Mom Parent ADHD

Advocating for Your Child With ADHD: Still Second-Guessing Yourself? After a school meeting, you keep wondering whether you said the wrong thing. Learn how to recognize what needs clarification, correction, or follow-up, and what doesn’t require an apology. Mom Parent ADHD Podcast The Prepared Advocate Series | Season 2, Episode 13 Hosted by Lola M. Swaby, Esq. You finally asked the question. Now...

ADHD School Support: Do I Have to Wait for the Grades to Drop? A conversation for moms after an IEP or 504 denial about explaining the reminders, missed steps, and help behind good grades. Season 2, Episode 12 | The Prepared Advocate Series “ If I stopped checking, would the school finally understand? ” You’re proud of your child’s grades. You also know how many reminders, reopened assignments, an...

Title: Is Your Child With ADHD Afraid of Disappointing You? Subtitle : How to help your child talk about hard days when they’re worried about letting you down. Season 2, Episode 11 | The Prepared Advocate Series “ Will you still be proud of me if tomorrow isn’t a good day? ” You wanted your child to enjoy hearing that things were going better. You hadn’t considered that they might also be worried...

Season 2, Episode 10: I’m Not Making Excuses for My Child With ADHD Subtitle: How to explain your child’s behavior without excusing it... and speak up when something important still needs to be understood. Have you ever started explaining something about your child to a teacher and suddenly heard yourself say, “I’m not making excuses…” before anyone had even accused you of making one? That single...

Why “I Need to Think About That” Can Feel So Hard to Say ADHD parent advocacy, decision pressure, and why moms may need more time before answering in school, therapy, or support conversations Season 2, Episode 9 | The Prepared Advocate Series   A meeting is almost over. A recommendation has been made, everyone seems ready for the next step, and then somebody turns to Mom and asks, “Are you comfort...

Advocating for Your Child With ADHD Without Always Speaking for Them How to know when to step in, when to wait, and how to make room for your child’s own words There’s a moment many moms know well. Someone asks your child a question at school, in a meeting, during an appointment, or in another important conversation. You already know your child may freeze. You know the answer may come out as “ fin...

ADHD School Behavior: What Happened Before the Refusal? When the same school problem keeps happening, look at what your child was still able to do before the moment changed. A school behavior message can be completely true and still start the story too late. When you read, “He refused the worksheet,” it can sound like the whole event has already been explained. But when the same concern keeps comi...

Season 2, Episode 6 When You Don’t Know Yet: ADHD, School, and the Pressure to Have Answers Why uncertainty can feel so uncomfortable when it is your child, and how to stay curious without forcing yourself to know too soon. Your child makes one comment after school and suddenly your mind is several steps ahead. Was something wrong today? Is this the beginning of a bigger problem? Should you contac...

There is a particular kind of pressure that can show up when your child is about to work with a new teacher. You want to share the things that will help. You remember the misunderstandings that happened before. Then somewhere in the middle of preparing, you may find yourself trying to explain enough to make sure nobody reaches the wrong conclusion about your child this time. In this episode of the...

You may enter a school meeting, phone call, or appointment determined to be calm and cooperative. Then, without realizing it, you begin paying more attention to how you are being perceived than to the concern that brought you there. In this episode of The Prepared Advocate Series, we are talking about how the desire to be seen as reasonable and easy to work with can quietly move a mother away from...

When ADHD Does Not Look Innocent on a Black Child Before a Black child is called defiant, disruptive, lazy, or disrespectful, we need to ask what the adults around that child may be missing. I once made an unannounced visit to my son’s first-grade classroom and found him sitting alone in a corner. The rest of the class was receiving instruction. He had no work in front of him, and no one appeared...

You walk into a school meeting, doctor’s appointment, or conversation with a specialist knowing there is something important you need to say. Then the questions begin. Someone is taking notes. The clock is moving. You start explaining what happened last week, remember something from the month before, and suddenly the heart of your concern is buried beneath all the details. In this episode of the M...

You Don’t Have To Be An ADHD Expert To Advocate For Your Child Why Your Everyday Knowledge Matters In Conversations With Schools, Doctors, Therapists, And Specialists When a school meeting, doctor’s appointment, or specialist conversation is placed on the calendar, it is easy to feel as though you have homework to do before you are allowed to speak. You may start searching unfamiliar terms late at...

