the role of forgiveness in healing. She asserts the necessity of building self-trust and confidence, and the ability to manage negative emotions to be ready to date again. She encourages viewing adversities as growt...

Overcoming Codependency and People Pleasing: Five Pillars of Resentment-Free Relationships In this Valentine's Day-themed podcast episode, Becky addresses resentments that often affect relationships due to codependency and people-pleasing behaviors. Becky offers a 12-week coaching package introducing five pillars for healthier relationships, free from resentment. The first pillar is 'Selfh...

Tapping Away Stress: Becky and Rachel Hall discuss the concept of 'tapping', a technique she has been practicing for over ten years to manage pain, depression, and anxiety. Trained through Brooke Snow's Creation Coach certification, Rachel shares her journey dealing with depression and celiac disease, and how tapping has helped her cope with these conditions. She explains tapping as an alternative...

Learn five strategies for dealing with a grumpy family member: not taking the bad mood personally, resisting the urge to 'fix' the other person's emotion, reflecting on their feelings by verbalizing empathy, asking open-ended questions to understand their situation, and setting healthy boundaries. The message throughout is helping listeners to understand better, respond to, and navigat...

Welcome to "Resentment Free Relationships" with your host, Becky. In this episode, she celebrates the podcast's nearly five-year journey, expressing gratitude to listeners. She dives into the Self-Coaching model by Brooke Castillo, a key tool in her life coaching practice. Becky guides you through its five elements: circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. She also in...

Becky talks about self-abandonment and its impact on relationships, particularly close family relationships. You will learn to identify five self-abandonment signs: fear of rejection, misunderstanding self-worth, avoiding negative emotions, reliance on external validation, and lack of boundaries. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Anecdote 00:39 The Importance of Close Relationships 01:45 Understandi...

Resentment Free Relationships: How to Improve Your Close Family Connections in 2024 In the January 2024 episode of the Resentment Free Relationships podcast, the host outlines the purpose, which is to assist listeners in improving their relationships, particularly close family ones. She aims to teach listeners how to stop seeking approval and feeling overly responsible for others' feelings whi...

Year-End Review and Reflections: Wisdom and Wins of 2023 Becky reflects on the triumphs and lessons of 2023. She recounts personal experiences ranging from getting her bachelor's degree and becoming a certified life coach, to family projects and real estate ventures. She discusses embracing the challenges and changes that come with shifting stages of life, specifically in menopause and body ac...

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In this episode, we discuss the importance of being honest with ourselves and how self-deception can manifest in various aspects of our lives. Through thought-provoking questions, we aim to bring awareness to these hidden patterns without the weight of self-judgment. Key Questions Explored: What am I pretending not to know, or what am I pretending to not know is true? What is the thing I keep avoi...