Men on Target

Most unhealthy behaviors begin as a fun/recreational activity that displaces other priorities in our life. These behaviors are known as "process addiction." Men who monitor behavior and have guard rails to hold them accountable for healthy behavior are effective at avoiding addiction. In this episode, Miles and Redlight discuss practical steps to addressing the following questions: What...

Controlling substance use is critical if you strive towards improvement and pursue a greater good. If you have a severe problem with a substance, don't hesitate to contact a professional. Because most men use a substance, let's investigate how we can maintain control to avoid the substance controlling us. In this episode, Miles and Redlight discuss practical steps to addressing the followi...

When you feel overwhelmed and frustrated, how do you deal with it? Does your decision improve the situation or create additional problems? Sometimes, men use substances to relieve stress and challenges, which can create additional problems. In this episode Miles and Redlight introduce a series of the use of substances to self-medicate or escape from our challenges. This can create bad habits that...

Prayer is the daily discipline of communicating with your creator to strengthen your faith. This is essential to a virtuous leader's quest for truth and guidance. In this episode, Miles and Possum discuss why virtuous leaders have faith, how prayer provides answers, and how prayer is the antidote to worry.

In F3 we are not just a workout group, we are a leadership development group. One of the key areas that we believe are essential to life as a virtuous high-impact man is to continually grow and challenge our faith. The public manifestation of our faith is what happens in meetings. Faith is best understood, practiced, and refined through meeting of others that share a belief system. In this episode...

Influential leaders aren't just effective they are virtuous. By being virtuous, leaders answer to a higher divine power. This divine power is external to humanity and must be understood to pursue virtue effectively. Would you happen to know what your belief system is? Do you invest time in studying or the daily exploration of the foundations of faith? In this episode Miles, Redlight, and speci...

A man that is accelerating has many relationships that are concentrically prioritized. One of those relationships is the vertical relationship with a mentor that we call a "Whetstone" in F3. There are many barriers for men to pursue and accept the role of a Whetstone, but one thing is for sure, that is, all men need one. In this episode Miles and Redlight, with special guest Possum discu...

A man and his shorties are the one relationship that can't be broken. While many aspects of raising children apply to both sons and daughters, there are unique aspects that dads should be aware of when raising girls to be strong and confident women. In this episode, Miles and Redlight, with special guest Pyro, discuss how to be a great dad to a daughter. Many influencers are seeking your daugh...

A man and his shorties are the one relationship that cannot be broken. Have you considered the difference between boys and girls? HIM Whetstone their own sons to navigate the challenges in life. When it comes to raising boys into men how does our past impact the way we parent? How does the growth model (bonding, boundaries, good/bad, and responsibility) relate to raising boys? In this episode, Mil...

A Man and his children is the one relationship that cannot be broken. The father-and-child relationship still exists regardless of how far the Man moves away. The most successful HIM-Shorty relationships are when the Man sacrifices everything, accepts the significance of his role, and how commitment leads to freedom for his shorties. In this episode Miles and Redlight discuss the sacrificial relat...

There are four research-based challenges that, if go unchecked, could devastate a relationship between a man and his wife. James and Julie Gottman wrote a book called "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work," which was based on research from the "Love Lab" located at the University of Washington. One of the essential components in that book was for marriages to be aware...

In F3 the “M” is what we refer to as the most important relationship for a Man. The most important relationship for a Man is between him and his wife. This podcast is designed for small groups of men, called “shieldlocks,” to practice, challenge, and set goals to improve the “M” relationship. Even men that are not married will find value in this conversation. Don’t wait until you are married to be...

The Kingdom is the place for our spirits to live. The King, Queen, and Jester all occupy the kingdom and it is our job to put in daily disciplines to control all three. In this episode, Miles and Redlight will discuss some of the most common and challenging Jesters that result when we are not aiming at the correct targets. These jesters result when we do not hit the virtuous targets: Empathy, Puri...

The daily discipline of what you put into your body is a critical part of the Kingdom that houses our souls.  Have you taken a moment to analyze your relationship with food, drinks, and controlled substances? In this podcast Miles and Redlight along with special guest Shrink breakdown how shieldlocks can accelerate like a pro with the Queen.  Special guest Shrink has had an amazing succe...

The daily discipline of your body is a critical part of the Kingdom that houses our soul. Have you considered if your relationship with yourself is in a healthy space? In this podcast Miles and Redlight along with special guest Ponch, the Nantan of Gold Rush, breakdown how shieldlocks can accelerate like a pro with the King. 

Redlight and Miles continue their series for shieldlocks to be successful with growing deeper.   What should men be responsible for? 

Miles and Redlight continue their series on discussing the Growth Model.   Connection - Part 1 Boundaries - Part 2 Integrating the good and the bad - Part 3  Responsibility - Part 4 Most people are open to the good in their lives.  However, many struggles with admitting our capacity to do bad things.  If you don't realize that our capacity to do bad equals our capacity to do go...

While connection and bonding are important, as we develop it is essential to begin to identify where you end and where someone else begins.  A healthy dependence partnered with a healthy understanding of independence is critical in a model where we grow effectively.  In this episode, Miles and Redlight discuss that every relationship has boundaries, and we love one another when we identi...

Growth Model:  Bonding (Connection), Boundaries, Integrating the Good & Bad, Responsibility "We are men, we don't need connection." Some believe this statement.  The choice is connection or isolation.  Are you aware of how connecting with others affected/affects (past & present) you as a human?  Miles and Redlight will discuss the research behind connection and the need...

Utilizing the research from Townsend and Cloud:  How do we grow and develop as individuals? We are not in control of the early part of our lives, and sometimes, circumstances and situations present challenges for us in adulthood.  How do we engage our community so we can begin to repair and heal the gaps in development?  In this episode, Miles and Redlight discuss a model or framewo...

We accomplish things every day.  Are you successful at achieving your goals?  Most individuals struggle to accomplish short-term and long-term goals as evidenced by New Year's Resolutions.  We don't have a goal-setting problem, we have a goal achievement problem.  Shieldlocks can help overcome some of the top reasons why individuals are unsuccessful with achieving their goals....

Each person comes to a situation having experienced things that have shaped him into the man he is today.  One of the first meetings you should do in a group is to help catch everyone up on your life story.  Miles and Redlight talk about a purpose, structure, and framework to tell your story so that it helps to paint a picture of who you are to a group of other men so they can understand...

So you have decided to join a shieldlock.  Redlight and Miles will discuss how to join a shieldlock.  While many regions may differ with the process, some general guidelines can help you be successful.  Have you thought about the purpose of a shieldlock?  Before listening to this podcast, it might be a good idea to read what Q-Source has to say.  How do you go about asking...

Most of us have been part of successful groups and others that have not been desirable.  Miles and RedLight share practical and research-based strategies for shieldlocks to use to avoid gridlock in their shieldlocks.  There are things that you should do and there are also things that you should not do to have the best chance at growing deep with your shieldlock.  In Part 2 we will f...

Most of us have been part of successful groups and others that have not been desirable.  Miles and RedLight share practical and research-based strategies for shieldlocks to use to avoid gridlock in their shieldlocks.  There are things that you should do and there are also things that you should not do to have the best chance at growing deep with your shieldlock.  In Part 1 we will f...