Now That You Ask

"The past, present, and future walk into a bar. It was tense." It's so interesting to me how a joke like this prompts me to think about how these three periods interact within my life. You just never know what will spark reflection I guess. Yet here I am pondering the significance and interconnection of past memories, future hopes, and the importance of living in the present moment. Through this e...

Do you ever ponder the fleeting nature of existence? I sure do. Throughout different stages of my life—from my thirties to my seventies—I grapple with the realization that time passes more quickly than expected, like a shadow approaching a sunset. For this reason, I like to focus on cultivating kindness and discernment in my choices. I also strive to connect deeply with people and leave a legacy o...

I am still struggling with lingering COVID symptoms and it is really taking an emotional toll on me. Feeling exhausted, in pain, and a bit depressed, I come across an inspiring quote by Maya Angelou that prompts a transformative shift from self-pity to a feeling of openness and gratitude. This episode explores how a simple message can uplift our spirits and reminds us to embrace the beauty and rad...

I admit I have an inclination towards whining about minor discomforts. Not only that, I tend to downplay serious issues. In this episode, I share about my experience with COVID-19, detailing the symptoms and frustrations of being sick and isolated. And yet despite the misery, I find small moments of relief and realization about my body's resilience. Listen in to hear how I cope with both physical...

The difference between hurried procrastination and trusting that things will be accomplished in good time is a matter of quieting the mind, trusting the process, and not allowing the overwhelming number of tasks there are in a day to induce anxiety. While it sounds simple enough, is not always an easy endeavor. We humans like to complicate things. But this new approach has shifted my perspective t...

This episode features two short pieces reflecting on the my adventurous life and evolving sense of beauty. Inspired by a childhood admiration for fearless characters like Nancy Drew and the free spirit of wild horses, I share experiences of traveling and exploring diverse cultures in the Middle East during the 70s and 80s. Despite not viewing myself as particularly brave, my willingness to embrace...

On this poignant Friday the 13th, I find myself consumed by a sense of melancholy. Despite years of therapy, the sadness resurfaces, prompting me to look back on past regrets and unfulfilled desires. Yet, amidst the heaviness, I recognize the countless blessings and dreams I have realized, offering immense satisfaction and fulfillment. I am learning to embrace and integrate melancholy, using it as...

In this episode, I share my journey of landing my first "real" job and navigating the challenges of working as a woman in the 1970s South. From a nerve-racking typewriter test to becoming a successful TV ad buyer for the Coca Cola account, I recount the obstacles I faced, including an awkward lunch meeting and a difficult medical emergency. With determination and resilience, I proved myself in a m...

Synchronicity led me to create a one woman show titled 'Made of Cotton.' From the initial suggestion in a writing class to meeting a director by chance, and ultimately performing on stage, I experienced the challenges, surprises, and joys of stepping out of my comfort zone. This transformative experience not only boosted my confidence but also helped me connect deeply with my writing and the audie...

I have a deep-rooted love for Alabama football, a tradition handed down from my daddy (who would have celebrated his 104th birthday today). Growing up in the South, Saturdays were marked by football gatherings, food, and camaraderie. Listen as I share fond memories of these gatherings, the joy and anguish of being an Alabama fan, and how this passion was rekindled in my 40s. Now, as a diehard fan,...

As in Rumi's words "Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray." I can attest that my strange pulls have lead me through various phases in life, each with their own unique joys and lessons. In this episode, I reflect on the shifts in my passions and how they have shaped my path towards comfort, spirituality, and fulfillment. Now That You...

The universe often throws unexpected changes our way, disrupting our plans and shaking our expectations. These moments have shaped my perspective on trust and adaptability and I've learned to view these disruptions as opportunities for growth and discovery. One of the bigger lessons I've learned is that we must let go of rigid expectations and remain open to the new possibilities that come our way...

Like many people of the world, I recently watched a bit of the Olympics and found myself somewhat awestruck. After seeing those inspiring athletes and, believe it nor not, as a result of my own experience working with a trainer at the gym, I am reminded of the significance of perseverance and recalibration in achieving fitness goals. There is great value of self-belief, adapting to challenges, and...

