Notes to Her

If you constantly feel responsible for other people’s emotions… this episode is for you. In today’s pep talk, Yaya is calling all the people pleasers to the front of the room for an honest conversation about why people pleasing isn’t kindness — it’s fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of conflict. Fear of being misunderstood. At some point, your nervous system learned that keeping everyone happy meant s...

Perfectionism sounds responsible. It sounds like discipline. It sounds like high standards. But what if perfectionism isn’t about excellence at all? What if it’s protection? In this episode of Notes to Her , Yaya breaks down how perfectionism quietly keeps ambitious women stuck, not because they lack ability, but because they’re trying to eliminate the risk of judgment before they allow themselves...

Have you ever caught yourself shrinking in a room where you belong? Lowering your voice in meetings. Holding back your opinion in relationships. Hovering over the “post” button and then closing the app. In this episode, Yaya breaks down one of the most common patterns ambitious women struggle with: shrinking in moments where visibility matters. Not because you’re incapable. But because at some poi...

You’re not confused. You’re hesitating. In this episode, Yaya calls out the pattern so many ambitious women live in, waiting to feel ready before they make the move they already know they need to make. Whether it’s a relationship you’ve outgrown, a role you’ve been scared to pursue, a boundary you’ve been avoiding, or a life decision you keep pushing off, this note is your interruption. Waiting fe...

Have you ever felt like you’re behind in life? Behind in your career. Behind in love. Behind in confidence. Behind in healing. In this episode, Yaya reframes what “behind” really means and why most of the time, it’s not about timing at all. It’s about hesitation. Inside this note, you’ll learn: Why feeling behind is perception, not reality How comparison distorts your pace The sneaky ways hesitati...

You’ve grown. But instead of feeling proud… you feel embarrassed. In this powerful closing episode of the self-love series, Yaya walks you through how to stop punishing your past self for choices she made without the awareness you have now. If you’ve ever said: “I should’ve known better.” “I can’t believe I stayed.” “That wasn’t me.” This episode will help you release shame, resentment, and self-j...

If it costs your peace, it’s too expensive. In this episode, we talk about why boundaries aren’t walls, they’re protection. Yaya breaks down why boundaries are one of the clearest forms of self-love and why so many women feel guilty setting them. If you’ve been overextending, over-explaining, or tolerating things that quietly drain you, this episode will help you reconnect with your limits and you...

If your inner voice sounds more like a bully than a best friend, this episode is for you. In this powerful and honest note, Yaya calls out harsh self-talk for what it really is: self-hatred. From internalized parental criticism to the pressure of perfectionism, this episode explores where that voice comes from and how it quietly destroys your confidence. Being hard on yourself isn’t discipline. Co...

Overthinking isn’t your personality; it’s protection. In this episode, Yaya breaks down what self-trust actually looks like, why so many women lose it, and how to rebuild it without forcing confidence. If you’ve been second-guessing yourself, asking everyone else what to do, or ignoring your intuition because it feels inconvenient, this note is for you. Self-trust isn’t about always being right. I...

Some beliefs don’t show up loudly. They sit quietly in the background and shape how you see yourself. In this episode, Yaya gently unravels one of the most painful stories so many women carry: the belief that they were never enough. This note isn’t about fixing yourself or becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you’ve always been beneath the pressure, the comparison, and the expectations...

Choosing yourself doesn’t make you selfish; it makes you honest. In this episode, Yaya breaks down one of the most deeply ingrained myths women carry: that prioritizing themselves means neglecting others. From generational conditioning to the pressure of wearing every role perfectly, this note unpacks why self-love often comes with guilt and why that guilt doesn’t mean you’re wrong. This episode i...

Confidence doesn’t start with doing more; it starts with being honest with yourself. In this episode, Yaya breaks down why self-awareness is the foundation of confidence, clarity, and self-trust. If you’ve been feeling disconnected, stuck, or constantly second-guessing your decisions, this note is a reminder to slow down, check in, and come back to yourself. Self-awareness helps you notice what’s...

