Mostly Dating

Welcome back! Today I’m sharing the behind-the-scenes details of how my recently announced book deal came to be (!!), and then diving into rapid-fire questions. We talk about ghosting, planning vague dates, timelines for saying “I love you,” and more. Read my Substack ⁠⁠⁠How To Find Out If Your Values Are Aligned Before You're Too Invested⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Welcome back! We’re kicking things off today by going through my list of six dating non-negotiables I keep seeing people negotiate. Next, we get into a question from a listener who is frustrated by her boyfriend’s chaotic, rushed energy in the mornings, followed by a listener whose boyfriend is sending secret Instagram messages to his ex. Read my Substack ⁠⁠How To Find Out If Your Values Are Align...

Welcome back! Today we're getting into listener questions about friendship dynamics when one of you gets into a relationship, navigating asking for a +1 to someone's wedding, advice for your first family vacation with your significant other's family, what to do when you feel like you slept with someone too soon, how to keep long-term relationships exciting, and more. Read my Substack ⁠...

Welcome back! Today we're diving deep into two listener questions: one from a woman who is freshly out of a 1.5 year situationship and wondering if she can still be friends with his friends. This takes us down a rabbit hole about situationships in general (why they're so hard to get over and how to actually move on). Next, we talk about navigating a relationship where you have very differe...

Welcome back! Today we’re getting into some listener questions about how male/female friendships evolve when one of you is in a relationship, what to do when your relationship is starting to feel stale and your partner isn’t planning any fun dates, saying thank you in a relationship, and if it’s possible to be “too independent” for someone to want a relationship with you. We wrap up by talking abo...

Welcome back! Today we're throwing it back to our first episode ever with one of our most-requested guests: ⁠Christine Lang⁠ , soul channel, intuitive, and energy healer. We're chatting all about common fears and blocks that are stopping us from finding our ideal partner, and Christine even made an ⁠ exclusive free guided meditation ⁠ for all listeners to uncover—and overcome—their own fea...

Welcome back! Today we're joined by Dr. Amir Levine , Psychiatrist, Clinician and expert on Attachment Theory. We dive deep into the different attachment styles and, most importantly, how *anyone* can become more secure. He guides us through how to identify whether someone has a secure attachment as early as your first date (or before that), plus what to do if you're dating someone who is...

Welcome back! Today we're answering listener emails and rapid fire listener questions. We chat about how to know when you're ready to date after a breakup, what to do when your partner is too easy going, how to bring up next steps in a relationship, and more. Read my substack with ⁠⁠tips to avoid future tripping in a new relationship⁠⁠ . ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Welcome back! Today we're answering four listener emails: A woman who is struggling to maintain her wellness-minded lifestyle while in a relationship A crossroads in the talking stage: to bring up DTR or not to bring up DTR? How to stop spiraling when your ex is becoming all the things you wanted him to be, with someone else. Should you judge your partner by the way their exes describe them? R...

Welcome back! Today we’re answering listener questions: How to make a date feel less like a job interview Can you date your best friend’s friend’s ex? What to do when your friends and family like your boyfriend more than you do Is it a bad time if you miss being single when you’re in a long-term relationship? Read my substack with tips to avoid future tripping in a new relationship . ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ As alw...

Welcome back! Today we're joined by 21-year-old singer-songwriter Laila Mach to talk about her journey from American Idol at 15 to signing her first major record deal at 18. We also get into the real stories behind her music, writing songs about exes, situationships, ghosting, getting cheated on, whether friends-to-lovers relationships actually work, and why some of her most popular songs came...

Welcome back! Today we're answering three listener emails: A messy boyfriend who she's nervous to live with A 31-year-old man who's parents pay his rent Can a relationship work if your friend groups are in different life stages? A woman who simply hates dating but wants a relationship Read my latest Substack: ⁠37 Things I've Learned in 37 Years⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ As always, find me on Instagr...

