Ownit! Powercast

In this episode, we're continuing our holiday self-care series with one essential truth: real peace begins when we're honest about what we can actually handle. The holidays tend to pull us back into old roles and emotional patterns, leaving us overwhelmed, overextended, and disconnected from ourselves before we even realize it. Today, we explore why this happens, how to recognize the subtle moment...

This week, we're pulling a good one from the vault… Welcome to Episode 191 where we dig into how real self-care means following through on what we need to do to take care of ourselves.  In this episode we dive deeper into the idea that TRUE self-care is when we make it real.  When we follow through on both holding the line on our boundaries and taking responsibility for what we have promised ourse...

This week, we're looking at how our families shaped the way we think about boundaries and why holiday gatherings like Thanksgiving tend to reactivate old roles and survival strategies.  This episode explores how to show up differently this Thanksgiving — grounded, prepared, and centered — instead of slipping back into the versions of ourselves we've outgrown. You'll learn how to notice old trigger...

Boundaries aren't just about saying no - they're about finally seeing clearly. In this episode, I break down how boundary work forces us out of fantasy and into reality, and why this shift brings up grief, sadness, and confusion before it brings peace. We explore what detachment actually means (loving without carrying), why acceptance always asks us to grieve the illusions we've held onto, and how...

When you start communicating with boundaries, the tone of every relationship begins to change — sometimes in ways that surprise you. In this episode, Mary Baker breaks down what it really means to speak from emotional honesty and detachment, and why this combination completely shifts the emotional climate at home, at work, and in your friendships. You'll learn how calm, grounded communication buil...

Boundary work sounds empowering — and it is — but no one tells you how  strange it feels at first. When you begin honoring your limits, your nervous system doesn't throw a party; it throws a fit. In this episode, we unpack why your body equates "familiar" with "safe," even when familiar has meant people-pleasing, over-giving, or pretending you're fine. You'll learn why this discomfort doesn't mean...

Feeling stuck doesn't mean you're unmotivated — it usually means you don't feel safe enough to move. Fear, shame, and self-doubt can quietly trap us in loops of overthinking, avoidance, and perfectionism, especially when past experiences have taught our bodies that taking risks isn't safe. In this episode, Mary explores why fear often feels stronger than logic, how trauma trains us to freeze, and...

In this episode we talk about how Letting go of control, comfort, and old coping patterns isn't easy. Change asks us to  allow , to trust , and to let in — all things that can feel terrifying if we've spent years surviving by keeping walls up. In this episode, we talk about how to know when it's time to loosen control, why "fine" isn't the same as fulfilled, and what helps us feel safe enough to s...

In this episode we're talking about the truths we often avoid — the ones that feel too heavy, too risky, or too painful to face. These are the truths about ourselves, our relationships, and our lives that we push aside in the name of comfort, control, or keeping the peace. But avoiding them doesn't make them disappear. It only keeps us stuck in the very patterns that drain us. Together, we'll expl...

When you begin doing deeper work on yourself, the questions start coming:  Why do I feel guilty when I take care of myself? Why does setting boundaries suddenly feel so frustrating? Why do I feel like I can't tolerate certain people anymore? These moments can feel unsettling—but they're actually signs that you're waking up to yourself in new ways. In this episode, I invite you into a gentle reflec...

In this week's episode, I answer some of the most common questions I've heard as both a therapist and coach. From knowing when you're settling, to why we ignore red flags, to what to do when boundaries aren't respected, these struggles show up for almost everyone at some point in their relationships. Through plain-spoken answers and real-life examples, you'll learn what these dynamics look like in...

Sometimes what we call "helping" is actually about managing our own anxiety or steering someone else's choices. In this episode, we explore how love and care can get tangled with control—often without us realizing it. We'll look at how this shows up in long-term relationships, and how it can sneak in early with new partners or friends through behaviors that feel supportive on the surface but chip...

