Random Thoughts by Jalani

We used to have TLC, SWV, Jagged Edge, Donell Jones, Mary J., etc all releasing music around the same time! Think about the artists we have now, do they even compare? Some people don't like the new r&b at all, but others prefer it, where do you stand? In this episode, we're going to discuss our favorite artists, our favorite songs, musical eras, comparisons, genres, who we think fell off and even...

Double standards are very difficult to get away from, especially at home. Why is the man expected to pay the bills? Why does the son get to date before the daughter? Why is molestation not viewed so harshly when a women does it to a man? Maybe some household double standards are acceptable, so we're going to let you know what we think. Tune in, share your opinions, and call out the double standard...

Why do we have so many double standards in society? It's justified when men cheat, but it's disgusting if a woman does it. It's stupid for a celebrity to take her man back, but it's okay when your friend does. It's funny when the popular kid jokes on someone, but no one laughs when the not-so-popular kid jokes back. On tonight's episode, we're going to discuss double standards, acknowledge times w...

As Black men and women, we sometimes feel self conscious about our hair in public places whether it's because of a style, color, the frizz of our natural, or just because we don't have the confidence to wear it proudly. Sometimes, we make our own people feel insecure about wearing their hair because of how society has influenced us. This episode is about loving our hair, wearing it proudly, and ho...

Tonight we're talking about protective styles: natural, bundles, braids, ponytails, a little of everything! We discuss what works for us, what doesn't, protective styles that aren't really protective, why we should love and take care of our hair and more! If you like talking about Black hair, this is the episode for you!

On tonight's episode of Random Thoughts, we're talking about colorism. We discuss the problematic totality of ranking people by shade, stereotypes that come with it, everyday sayings that encourage colorism, and much more! If you have ever experienced or witnessed colorism, this is the perfect episode for you!

In this episode of Random Thoughts, we discuss a topic that is so often avoided— racism. We talk about it's origin, how common it still is in today's time, the long-lasting impact its had on the Black community, how quickly Black people turn against each other and more. If you enjoy discussions about systemic oppression, Black unity, and unpopular opinions (mixed in with a few jokes), this is the...

In this episode of Random Thoughts, we're diving into girl group chats and the unspoken dynamics behind them. We discuss the roles everyone plays in the chat, how group chats evolve as life gets busier, what actually deserves a spot in the chat, and why these conversations are more than just endless notifications. Sit back, relax, and enjoy the real talk.

In this episode of Random Thoughts, we're breaking down the hilarious logic behind Girl Math. From the way we justify our purchases to the little calculations that somehow make perfect sense in our heads, we're discussing the habits, perspectives, and experiences that many women can relate to. 

In this episode of Random Thoughts, we have a girl-to-girl conversation about growing up, feeling misunderstood, and navigating womanhood. We discuss when a girl truly becomes a woman, important lessons many young girls aren't taught, and the importance of having the right role models. 

In this episode of Random Thoughts, we discuss the dynamics between single friends and friends in relationships. Do single friends influence relationships? Is it hard to maintain those friendships while dating? We talk about boundaries, advice, double standards between men and women, and the pros and challenges of keeping friendships balanced no matter your relationship status.

In this episode of Random Thoughts, we dive into new age dating—what it means today, what we love, and what we can't stand. Is chivalry dead? Is dating still fun? We talk about common issues in men and women, dating multiple people, and when it should stop… with some person stories of our own.

In this episode, we ask the big question: Is it toxic? From relationships and friendships to habits and behaviors, we unpack what really crosses the line. We share personal stories, challenge each other's opinions, and laugh through the gray areas of what's healthy versus what's just plain messy.

Birthdays can mean everything… or just another day. In this episode of Random Thoughts, we dive into the ups and downs of celebrating birthdays—why some people go all out while others keep it low-key, what makes a birthday feel special, birthday preferences, and how it feels when the people around you don't show up. From best and worst birthday stories to the little traditions we can't skip, we're...

We all have insecurities—but what do they really mean, and how do they shape the way we move through life? In this episode of Random Thoughts, we open up about our own personal insecurities, the difference between an insecurity and a preference, and the ways people hide (or reveal) them. From self-image to relationships, we unpack how insecurities affect us and the people around us.

COVID-19 changed everything—from how we lived day to day, to the way we see the world now. In this episode of Random Thoughts, we look back at life before quarantine, how things shifted during lockdown, and what's different in the years after. From what got harder to what surprisingly got better, we reflect on how the pandemic shaped us, our routines, and society as a whole.

Why do people cheat, and what really counts as cheating? In this episode of Random Thoughts, we break down the messy world of cheaters—sharing stories, exploring different perspectives, and examining how being on either side can change you. We admit to being a little biased, and maybe even hypocritical, as we discuss the times when cheating might be justified versus the times when there are absolu...

Family or friends—who really has your back? In this episode of Random Thoughts, we dive into the classic debate: is blood truly thicker than water? We share moments when friends felt more like family, and times when family ties outweighed friendships. From loyalty to love, and choosing sides when it counts, this conversation gets real, unfiltered, and a little personal.

Everyone has those little things that drive them crazy—whether it's something small like loud chewing or something deeper that really tests your patience. In this episode, we get real (and a little petty) about our biggest pet peeves, the things that instantly irritate us, and why they bother us so much. Some are funny, some are relatable, and some might surprise you. Tune in for laughs, eye-rolls...

We're taking a trip down memory lane — reminiscing, comparing, and laughing about the days before adulting took over. From the little things we loved to the big "what ifs" about how we'd do things now, this episode blends nostalgia, perspective, and a few friendly debates.

In this episode of Random Thoughts, we're diving into the big question: Is marriage still worth it? From growing up dreaming about it to now questioning if it even makes sense for our generation, we're unpacking our honest thoughts on love, commitment, and whether the benefits of marriage are real—or just romanticized.   We talk about what we've seen in real life vs. what we were taught to expect,...

In this episode of Random Thoughts, we're having a real conversation about turn offs—what immediately makes us lose interest, what we might do that turns others off, and how we respond once the vibe shifts. We're getting honest about pet peeves, dealbreakers, communication styles, and how quick (or slow) we are to cut someone off when the attraction fades. If you've ever gotten the ick or been lef...

In this episode of Random Thoughts, we're two women in our 20s (23 & 24) getting real about not having kids. We talk about the peace and freedom that comes with the child-free life, why we're not in a rush to become moms, and whether we even want kids at all. We unpack what would have to change for us to consider it, how society reacts to women who don't want children, and what we'd honestly rathe...

In this episode of Random Thoughts, we're unpacking what it really means to be a girl's girl—and asking ourselves if we fully fit that description. We talk through the confusion around the label, how different circumstances can change the desire to "do the right thing," and whether being a girl's girl means calling out bad behavior, staying loyal no matter what, or something in between. We also di...

In this episode of Random Thoughts, we're diving deep into what it really feels like to be heartbroken. From the shock, the sadness, and the overthinking to the way it still affects us today—we're sharing the raw, unfiltered truth about our own experiences. We talk about how heartbreak changed the way we love, trust, and move in relationships now. We also get into the music that got us through it,...