How Constant Correction Can Affect Your ADHD Child’s Heart What Repeated Reminders May Teach Your Child About Mistakes, Disappointment, And Your Relationship Your child may ask, “Are you mad at me?” before you have corrected them at all. They may already be reading your face, your tone, or the pause that usually comes before another reminder. For a child with ADHD, repeated correction can begin to...

When You Love Your Child But Do Not Like The Hard Hours The shame ADHD moms carry when exhaustion starts to feel like resentment There are parts of motherhood we rarely admit out loud. You can love your child deeply and still have afternoons when you do not enjoy being around them. You can understand why your child with ADHD is struggling and still feel hurt, irritated, resentful, or relieved when...

ADHD Screen Time: Why It Feels Different in Our Homes Screen limits, difficult transitions, and helping kids with ADHD stop without turning every evening into a battle Screen time can feel surprisingly complicated when you are raising a child with ADHD. It may help your child settle after a demanding school day. It may give you enough quiet to make dinner, help another child, answer a message, or...

Why Some ADHD Kids Take Every Little Thing So Deeply When small moments feel huge, your child may be reacting to the meaning they attached to the moment... not just the moment itself. Some moments feel so small from where we are standing. A quick correction. A tired look. A friend who goes quiet. A simple reminder about homework. But for some of our children, those moments land somewhere much deep...

In this episode of the Mom Parent ADHD Podcast , we are talking about what happens when your child’s behavior is real, but it is not the whole story. As moms raising children with ADHD, we often hear quick explanations about our children’s behavior. They need to listen. They know better. They need to try harder. They need firmer discipline. But many moms know there is often more happening undernea...

Podcast Show Notes Episode Summary Some days in ADHD parenting do not just feel hard. They feel like survival mode. In this episode of Mom Parent ADHD Podcast , Lola speaks directly to the mom raising a child with ADHD who is tired of meltdowns, chaos, guilt, school concerns, broken routines, and the constant feeling that she can never catch up. This episode also shares the heart behind From Chaos...

Show Notes Season 1, Episode 6 When ADHD School Mornings Leave Moms Drained: What the morning rush quietly does to your body, your confidence, and your heart In this episode of the Mom Parent ADHD Podcast , Lola talks about the emotional toll that ADHD school mornings can take on moms... especially after the rushing, reminders, tension, and hard drop-offs are technically over, but still sitting he...

It's Not Just Shoes: What's Really Happening When Your ADHD Child Gets Stuck On The Simple Things Have you ever asked your child to do something simple... put on shoes, brush teeth, open the homework folder, get in the car... and suddenly the whole moment falls apart? You know they know how to do it. You know they did it yesterday. You know it should only take a minute. But there they are, frozen,...

When Bedtime Becomes the Breaking Point: A gentle ADHD bedtime reset for moms after a hard night Episode Description Bedtime in an ADHD home can feel like the emotional breaking point of the day. In this episode of Mom Parent ADHD , Lola talks about the part many moms carry quietly after bedtime – the guilt, the regret, the exhaustion, and the feeling that they should have handled it better. This...

Have you ever watched your child with ADHD fall apart over something that seemed so small? The wrong cup. The wrong socks. The broken granola bar. The shirt that suddenly feels unbearable. The simple direction that somehow turns into a full meltdown. And there you are, standing in the kitchen, hallway, car, or bedroom, wondering: How did we get here again? In this episode of Mom Parent ADHD , we a...

New ADHD Diagnosis: Mom, You're Going to Be Okay When your child is diagnosed with ADHD, the emotions can come all at once. Relief. Fear. Validation. Grief. Questions. Even when you suspected it for a while, and even when you were the one pushing for answers, hearing those letters out loud can still land hard. This episode explores that emotional moment and reframes an ADHD diagnosis not as a limi...

Have you ever looked at another family and wondered why everything seems so much easier for them? In this episode of Mom Parent ADHD , we talk about the hidden grief that can come with parenting a child with ADHD, especially when your motherhood journey feels louder, heavier, and more unpredictable than you expected. This is a conversation about comparison, emotional exhaustion, and the invisible...