Peace shouldn’t come at the cost of your truth. In this episode of Notes to Her , Yaya dives into the confidence-draining habit so many women carry, silencing themselves to avoid conflict, keep the peace, and stay “likable.” But real peace requires honesty. In this episode: What self-betrayal sounds like in everyday moments A powerful coaching story that might feel way too familiar 5 reasons women...

You can love yourself and still stay too long. In this episode of Notes to Her , Yaya delivers a bold but necessary reminder: self-love sometimes looks like walking away , from jobs, relationships, and habits that keep you playing small. If you’ve been feeling the quiet nudge to leave something behind, this note is for you. Inside this episode: The real reason we stay in places we’ve outgrown A cl...

Learning how to enjoy your own company is one of the most overlooked forms of self-love. In this episode of Notes to Her: The Daily Pep Talk , Yaya explores why being alone feels uncomfortable for so many women, how loneliness is different from solitude, and why your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship in your life. If you’ve ever stayed busy to avoid your thought...

Self-love is not something you announce. It is something you practice. In this episode, Yaya discusses the quiet, everyday habits that reveal how you truly treat yourself, even when you claim to be “working on self-love.” If you have ever felt burnt out, overwhelmed, or disconnected from yourself while still telling everyone you are fine, this note will help you pause, reflect, and reconnect. Insi...

In this episode, we’re talking about: What it really means to like yourself and how a shaky relationship with yourself impacts your confidence, boundaries, relationships, and peace. If you’ve ever felt burnt out from overgiving, stuck in self-criticism, or caught in patterns that don’t serve you, this episode will resonate deeply. Inside this note, you’ll hear: Signs you may not actually like your...

You can be successful, accomplished, and ambitious and still struggle in love. In this episode of Notes to Her , Yaya explores the disconnect many women experience between professional confidence and emotional self-worth. If you’ve ever felt like you know what you deserve but keep accepting less, this note will help you reconnect with yourself and reset your standards without guilt or shame. Insid...

Getting older isn’t about numbers. It’s about clarity. In this episode, Yaya reflects on what aging has taught her about boundaries, peace, confidence, and self-trust as she approaches another birthday. If you’re in a season where you’re questioning what you tolerate, who you allow access to you, and how much more you’re willing to give without receiving, this note is for you. Inside this episode,...

Sunday nights have a way of stirring up anxiety, pressure, and overthinking, especially after a weekend that finally gave you space to breathe. In this episode,, we slow everything down and talk about why Sunday Scaries hit so hard, how carrying too much emotional weight before the week even starts chips away at your confidence, and why protecting one boundary can change how you walk into Monday....

As my birthday approaches, I always take time to reflect. Not just on what I’ve accomplished, but on who I’ve become and who I’m still becoming. In this episode of Notes to Her: The Daily Pep Talk , I’m sharing the lessons that shaped me over 45 years of living, growing, healing, and choosing myself again and again. This note is about evolution, self-trust, and giving yourself permission to grow i...

Comparison has a way of making confident women forget who they are. In this episode of Notes to Her , Yaya breaks down how constantly measuring yourself against other women slowly erodes your self-trust and keeps you stuck in self-doubt. If you’ve been feeling behind, second-guessing your decisions, or questioning your pace, this note will help you reconnect with your inner voice and rebuild trust...

Sunday nights have a way of making you question everything. Your progress. Your timeline. Your confidence. Your pace. In this episode, we’re slowing things all the way down and addressing the comparison spiral that creeps in when the weekend ends and the pressure to “catch up” starts getting loud. If you’ve ever scrolled on a Sunday night and suddenly felt behind, late, or like you’re doing life w...

Fear doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re standing at the edge of something that matters. In this episode, we’re talking about the kind of fear that shows up right before growth, visibility, and expansion. The fear that makes you hesitate, second-guess yourself, or consider quitting right when you’re getting close. Yaya shares a real client story about Rachel, a woman who had a business sh...

Before women quit, they rarely make an announcement. They don’t storm out. They quietly pull back. In this episode of Notes to Her: The Daily Pep Talk, we’re talking about that moment. The moment when you feel tired, discouraged, and exposed, and start wondering if it would be easier to stop trying. If you’ve been questioning your dreams, your visibility, or your effort lately, this note is for yo...