It is not uncommon in life to have mixed emotions brought by unexpected events both joyful and sorrowful. While I realize change is inevitable, I also know that embracing our feelings and finding strength and gratitude in the face of impermanence is a crucial part of being alive. Now That You Ask is a podcast that looks at topics that range from death to desire, and from wondrous to downright whac...

Finding and sharing our unique gifts freely, for the pure joy it, is one of the best things in life. In this episode, I reflect the importance of what we scatter in life. From cooking for friends to surprising a stranger with an unexpected gift, these acts have brought immense joy to both others and myself. Now That You Ask is a podcast that looks at topics that range from death to desire, and fro...

I like to explore various interpretations of light, from the physical illumination of morning and evening to the metaphorical guidance it provides in my life. And if you're open to it, I highly encourage you also embrace the universe's light in all its forms as a source of fun, fulfillment, and personal growth. Now That You Ask is a podcast that looks at topics that range from death to desire, and...

I have a deep connection with a specific oak tree near my home. Despite its inaccessibility across a creek, I regularly visit this stately tree, which offers me comfort and solace. This tree, standing tall through the years, has become a touchstone of peace and strength in my life, offering a unique and intimate form of reassurance. Now That You Ask is a podcast that looks at topics that range fro...

I love a good quote. Quotes provide me with wisdom and humor for navigating life. In this episode, I share a few of my favorite quotes and reflections on the importance of manners, uniqueness, and the balance between desire and practicality. What is your favorite quote? Now That You Ask is a podcast that looks at topics that range from death to desire, and from wondrous to downright whacky. Join h...

Food is one way I stay anchored to my sense of home, despite living in California. A recent visit to a barbecue restaurant rekindled memories of authentic Southern fish and hush puppies, and invoked nostalgia for the tastes of my childhood. From the unique flavor of fried catfish to the treasured tradition of homemade dishes during winter holidays, the rich and comforting food heritage of the Sout...

I am struggling with getting older. Perhaps you can relate? These days physical limitations along with an erosion of patience have really impacted my daily life and my ability to enjoy activities. Travel has become a challenge, and finding comfort has shifted from exploring new places to staying home. Lately, I find comfort in the stability and peace of home. I think maybe it’s what I sought all a...

Maintaining a sense of humor and a positive outlook can help alleviate anxiety over everyday forgetfulness and mishaps, especially as we age. From misplacing objects to embracing overcooked food, I share how finding the silver lining in life's little challenges keeps my spirits up and contributes to a more fulfilling life. Now That You Ask is a podcast that looks at topics that range from death to...

I recently visited Homeboy Industries, the world's largest gang rehabilitation and reentry program. It was a deeply impactful experience journeying through their facilities in downtown Los Angeles and seeing firsthand the remarkable transformations and supportive atmosphere cultivated by Father Gregory Boyle. From the exceptional service at Homegirl Cafe to the heartwarming stories of resilience a...

Keeping up with technology is a challenge, isn't it? Just when I think I am understanding the world of tech (and my iPhone), I'm blindsided by something new like artificial intelligence. I will get to the bottom of A.I. eventually but for now it has me stumped. Listen in as I reflect on the rapid pace of technological change and the importance of staying connected in the modern world. Now That You...

Highfalutin words have the uncanny ability to draw us in. They can serve both to educate and occasionally to obfuscate. My love for reading and sophisticated phrasing takes me through historical romances and even into the realms of vampire fiction when history becomes too bleak. Listen in as I muse on my fascination with words and the impact vocabulary has on personal enrichment. Now That You Ask...

Life has recently showered me with unexpected beauty and grace, with experiences that felt like pure gifts from the universe. From meaningful conversations with loved ones to spontaneous moments of connection and memory, each event has deepened my gratitude and love for the world around me. These beautiful occurrences have reminded me to savor each moment and to hold onto the wonder and kindness t...