Welcome back! Today we’re joined by Nikki Novo, intuitive, podcast host, and author. We discuss how Nikki uses her intuitive gifts to help guide clients into their soul’s path. She shares how a breakup led her to study intuition after negative psychic experiences, eventually leaving an established career in fashion and beauty editorial to pursue this path. We discuss: the difference between intuit...

Welcome back! Today we're answering three listener emails: A boyfriend who doesn't ask followup questions. A guy who gets jealous of the bartender. A woman who doesn't like when her new date corrects her in front of her friends. Read my latest Substack: 37 Things I've Learned in 37 Years ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Welcome back! Today we're chatting about early signs you're dating the right person, whether it's okay to date multiple people in early dating, what to do when work is getting in the way of dating, one night stands turning into relationships, and more. We wrap up with a listener question about finding out her fiance was dating someone else early on in their relationship. Episode intro...

Welcome back! Today's episode kicks off with an update on my recent move, and then around 10 minutes in we get into results from last week's poll about micro-cheating. Next, we hear an update on a question from last week and then answer new listener questions about someone ending things with you before you even go on a date, how to manage running into an ex, how long to wait until you invi...

Welcome back! Today we're diving into the results from my recent Instagram poll about common reasons people end a relationship or stop going on dates with someone. Next, we answer listener questions about how to stop yourself from "future tripping" and why planning your future with someone too soon can actually have a negative impact on the relationship, how soon is too soon to sext,...

Welcome back! Today we're answering listener questions about a boyfriend who makes weird comments about a listener's spending habits, another boyfriend who refuses to use words of affirmation, a long-distance pen pal situation, dating after divorce, and what to do when your partner speaks for you in social settings. Read my most recent Substacks:  ⁠⁠⁠How To Find Out Fast If Your Values Are...

Welcome back! Today we're throwing it back to one of our most popular episodes and topics: defining the relationship 101 what we talk about: ⁠Things to do before defining the relationship⁠ ⁠Things you should know before defining the relationship⁠ ⁠Signs it's time to define the relationship⁠ How to DTR⁠ How to get comfortable talking about sex with your partner & more! Plus, we end with...

Welcome back! Today we're answering rapid fire questions about the spark vs. a slow burn, how to move forward after your first argument in a new relationship, dynamics for relationships where the woman earns more than the man, conversations to have at the start of a long distance relationship, and what to do when you're dating multiple people and can't decide between them. Read my most...

Welcome back! Today Carleigh's answering four listener questions: a six-month dating situation where a man repeatedly changes plans last-minute a woman bothered by her boyfriend praising her as “low maintenance" a new girlfriend who edits herself and avoids disagreement a three-month dater whose partner inserts himself into her plans Read my most recent Substacks:  How To Find Out Fast If...

Welcome back! Today we're diving deep into how to have better conversations on dates. We chat about the difference between asking questions and starting conversations, with 5 tangible tips for how to have conversations that will strengthen your connection and improve your chances of having another date. We close with a few listener questions on saying I love you, what to do when you feel like...

Welcome back! Today we're joined by Colette Jane Fehr, a licensed couples therapist, nationally recognized relationship expert, and author of the  #1 Amazon bestseller  ⁠The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love⁠ . We chat about: ​How Colette "quiet quit" her marriage ​Dating after divorce ​Dating as a single parent ​Conversations that could save your r...

Welcome back! Today we hear a much-awaited update from a listener who is dating her ex-friend’s brother and hasn’t told the sister yet. Next, we hear from another listener who is dating a guy who doesn’t want to be exclusive until he gets back from a solo trip he’s been planning, and a woman who matched with a guy on Bumble who I’m pretty sure was married. Read my most recent Substacks:  ⁠Signs Yo...

Welcome back! Today we're chatting about signs you're ready to date again after a breakup, what to do when your partner is suddenly obsessed with fitness, whether it's a red flag if you can't picture your wedding day with someone, and how to handle your partner's family being too involved. Read my most recent Substacks: Signs You're Ready To Date Again After A Breakup Exact...