Not all unhealthy relationships announce themselves with yelling, cheating, or dramatic fights. Many of the most damaging ones chip away at us quietly—through subtle behaviors we often brush off or explain away. In this episode, Mary unpacks the small but powerful signs that can leave you feeling drained, doubting yourself, and unsure why something feels "off." You'll learn why it's so easy to mis...

Today's guest, Jimmy Warr-Mize, has a story that's anything but typical. From his early days as a self-described jack-of-all-trades to being featured in  Forbes , interviewing celebrities, and representing billion-dollar brands—he's done the big, shiny things. But what makes Jimmy's story powerful isn't just what he's accomplished. It's what he's learned along the way. I found his videos awhile ba...

This new month is all about being, being still, and having the bravery to be your authentic self.   Well, in order to do that, we HAVE to reconnect with our feelings and truly be able to sit with them, or we simply cannot truly be in touch with ourselves.   That's why I'm so excited to have Claire Garner on the show today, because that's just what she does! Claire is an Intuitive Emotional Healing...

In this episode, we explore how your nervous system, subconscious, and body are constantly scanning for emotional safety—even when your logical mind doesn't quite know why something feels off. You'll learn why your body might respond to subtle relational red flags long before your brain catches on, especially when someone seems kind, generous, or emotionally available on the surface. These intuiti...

EP297: Can I Trust Me to Show Up? In this episode, we take a close look at something we don't talk about enough: the quiet ways we drift from ourselves. We often pride ourselves on being reliable, supportive, and present for others—but what happens when we're not offering the same loyalty inward? This isn't about harsh self-criticism or impossible standards. It's about noticing the gap between wha...

In this episode, we explore what it means to be stuck in survival mode—mentally, emotionally, and physically—and how many of us are living from a place of fear, habit, and urgency without realizing it. Survival mode can look like over-functioning, people-pleasing, emotional shutdown, or just constantly pushing through. It's often the result of trauma, chronic stress, or a childhood where it wasn't...

In this episode, we're diving into what it really means to trust yourself—especially after years of self-doubt, people-pleasing, or putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own. Self-trust isn't about always having the answers or getting it right every time. It's about knowing that you'll show up for yourself, tell the truth about what you feel, and make choices that honor your inner knowing, e...

In this episode, we take a deeper look at the slow, often unnoticed ways we begin to disconnect from ourselves—especially when survival, acceptance, or love seemed to depend on it. Whether it started in childhood or in a past relationship, the moment you began second-guessing your gut or hiding your truth was likely a moment of self-protection. But over time, those small choices can add up to a li...

In this episode, I sit down with Derek Lakin, a mindfulness teacher and Awareness Guide whose journey from deep depression to emotional resilience is nothing short of powerful. Derek opens up about the moment he nearly ended his life, and how a last-minute suggestion from his therapist led him to try ketamine therapy. But what truly transformed his life wasn't just the treatment—it was the years o...

In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Christine Roslund—an experienced coach, therapist, and EMDR practitioner. We explore how Christine blends years of EMDR therapy with life coaching to help her clients clear deep blocks and reconnect with their true selves. Christine shares insights on what real healing can look like, why getting unstuck doesn't have to mean reliving old pain, and how she he...

In this episode, we explore how emotional avoidance and self-abandonment often disguise themselves as being "helpful," "productive," or "strong." Whether it's saying yes too quickly, fixing others' emotions, or numbing out with distractions, these patterns are not bad habits - they're survival strategies we picked up when it wasn't safe to feel or express ourselves. We look at where these behavior...

Today, we kick off the month's theme of  Reclaiming Inner Safety by unpacking why so many of us live in a constant state of disconnection. From racing thoughts and emotional numbing to people-pleasing and overfunctioning, we explore how early life experiences—like trauma, chronic stress, or invalidation—teach us that it's not safe to feel, need, or be fully present. These patterns of self-protecti...

If you've ever found yourself holding back in conversation, choosing your words carefully, scanning the other person's face, or thinking three steps ahead just to avoid conflict, you're not alone. Emotional honesty isn't something we magically access. It's something that grows in the presence of safety. In this episode, we're exploring how emotional safety impacts your ability to be authentic in r...